After you've had a bad day..or week...or life. And you're really stressed out, angry, sad, ect. Would it make you feel better if someone told you how much worse it could be? Why or why not?
2006-09-25 06:39:08 · 20 answers · asked by Sarah 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think that it's usually well-intentioned, and meant to make us look on the bright side, count our blessings, provide some perspective, and so. All of these are important, but most of the time, a remark like that makes me feel somewhat dismissed and direspected because the impact and personal signficance of the event I've been through is not being acknowledged for the meaning it might have to/for me. I also feel a bit judged: a reminder like that suggests that I'm being a whiner, ungrateful...at least that's how I feel when I hear it.I definitely feel worse about the situation (and the insensitivity of others) when it happens. I believe that gratefulness for all that you have in life and a need to be open about the stress that you're experiencing can (peacefully) coexist. My two cents!
2006-09-25 07:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by semper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being told it could be worse by somebody who obviously doesn't have it worse does not make me feel better. What does help is talking to other people that have similar problems as me. I find myself thinking of them and not thinking about myself as much. I think this is why some people go into the counseling or social services fields.
2006-09-25 13:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by Matt S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would help most for someone to say things could be worse during that exact moment simply because when we're upset or mad whatever caused this is the only thing on our mind at the time and it would probably only irritate us more for someone to say this to us.
2006-09-25 13:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it does not make you feel better. And it usually means that the person who said it is either insensitive or cannot be bothered to listen to what the problem is. However, there is a saying 'What goes round comes around'..so try not to worry as their day will come have no fear.
2006-09-25 13:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be an idiot not to know that something could always be "worse", but statements like that just piss me off. It shows the other persons lack of concern. They don't want to be bothered with your misfortune and possibly help you out.
Make me feel better?...Not at all. It makes me angry, upset, hurt,etc. (just don't say such things to me..including "it will pass".
On man that upsets me, even now, just thinking of it, so I'll close.
2006-09-25 14:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way yes and in a way no. I know it could be much worse, but at the same time that doesn't make my current problem/issue/whatever any less of a problem for me.
2006-09-25 13:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by PrettyProblem 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am usually the one telling myself that. It does make me feel better. When I get upset and down on myself, I think of my brother and all the other soldiers over in Iraq fighting this war. It quickly snaps me back to reality and I get over feeling sorry for myself real quick.
2006-09-25 13:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by Georgia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it makes me feel better. Mentally you know that at any office you just don't know what to expect every day. American office is a jungle. You never know what ugly surprise is out there waiting for you.
2006-09-25 14:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ FairLady ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes me feel better if I really THINK about how bad it COULD be. Some people just want to feel sorry for themselves and can't think vividly about how bad it could be.
2006-09-25 14:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Of course not. No matter what could happen or what is happening to someone else, that doesn't make my heartache or sickness or whatever any easier to bear.
2006-09-25 14:01:50 · answer #10 · answered by curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋