I broke up with my boyfriend today.I feel so bad that I broke his heart because he loved me so much and wanted to be with me.I didn't love him as much and I felt horrible because of that.Plus, my parents don't want me to have a boyfriend and when he asked me out on a date to the movies, I had to say no because they don't let me go on dates. He sent me two notes in class. The first:We've broken up,right? and the second painful one:" You were the one that wanted us to break up.Just so you can know!" That hurt. A lot.I felt like s b-tch,but he had to know because in the long run,it'd just get worse. Seeing him at school is very painful. He doesn't look at me anymore and in history class he was thinking about me the whole time and wasn't paying attention.We sit next to each other mopst classes...I still want to stay freinds,but he is so hurt...what can I do?
2006-09-25 05:54:33 · 24 answers · asked by Jennifer L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You did your best. It is his problem now.
2006-09-25 05:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u tell him 2 be friends right now then ur going 2 crush his ego so just try 2 make everything less akward by saying ajoke or sth in time u might become his friend but not know just wait 4 the wounds 2 heal. also i think u did the write thing breaking up with him cause he loved u so much but u didn't don't worry u'll find someone who u'll love and he'll love u back just keep on looking 4 mr.right and tell ur parents that ur old in enough 4 a relationship
2006-09-25 13:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by angelcarrot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that many times it is as difficult for a parent to ask youngsters to break up with someone whom they have been especially close with as it is for that couple.
But as an outsider it is much easier to see the possible hurt or distraction this relationship may cause.
It will be painful and uncomfortable for awhile but time will help ease the hurt.
Make it clear to him one time only, for there is no need to communicate on and on about it, that you feel his feelings were much deeper than your own plus your parents had requested that you not pursue this relationship any further....therefore it is easier to stop and lessen the hurt at this time than further down the road of time.
Express that you hope to remain friends since you have spent so much time together and that you wish him the best as you hope he does you.
Do not respond to hiim in any manner other than friendship and time will show him that it is nothing personal just too heavy at this time.
Your maturity and concern for another is greatly shown here and wish you the best!!!
2006-09-25 13:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm.. very unfortunate situation. But then if you are not in love with the guy then its better to go for a clear break... at least for now. Obviously he is hurt... give him time and he will recover from this. Just hope its sooner than later.
After a while if you still want you two be friends, then talk to him. but be very clear in what you want as you won't want him to misunderstand the situation all over again.
good luck...
2006-09-25 13:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's best to stay away. It will be painful for him and awkward for you. For now, at the very least.
Time heals a lot of things.
You should each find someone more suited to you.
It's hard, but every relationship teaches you something. You will break more hearts, and have your heart broken, many times in life.
Good luck.
2006-09-25 12:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't make the decision in this one. If you try to be his friend, he may get thie idea that you want more, because he is stil in love with you. So the best thing you can do for him, if you somehow still care about him as a human heing, is to leave him alone.
No one is blaming you for breaking up with him, you did what you h ad to, you dont need to feel bad about it. Its life. But from there to mess him up by trying the friendship thing, that's unforgivable!
You need to give him time to heal. maybe in the future he would want to be your friend. That's up to him though.
2006-09-25 12:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get out of his life, you can never be friends with him, he will learn to hate you then after that he will feel nothing for you, and then he can move on. You will get you comeuppance and I hope you experience the real hurt and despair of being dumped..again and again, Leave him alone, let him find another and have great sex laughs and companionship. And you are right you are a *****
2006-09-25 12:58:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not to minimalize the pangs of love, but..
You will get over it. Just say some very loving prayers, and send him unconditional love, and you will transform something painful into a powerful lesson. What love is..is a many spendid thing...
2006-09-25 12:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by GiGi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should give him time,, about a month until things cool down alittle because if his hurt then by you calling him he might have his hopes up,,,,, so just wait and give him a call with in a month and tell him that you really missed his friendship,,
2006-09-25 13:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've had this same problem. my ex boyfriend loved me so much within three months and i was getting scared. i wasn't "in love" with him but i loved him. i had to let him go but i wanted to be his friend still. he ignored me for a long time and even asked me back out with which i said no. but i wanted to be his friend. after what seemed like forever, i just started talking to him. he seemed just as happy to be talking to me as i was to him. so if you really want to be his friend, just tell him how you feel and if he really cared about you, he wouldn't care if you were going out or not,just as long as your talking. GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-09-25 13:01:23 · answer #10 · answered by New_Mommy_09 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for the clean break. Anything else prolongs the pain for everyone.
2006-09-25 12:59:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋