okay, peep this out!!! I wanna know what you think I should do?

Question

I have been talking to this guy who I have never seen before yet (and the way he is acting, never will either), for almost a year now and we used to get along great but only cause he likes to spend all his time on the phone with me. The problem with me though is that I have a five year old daughter that I have to tend to from time to time and he feels like that takes away from his time with me. I told him that it would be better if he would just come down here so that we can all see each other and get to know each other better. Later on in the phone relationship, he changed to this guy that I don't have time for, but i can't seem to quit talking to him though when he calls(finally). I am 4 years older than he is and he is acting as if I'm supposed to do everything that he says, like we are married or something, i wanna know how is it that he can feel this way when we have not even seen each other yet and he doesn't want to even try. What should I do about this?

Answer 1

If homeboy is that possessive when he doesn't even live in your state, imagine how intensified his behavior would be if he actually met you. If you've been talking to him for a whole year, he should know that you have a 5 yr old, and if he really likes you, he has to respect that you have an obligation to your child. Instead of seeing it as that your time with your kid cuts into HIS time...he should see like the time with him on the phone cuts into your KIDS time. Tell him that if he wants anything to do with you, that he'd better accept that your gonna spend time with your kid. After all, the child is part of the complete package. He has to want, and respect BOTH of you. As for why he's acting like that...god only knows. Could be a number of things. From being straight up crazy, to being insecure or just overly possesive. Well, good luck with it girl, holla back and lemme know what happens. Buh-bye 4 now, Ronijn @}-->-------------

Answer 2

I think thats a little scary because i was in a serious relationship with someone that i met over the internet & he turned out to be a true physco & was extremely jealous well u must think about your daughter & if he cant understand that then he isnt a real man but go with what your heart feels ok just be careful & good luck on what u choose to do

Answer 3

I'm going to write to you just like I just wrote to last person about these personal problems with these men! They are just human being just like us only their brains are most of the time in their pants! Trust me girlfriend, you 2 are just having a phone conversation. And for this long period of time is a waste of time. You need a real man! One that you can touch, feel and kiss! Damn the phone conversation. Now let me tell you what you're going to do to draw his butt closer to you. The next time that he calls you, if it's not real real late at night, you're going to make pretend that you have company! Yes girl! Just say "Oh whatever his name is---"I can't really talk right now". And of course he's going to ask why. Then you say "I have company right now" "Let me get back to you tomorrow" And while you're doing this don't let his draw you into a conversation because then if you proceed to talk to him he'll assume that no one is really there. So get his a*s off the phone quick, fast and in a hurry! Just talk real fast and say "Oh goodness something fell" "Let me call you tommorrow"! If you need further assistance, just click on my sign-on name and email me. I'll get you through this. Damn men! I love the hell out of them but I don't take sh/t from them! It's too many men out here on this planet to be dealing with the bullsh/t!

Answer 4

IF HE IS ACTING LIKE THIS WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU STILL WANT TO SEE HIM IN PERSON SEEMS AS IF HE CAN BE A CONTROL FREAK LET IT GO ITS JUST A PHONE THING NOTHING MORE NOTHING LESS IF HE IS ACTING AS IF YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO DO AS HE SAY THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG AND YOU 2 ONLY TALK BY PHONE NEVER MET DON'T PUT YOURSELF IN HARMS WAY OR YOUR CHILD YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT COULD OCCUR WHEN SEEING HIM IN PERSON HE CAN BE A VIOLENT PERSON FOR ALL YOU KNOW AND IF HE ISN'T TRYING TO MAKE MOVES TO SEE YOU AND YOU KEEP ASKING GIVE UP AND MOVE ON FOR YOUR KIDS SAKE

Answer 5

If he doesn't value you or your child enough to even try to get to know you better or work on the relationship then he doesn't deserve you. You need someone who wants to have a personal, close, and caring relationship with you and your family.

Answer 6

Are you kidding me? Get a back bone and tell this weirdo to stop calling you! Anyone who you tell you need to spend time with your daughter and they have problems with that isn't anyone that you nor your daughter needs in there life. Stop taking his calls.

Answer 7

Be very care full how you go on from here. It sounds like this guy has serious issues. He could be fixated on you and that could get ugly, if not down rite dangerous.

Answer 8

aww naw girl your child always comes first if theres a problem with her being around too much then he's the problem . tell him to go find someone without kids because you're life belongs to her now until she's old enough to fend for herself

Answer 9

HE IS A FOOL!!!! THAT IS YOUR BABY AND SHE COMES FIRST NO MATTER WHAT.... U DONT EVEN KNOW THIS FOOL AND HE IS TRYING TO TELL U WHAT TO DO... U DO NOT NEED TO BE TRYING TO MEET ANYBODY LIKE THAT, PEOPLE R NOT WHO U THINK THEY R WHEN U MEET ON THE INTERNET... MEETING ON THE NET CAN BE DANGEROUS SO BE VERY CAREFUL BECAUSE U HAVE A KID THAT NEEDS U...

Answer 10

How could you even ask this question!? He doesn't under stand that you are a mother First.What I don't get is why are you wasting your time with him when there are numerous number of guys that understand parenthood.Besides you don't even know him. You stressing of a STRANGER!!WHY!?????????