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I really have to get him out of my mind completely before my life is ruined.........but I'm having such a difficult time........he makes me feel so special..........

2006-09-25 06:26:05 · 23 answers · asked by T 4 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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The only way that I can think of how having a guy on your mind would "Ruin" your life is if you are already married, & the guy that's on your mind is NOT your husband. Plus you must still be determined to stay in your marriage or you wouldn't be trying to get him off your mind.
I don't think you need to get him completely out of your mind forever to stay true to your marriage. After all, it's really hard to undo the past, & if there is a past of some sort between you & the other man then it's going to remain there as a memory, no matter what you do.
What's important is what you do in the future. If you plan to stay with your husband then you will obviously need to end all romantic ties with this man.

You said that "He makes me feel so special".
Well if you are looking outside of the marriage to feel special, then it's obvious that you aren't getting that special feeling from your husband. He may have gotten complacent in your marriage, let him know how you feel.Then if you are still lacking in your marriage then try some marriage councelling. It certainly can't hurt.

2006-09-25 07:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 1 0

If he makes you feel so special why do you want to get him out of your mind? You cant get him out of your mind move on but time is the only thing that will heal you. Its hard to erase memories so when you think about remember the good time and remember that it was a bad situation and before your life is ruined you let him go.

2006-09-25 13:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0 0

i tried once to forget about someone that i love, after a while, i just stopped trying.

love is a gift being loved is something so special.

that why would i want to forget about it.

some how learn to accept that you are loved by someone or that someone loves you .

accept that is how it is, whether or not you are with them or want to be with them.

put t hem in your heart, relinquish the struggle with it, and let it be what it is, let take its path inside your heart. whether physicaly you are with the person or not.


it seems that is if though, the more you struggle against something mentaly the more stress there is about the thought or feeling.

instead veiw for what it is and its love.


like i said only you can decide if you want to be with the person.

i am crazy for a woman madly in love with her, i think of her everyday, i stopped trying to get it out of my mind and just let it be, i have found some peace.

i have concluded that i must confront her let her know that i still love her and want to be by her side.

doing this should in give direction for the feelings in me that are still looking for a direction to go.

seek the conclusion the closure what ever it may be, it needs direction where is it suppossed to go if it is not searched for.

does that make sense to you..... i hope it does for that is what i am doing

2006-09-25 13:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by concrete water 3 · 1 0

Have you already slept with him? If not maybe this is why he makes you feel so special. If you have slept with him and he is still persuing you then why is it he will ruin your life. Ask yourself what is it about him that you can't get out of your mind. There isn't enough here for me to give an answer.

2006-09-25 13:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by rosie9977 1 · 1 0

if you are religious at all try praying. if not just do other things, play a computer game, watch some movies (but not romantic movies). it will take a while, but the worst thing you can do is to feed it. Don't fantisize about him in anyway. Read a book. I dont think that thinking about his bad sides or what ever would help at all because you would still be thinking about him. and if you have the ability not to see him, avoid him. Being around him will just help feed what ever feelings you have for him.

2006-09-25 13:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by yelowcow 2 · 1 0

Keep yourself busy. It will take a while before you can get used to thinking about what you're doing instead of him.

You also have a vague question. Why would you need to get him out of your mind if he makes you feel special?

2006-09-25 13:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Replace him with Jesus and read your Bible. Fact is, the Lord knows you're special, and can help you find 100s of things that make you that way.

2006-09-25 13:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I had the same problem with this guy that i was involved with and then he just left. it'll take some time but if you just keep living your life then you will stop thinking eventually

2006-09-25 13:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by lil m 1 · 0 0

Try going out with some other guys or find different things to do.

2006-09-25 13:28:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Spend time with family/friends who love and support you. Meet some new people any type of distraction is good.

2006-09-25 13:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by shae 6 · 1 0

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