So I like this girl that I work with at a bar. I only work one day a week so I'm hardly there. She is very shy, but I'm always telling her how gorgeous she is, and she always impresses me with what she does in her free time.
Teaching classes working 2 jobs and going to school. A woman that shows that type of motivation is RARE. There are other little details about her I see that I enjoy.
Here is where it got cool. I'm a big goof ball I'm security but I'm always dancing and being stupid trying to get everyones spirits up. For a few weeks I would do this around her, it seemed like she just didn't care or respond. I always had to intiate the conversaition. Now she comes up to me talking, and she did my little dance move I can see her really coming out of her shell.
So Friday she gave me her number and she kind of held my hand for an extra few seconds. But becasuse she was so shy to begin with, I don't know how to tell her, I want to date with hopes that it goes somewhere.
2006-09-25 06:36:26 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Naturally I couldn't explain everything here, but other girls at work notice us talking and they think it's cute.
It's like man I've like this girl for the last month or so. Now that I (Think) she likes me I'm getting a lil gunshy only becasue she was so shy to begin with. The next move is what I'm contemplating/ and what I think I need your help with ladies.
2006-09-25 06:38:47 · update #1
This sounds wonderfully sweet! Definitely call her and invite her out for drinks - tell her you'd like to take her out for drinks, rather her making them like usual. She is definitely into you and the ball is in your court. Best of luck!!
2006-09-25 06:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, WAKE UP! She gave you her number and held your hand. For a shy girl, this is major! Your goofy, upbeat ways have caught her eye and she's even aping your dance move. You gave her time to get comfortable with you, now don't go getting shy on her!
Ask her out to something/where casual where you have a chance to talk (so if you go dancing make sure you have a quiet drink after!). What kinds of classes does she teach, what's she studying at school? Maybe you could do an afternoon date at an exhibition or museum which reflects her interests (she'll appreciate your attentiveness, believe me!). Or how about a picnic in the park while the weather's still good.
In any case, ASK HER OUT. And don't rush things: if this relationship is meant to go somewhere, it will. There's nothing most girls hate more than being pushed.
Good luck!
2006-09-25 13:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by pat z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not to sure why you only requested feedback from 'ladies', but here's my two cents worth.
You seem to place a lot of meaning on her small gestures, like how long she'll hold your hand. Be a little careful here. Your interpretations to her movements may not quite be what she is 'saying'. I suggest asking her out. If she responds with a 'yes', then you know she's at least receptive to your company. It's ok to fantasize, but don't make giant leaps of meanings unless you've had time to talk with each other and learn about each other. Good luck.
2006-09-25 13:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other posters that you should just ask her out; however, before doing so think about the consequences of dating a girl you work with. If things don't work out, will both of you be able to see each other regularly without uncomfortable feelings? If the answer to this is yes, then go for it.
2006-09-25 13:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She gave you have phone # so she most like you.If a girl does not like you. You would not get her #. So call her .. Talk to her. Take her out of a date when she has some free time. See what she says. It can only be yes or no... If you never ask you will never no.
2006-09-25 13:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dont tell her all the write now, dont try to make it go so fast, u might scare her. Y dont u ask her out trust me if she wasent interested she wouldent give u her number or hold ur hand, girls dont wast there time with tht stuff if they dont like u. Ask her out and see were it goes from there.
2006-09-25 13:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by mermaid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a couple dates without mentioning wanting something serious. At the beginning it might be a little too much to handle and you could scare her off completely.
2006-09-25 13:40:00 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you want it to go somewhere all you can do is tell her but i understand where you are coming from because i hace had the same experiance but just to let you know it worked out fine and we have been together for about three years and are planning on getting married so if you want her so to speak go after her
2006-09-25 14:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by sapphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ask for a 'date' quite yet.
ask her if she wants to go play frizbee or something at the park.
it's kind of like a date without having to get all dressed up and nervous. (and you can have fun and talk and laugh)
after a few times like this you will know that you want to date her and she wants to date you.
then it becomes easier.
2006-09-25 13:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by craina c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just call her and ask her out, she gave you her number that's a sign she would like to know you better. I'm shy when it comes to dating, talk and get to know each other, hang out it should develop into something good.
2006-09-25 13:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋