My maid of honor is throwing me a bridal shower, we are not having a bachelorette party so she bought adult gifts and favors for the bridal shower. Well i find out my sister is bringing her 8 year old daughter and her daughters best friend, i'm pissed. What should i do? I told her my friend already spent money on adult things and she said just wait to bring them out until they leave. i think thats dumb, most people leave around the same time. i think the best way to handle this is to tell her to bring some video games the girls can play in the bedroom when we play games and i open my gifts. any other suggestions welcome
2006-09-25 06:40:41 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i should mention finding a sitter is no problem, her husband or in laws will be watching my nephew
2006-09-25 06:58:22 · update #1
Tell her firmly what is going to happen - if she wants to expose the kids let her answer the questions the kids have, BE FIRM it is YOUR PARTY
2006-09-25 06:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 14⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't seem fair to bring children to an adult party. Children don't usually go to the wedding shower or any of the other pre-wedding parties. Their day for looking cute is the actual wedding day.
I think your way of handling it is a good idea, as long as the girls will stay in the bedroom. The excitement of being at your wedding shower may mean they try to join in the fun, as they see it.
Just how firm can you be with your sister without upsetting her? Because if sitters are no problem, then I'm not sure what is going on in your sister's mind. Try again, very tactfully, be a little bit firm, and say that you have every intention of playing the games and opening your presents while everyone is there, well before the young girls go. Ask her to reconsider. You shouldn't be worrying about this when its your party, and it isn't fair of your sister.
2006-09-25 07:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by aliantha2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bridal Showers are no place for kids. What the hell is your sister thinking. Suggest a baby sitter. Tell your sister that the party is Adults only!!! I did not go to my first shower till I was 17. Another suggestion is to have the girls on a different floor of the house with videos, video games and toys. Tell her if she doesn't like not bringing the kids or having in a different local don't come.
2006-09-25 06:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by damisaunders@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If finding a sitter is no problem that is what I would do. This type of thing could put a damper on the shower. It's not just the adult gifts but it's the communication and the whole nature of the get together. A little girl that age would be so out of place. They may not want to stay in the room and play video games. What about having them a sleepover or pajama party at a friends house.
2006-09-25 07:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would explain to your sister the party is being thrown by your maid of honor and it is her show not your sisters and if your sister doesn't think that it is approiate material for her 8yr. and her little friend which it's not then maybe your sister should make alternate arrangements for the care of her dtr. and friend. You should not have to rearrange a whole party just for 2 small children who shouldn't be there in the first place. I do not know the relationship you have but, sister usually can workout most things and during weddings most people get stressed. So just talk be open and work it out. I'm sure you will both have a great time at your bridal shower.
2006-09-25 07:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by LILEGYPTIANGIRL1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your sister that the events of the evening will be inappropriate for 8 year old children. That not only the gifts will be of an adult theme, but the party will be as well. Although the girls maybe requested to stay in the bedroom they may be tempted to sneak a peek at all the excitement in the other room.
Remember this is celebration for you not your sister and your preferences should take precedence.
Also the parents of her daughter's friend may not want their child exposed to these adult themes. I know if I had an 8 year daughter I would not allow her to go with her friend.
2006-09-25 08:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rude isn't even the question. She is being down right inconsiderate! This is ur party not hers and if she can't deal with that than oh well. She needs to find a babysitter (at her expense) or stay at home with them herself and miss the party. I mean who waits until guests leave to open the gifts? That's where most of the fun is anyway. OR do the video thing like u said and i agree w/the other answer about let her explain any questions that may pop up if the girls happen to see any toys. Kids never stay in the room when they think something better is going on in the room the adults are in. Trust me!
2006-09-25 06:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by Kaffy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all a bridal shower is for the women who are the most close to the bride, which means no children should be allowed...
children should be staying with the in laws and/.or husband (if he's not having a bachelor party) ... Allow your friend to bring the adult gifts and favors.. and have fun...
2006-09-25 11:44:15 · answer #8 · answered by Jo-Anne C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is never a party for little kids. Your sis should find a sitter. I do not think that bringing kids to your party is fair to you. Everyone does know that children are not to come to showers. The ladies should be able to have their fun too, right? if she jsut cant find a sitter, they can be in another room having their own girly fun and games. Congrats on the wedding. I hope that the party is a blast.
2006-09-25 07:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by tanyae2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is extremely rude! Children, unless specifically invited should not be at a bridal shower. Tell your sister to get a sitter and offer to pay for it. It is the only diplomatic thing to do. If she refuses, tell her it is an adults only bridal shower and the children will not be admitted. It will cause a huge fight, but better that than letting her bully you.
2006-09-25 06:43:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your sister is being rude and she needs to find a sitter for the girls. If she can't then ask her not to come. It's your bridal shower and it should be the way you want it. It's not about accommodating your sister and her kid it's about you and your special time. Don't arrange things different it's not like she came from out of town to come to your shower. She is being very insensitive to you. Tell her to find a sitter or not come. If you have to arrange things different your going to feel angry and upset on your special day. Nip it in the bud now or you'll be sorry you didn't.
2006-09-25 08:35:07 · answer #11 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋