Why men trip if you try to talk to them about you sex relationship?
When you enter in to a relatioship the first thing that people alway agree on is to keep the communcation open. Agree!!!!
But as soon as you tell a man that the sex is getting boring they go crazy. They say things like you must be looking at someone else or having sex with someone else. How are you suppose to spice up a relationship if only one person is open minded. Help is need.
I really care for the person but the sex sucks! What can I do?
2006-09-25 06:05:24 · 5 answers · asked by funoburgmom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One of the best times to bring something up is exactly when it is taking place. It might sound weird but it works. During sex if he is not doing something that you like, just suggest what you would like him to do. At that moment he will be willing to do it because you are asking right then and there.
After sex, follow up by saying "when you did ............ it really felt good, I would like if you did that all the time". He won't feel insulted and you will get better sex. You both win!
2006-09-25 06:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by RACQUEL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER say the sex is BORING.. unless you are trying to get out of the relationship. It's like a guy telling you that a certain pair of jeans makes you look like a whale. You likely won't feel comfortable wearing those jeans in front of him again.... well, now he's all freaked out about having sex with you. You need to make him feel like he's the best, but that you want to try different things just to make it that much more fun. Learn to coax him in the right direction. Just watch how you approach the topic.
2006-09-25 06:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by Shooter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be careful how you bring this up. If you say, "The sex is boring," he's going to feel attacked. Talk about your fantasies. Do something that you think will spice things up. Ask him about his fantasies. That will help, and neither of you will feel uncomfortable.
2006-09-25 06:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by Toga748 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring variety to your sex life,.. instead of giving him a lecture or a questionairres worth of questions,. try initiating a fun session,.. bring variety into your sex life by including things like a fun book of exotic positions etc,. or perhaps a few unusual 'toys',.... feathers, light-bondage stuff,.. food, (cream, liquids etc).. pornography,.. blind-fold your partner; let him blind-fold you,... get creative,.... and all this is coming from a guy who's repeatedly refused sex,.... (I've pretty much given up on looking for it).
Go have some fun,... get creative :o)
2006-09-25 06:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by wildimagination2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's because guys are told that if they aren't sexual titans they are total loosers so they are given a major complex about failing sexually - it's sad actually
just tell him - eventually he will understand where you are coming from
2006-09-25 06:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by bregweidd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋