my son is 19 months and jus screams at the littlest tings, not winges will scream for ages, now hes started biting if he doesn get his way. he is in no way spoiled nothin seems to calm him..... help??
2006-09-25 06:38:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My son is only 13 months old, but he is a lot like this as well. There is a wonderful book called "Positive Discipline: The First Three Years"...You should try reading it. It really helped us a lot. The book gives insight into the mind of your toddler and will help you to understand why they do some of the things that they do. It also offers helpful advice for handling almost any parenting situation from tantrums to potty training. It's an awesome book because it focuses on the fact that discipline is teaching, not punishing.
When your son is overwhelmed by his emotions, which is what is happening when he has a tantrum, you have to understand that he doesn't have the words to tell you what's really wrong. Try offering him a quiet, comfortable, place for a time out. A time out as in, time away from the situation to calm down and re-evaluate, not a punishment. If he doesn't want to sit alone, offer to sit with him. If all else fails, try a different tactic...like asking him to help you do something, empty the dishwasher or the dryer for example. My son is fantastic at taking clothes from the dryer and handing them to me one at a time to fold.
You just need to understand that he's only little, and there is so much he doesn't understand right now. It's your job to teach and guide him...make sure the lessons you're teaching are the right ones. Spanking, for instance, only teaches a child that when someone displeases you, the answer is to hit. Is that really the message you want to send?
2006-09-25 07:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you might ask his pediatrician, but it's probably not medical. My 14 month old bangs his head on things when he's mad, and also bites. If I'm holding him he throws his head back and I almost drop him. I just lay him on the floor where he's safe to have his tantrum and walk away. I don't think I'm anywhere near past the worst, but so far his tantrums aren't lasting real long. He gets bored with himself and gets up to do something else. I also try diverting his attention, but when he's pissed, he's pissed and I just have to let him know that I have better things to do than hang around if he's being naughty. And I really do actually. I'm a mom of 4, and I don't have time for any temper tantrums (not even from my husband!). So everything has to learn how to handle themselves in our house.
2006-09-25 06:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I could do this if it were my child but I have to tell you what I did to my little step brother when I was 12 which put a quick end to his throwing tantrums when I was watching him.
He was 2 and new to our house and really annoyed both me and my other, 10 yr. old, brother, so when the 2 yr old threw himself on the floor and screamed and then started hitting his head on the floor we were at first shocked then we laughed and pointed and told him to hit it harder. You have to know that he really annoyed us and we weren't allowed to hit him ourselves or anything so we thought it was funny. He hit it a few times and screamed louder but our parents were across the street so no one came running. Then we lost interest and walked out of the room. He cried for a few more minutes then followed us into the other room and never threw a tantrum around us again.
2006-09-25 08:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by Not Laughing w/ U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
9 out of 10 children will bite at one stage, dont worry too much, dont get annoyed or upset, stay calm and in control of the situation! the best thing to do is ignore the naughty behaviour and praise the good, by doing this the child will soon learn that he gets more attention when being good that being naughty! you need to set boundries and stick to these, giving a warning then removing the child to a place where he can have time out (1 minute for every year of his life). he will not stay their but when he comes out of time out, stay calm do not talk to him no matter how much he screams or tries to bite and return him to timeout untill he stays there be patient it will take a long time for him to get the message but its best for the long run, imagine what he will be like at 4 or five, do you want him beaten you up or giving you cuddles. remember its not the child who is wrong its the behaviour!! good luck and all the best
2006-09-25 06:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by betty_boop81xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since keeping my grand children ages 16 mos and 30 months, one thing I have learned, invest in a DVD player or VCR and buy some Barney shows the kids love them. Others will work too, you just have to try them to find out which ones they like best. NOTE: On the DVD player sometimes the DVD has an option to play once or continously, just love that last one!!!!
As for the biting, bite back, to show him it hurts, I know it seems cruel but sometimes that is the only was to teach them is to show them how if feels.
2006-09-25 07:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by Pam of Ga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure his thrashing won't knock him into furniture, and walk away. Step over him if you need to cross the room. Occasionally say things like "Aren't you so angry???" or "I wish you would be nice to me." When he calms down for even a second, praise him for being calm. My son does this, has been since 16 mos. It's bc they can't verbalize their needs and get frustrated. Take a deep breath and ignore him... Eventually he'll work it out of his system, and when the tantrum finally ends, act like it never happened.
2006-09-25 07:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by Angela M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lynn,it is a normal thing just do not give in let him finish his tantrum leave the room, he is biting because it is another way of getting you to cater to him..i think in the future he will need to experience whats called a TIME OUT......just 5 minutes alone let him set the timer..surillll
2006-09-25 07:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this will probably sound daft but it worked for my little boy....we devided a sticker chart for good and bad things he did also when he was bad we took one of his fav toys away if it kept happening he continued to lose his toys he started to learn from that and the other thing we did was buy a stair gate & put it over a room he would be safe in if he started he was just put behind there and i would turn up the tv got easier to ignore after a while they soon relise there doing wrong just tell him why he was put in the room.. they say 1 min for every year of there life should do it but i would just leave him untill he screams it out :) hope this helps
2006-09-25 06:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by shagkitten21 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him....he will soon learn ur not 'impressed' by this behaviour but give him tons of encouragement when he does summat good! I sympathise, i have a 21 month old daughter who loves to scream and have tantrums too! x
2006-09-26 08:58:08 · answer #9 · answered by sweetfemaleattitudeuk2076 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore tantrums, praise good behaviour, I mean really OTT. He'll soon do the math and end up a really lovely child.
2006-09-25 08:24:20 · answer #10 · answered by t11omo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋