What would you do if you found out your significant other of 2 years had been sending nasty text messages back and forth with someone other than you for about 3 days? Would you stay or would you go? How would your heart feel and if you took them back would you trust them? No smart answers please...someone who is hurting
2006-09-25 06:40:03 · 15 answers · asked by BeautyMark 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did do the whole confrontation thing and recieved the answer that nothing was going to happen and the apologies, the roses- the right words the song, all of it. But my heart is still hurting
2006-09-25 06:45:49 · update #1
Talk to them and find out why. From there only your heart can tell you whether or not to take them back, but don't do it b/c you don't want to lose them. Do it because you know they just made a mistake and they would not do it again. However, whatever it was that caused them to stray would have to be dealt with. Trust is something that has to be earned so I would not just give it back to them freely. I'm not saying question there every move,but be aware and if they slip again..Bounce!
2006-09-25 06:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by onedzire27 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I would confront him about the situation. It would depend on his answer to weather or not I would go or stay. He might have some insecurity issues that need tending to or he might just be selfish. He should know that if you found out that it would hurt your feelings. Talk to him and see what he has to say for himself if it seems genuine then see if you could work it out. If it seems like a load of crap then let the door knob hit him where the good lord split him (the a**)
2006-09-25 13:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by netta_11213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this experience with my ex wife. And yes, those text messages played into her leaving. I contend they were innocent enough, but she saw them the way you do. For me, it was a fantasy game, and I never had any intention on meeting anyone else, or following up any contacts. You might ask your significant other what he plans to do about all this. I suggest not internalizing it so only you are the hurtful one. If a guy is reaching out like that, he's hurting too. There's something he's not getting in the relationship which is what he's seeking.
2006-09-25 13:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nasty like sexually? I would be heartbroken, but probably would not go. I guess there would be alot of arguing, and my heart would hurt. Trust them, probably not for a while though. Find out why he did this. Work from there. Good luck.
2006-09-25 13:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by firecracker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would be heart broken and yeah, the trust would be gone... You say they're just text messages, ask him about it... Don't just automatically think that he has cheated, that's were I went wrong in my relationship. You've been with him for two years and everybody deserves a second chance... Just talk to him and see were it goes.
2006-09-25 13:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by Nae-Nae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust take a long time to build, but can be destroyed in a blink of an eye. i think you should do what is best for you and the given situation. sometimes its hard, but it might be better to move on and find that someone that really is all about you. good luck!
2006-09-25 13:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by belle t 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sure will hurt,you took him back,guess coz u love him.If u r sure u can trust him then go ahead,forgiv n forget.Jus b careful.go with ur gut instinct,will u b able 2 handle it if he does it again???there's a possibility there,there's no smoke w/out fire.Gud luck
2006-09-25 13:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by soft heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to evaluate how you feel. This is your life!
If it were me, I would probably move on. You caught him--this time! Has he done it before, will he do it again? You will always wonder and probably won't be able to trust him again.
Whatever you decide----BE CAREFUL! Good luck!
2006-09-25 13:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say there is more to the story!Trust would very much be an issue!!! He has ruined that! It is up to you if the relationship is worth trying to save!
2006-09-25 13:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont jump to conclusions...just act casual and enquire who it is...and if you get any smart answers...tell him/her whats on your mind..and see how the response is..dont let emotions rule but logically sort it out..(e.g if your partners claim is that its nothing serious...then how about seeing what the whole SMS stuff is about)
2006-09-25 13:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by donkeydo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋