VIRGO FEMALES PLEASE ADVISE. I'm 26, male. I met her 15 days ago. She's 28, married but separated for 4 months. In the first few days, I thought it's just a fling though I get jealous when she chats with other guys online and flirts with guys over the phone. Cuz I was frustrated, I thought if I have sex with sum1 else I wouldn't get hurt if she slept with sum1 while being with me. I had sex with a friend. But from that day on, my feelings for the girl I like only increased. I'm falling for her. She says she's addicted to me. We make love atleast 3 times a day weekdays& atleast 4 times in weekends. She asked me to move in with her. I said we should both move out from our flats and move in to a studio flat after 3 months. We are very very intimate now. We can virtually talk abt everything, including ppl we've been with in our past. Now she stopped using the ph and internet as much cuz she says she doesn't need to any longer as she's got me. Q: Should I tell her I slept with my friend???
2006-09-25 06:02:18 · 23 answers · asked by R. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you were just dating and it wasn't serious than no... you dont know if she slept with someone else and she doesnt need to know you do. It was before you became serious and as long as you don't do it again I say something like that is better kept to yourself.
it will just cause an unecessary problem for her to think about... and possibly make her loose the possible trust she has for you. you two seem to be moving a little fast but happy at least for now... I would give it a little longer before you lived together, you know maybe at least until the divorce is final... there is alot of crap that comes with that...
"Don't Ask, Don't Tell" for that situation
2006-09-25 06:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by BeachLvr2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? This is a 2 week old relationship. I wouldn't tell her because you weren't in a committed relationship. As for the rest be careful. Usually relationships like this are like tornados. They come in fast with a whole lot of action but they move out just as fast and leave a lot of damage behind. I am not saying don't do it but just be cautious.
2006-09-25 06:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not, you have messed up everything anyway while you are at it, ask her to three some with you, and you can all share a cab to the VD clinic for a ckeck up. You are a complete **** mate.
2006-09-25 06:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious about her yea..honesty is best at this stage b/c if not it will come back to bite you later on and may ruin what had turned into a good relationship.
2006-09-25 06:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by onedzire27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go with the "Don't Ask Don't Tell" policy especially if it may upset her. test the waters first with a hypothetical story about someone else then you proceed from there.
2006-09-25 06:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes if she stays she is all yours to keep and your call to never do it again.
If not then show her how sorry you are and prove to her you can be her man. even thought you are human and inperfect you want to let her know you deserve her.
If she's worth it go the extra mile dont let her go.
2006-09-25 07:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by missme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, just tell her the truth man, if she treasures you and the feeling is mutual, honesty should be the foundation of your relationship, that's the strongest bond that you two can hold. she's mature enough to understand.
2006-09-25 06:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by basilio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you should have waited for the divorce if you did know she was married. If you were not exclusive to her, I wouldn't tell here. I would get exclusive though. If you are exclusive well.... you have to tell her
2006-09-25 06:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you exclusively dating only each other? No need to dredge it up. I have no desire to know my husbands past exes and he doesn't care about mine. Leave it alone.
2006-09-25 06:08:33 · answer #9 · answered by porkchop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!!!! Not unless you want to loss her. Plus the girlfriend will
sooner or later.
2006-09-25 06:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by Starr Light 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋