He won't answer or return my calls, and he ignores me on everything. what should i do?
2006-09-25 07:09:24 · 16 answers · asked by confused_1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Although it feels like a rollercoaster now, life with your father will calm down. The first step is the hardest part. Sometimes the smallest of gestures is the best way to get the attention of others, especially family. Send mail, e-mails, have a close family member or friend help intervene to break this bearier. Sounds like you have tried on your own so now is the time to for reinforcements.
He needs to understand the worth of water because if he doesn't the well will be dry.
Best of luck
2006-09-25 07:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by jmeoh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you are coming from! The best thing that I ever did was wrote him a letter. I was able to get everything that I needed to say on paper. Even if you don't give it him, at least you vented. He may not respond right away, or at all, but and at least you have put forth the effort to have a relationship with him. I'm sure he loves you, but just isn't very good at showing it. Give him time, and let him know that you want to be apart of life and why. Time is something that I think many people take for granted, without knowing how "much" time we really have. You and your dad do not know what tommorrow will bring. Good luck and take care.
2006-09-25 14:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by skdelvalle2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason why the two of you dont have a better relationship[fight,etc.] I was adopted and just met my dad when I was 21 I didnt expect him to be a dad to be just like that but he could of tried harder and now I dont want anything to do with him because I dont want my kids to get hurt when they find out that their grandpa is not in their life. I find it easier to talk to woman about stuff because we have a bond that is hard to have w/ some men when it comes to talking about stuff. I would find out from a family member or someone who can find out whats going on and maybe there is something to where he has lost contact with you I hope you resolve things with him.
2006-09-25 14:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him mail. More than likely he will read it. In your letter tell him how you feel. Tell him you won't give up because you love him. I don't know what happened in your relationship, but DO NOT give up. My husband and his dad had problems and stopped talking. His dad died ten months later of cancer. Just like that. At least you won't be able to blame yourself for not trying to make amends.
2006-09-25 14:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a few more attempts in contacting him. Maybe write a letter to get all of your feelings out on paper and send it to him. You don't deserve to be treated that way. If you and your dad can't talk it through you may be better off not having him in your life...
2006-09-25 14:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs.K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time and try again,, call him about once a month so he will know ur not going to give up,, we dont know what happened try and say I'm sorry i love u dad
2006-09-25 14:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by blwatson41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's the way he feels, there is nothing for you to do but respect his feelings. You have made an effort and he has refused. You just need to move on. He has to make the next move.
2006-09-25 14:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you want a relationship with him, it doesn't mean he wants one with you. Learn from this experience, when you grow up and have kids, no matter what happens, always be there for your kids. It's possible that he is ashamed of himself and doesn't want you to be ashame of him too.
If he remembered his childhood, I am sure he would be there for you now.
2006-09-25 14:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by J j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in that situation right now. Even though i am in my 20's. Just don't call him anymore, I know that hurts. But you can't chase him. I feel like if mine doesn't hear from me for awhile, then he calls me. hang in there.
2006-09-25 14:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him alone, you cant force someone to be in your life. He's probably doing you a favor by keeping away.
2006-09-25 14:10:56 · answer #10 · answered by Melia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋