My ex and I started talkin again this week. We broke up cuz we moved to fast...I want to date him, start there, he wants to start at zero and be friends and be a process. He tells me that he didn't want it to end he had to do it. That I am his first choice and he wants to see if I can be patient (I'm not very patient at all) But he's asking other girls on dates... He wants to see if I can be friends and go from there. He's had our pic up since we broke up and hasn't taken it down (I talk to his mom every so often) Well, when I went over to talk to him, the pic was no longer there. I talked to his mom the next day and it was up. She says she's never seen it down (she was asleep) So he took the pic down knowin I was comin over and I thought it would stay down, but he put it back up...what does that mean? He also got a tatoo a month after we broke up, in my lanuage, that I wrote him..He wants to start at 0 so I'm being friends, but he hasn't made an effort to me yet..be patient?
2006-09-25 07:05:05 · 16 answers · asked by ConfusedK 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you for everyone that has answered. All the answers were great and gonna help me.. I have decided to be patient and date just like him and we'll see what he does. He hasn't called me since we decided to be friends and my bday is in a week...so we'll see if he calls once before my bday, just to say whats up. Thank you to everyone again. I will try to be PATIENT :)
2006-09-25 08:23:47 · update #1
all great things come to those who wait, learning self discepline and self control is a very valuble thing and i would advise you, that if yuo love him or ant a relationship with him, let things take time you have forever, rushing things does not work, if you let it gradually grow, when it gets to the ppinacle it will be amazing as you will feel like you have waited so long and it has paid off, like a reward so hang in there start off as freinds get to know each other on a different level, then when you are together it will be like nothing you have ever felt
2006-09-25 07:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by English gothic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what he says start at zero just friends if he wants to make you start over than you should do the same for him. don't call as much don't go over just act as if he was one of your friends and don't do any girlfriend things. give him what he is giving you be nice and when you guys hang out be so into him but when you aren't together be busy and don't answer the phone every once in a while
if he likes you he will come running and if he doesnt come running then you will know he was just draggin you in the dirt
but either way dont cave in cus it sounds like he really likes you but it also sounds like he may be using you
good luck
2006-09-25 14:13:48 · answer #2 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't get my hopes up if i were you. there's a reason he is your ex in the first place, and it's virtually impossible to start from 0 when you have been through emotional situations, yeah you can say you want to try from friends, but just remember all that stuff from before which lead you to break-up will mostly likely still be there again..if he wants to be back with you it's most likely out of habit and and lonliness...i'd say be wary, especially if he wants to date other girls.
2006-09-25 14:38:44 · answer #3 · answered by moon baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry boo, but it sounds like he's trying to have his cake and eat it too. If he wanted to be with you he wouldn't be dating other women. Give him a taste of his own med and let him know that not only does he have other friends u do too. Start seeing other people, u never know u may find the right one.
2006-09-25 14:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kaffy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm i dont know, because if he liked you so much he wouldnt be dating other girls, is ok to be patient to a point but if you see that things aint moving and he's not getting serious just let him go and move on. Best of luck!
2006-09-25 14:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by its_me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if this relationship means that much to u than yes be very patient. he will come to u in time. until then u should ask some other people out (make him jealous!)
2006-09-25 14:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by laura 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's getting strange with the mother in the middle. Instead of using mom in the middle, try talking to him.... Guys don't like you going behind their backs to their mom. Who are you having the relationship with...Mom?
2006-09-25 14:09:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he knows what he wants, but he is watching you. Do not get your hopes up to high, that way you don't crash and burn, or if he does accept you again, it will be that much more exciting. Good luck, I know about broken hearts.
2006-09-25 14:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by whatshisface 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like this guy is playing games with you. You don't need that. Dump him and find someone who really appreciates you.
2006-09-25 14:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not get your hopes up, he's just USING you as his back up. There is no reason to break up with someone you don't want to break up with, if he really wanted to be with you, he'd be with you...or he'd at least NOT ask other girls for their phone numbers.
2006-09-25 14:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋