Well he makes me "come" the first time, however, his technique leaves my clit sore and when he goes to do it again it's more so painful then pleasurable...but I don't want to make it seem like he doesn't know what he's doing. How do I direct him to the right way of doing it where it will be pleasurable each and every time? You know....softer?
2006-09-25 05:44:09 · 22 answers · asked by Cathy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmmm. How ego-centric is he? If he can take it, ask him if you could suggest a way that you'd get much more pleasure. He'll have to say yes. Then you say, kindly and gently that a little lighter on the "SPOT" will get the same result more times. Then, remind him of the rule, "Whatever makes momma happy, is very likely to make daddy MUCH happier." and carry on.
2006-09-25 05:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is to be honest and tell him what you want! where you like it the best and to slow down let him know the softer the kiss the more pleasure for you. let him know by showing him with your soft sweet touch on his!!
2006-09-25 13:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by xpressman5c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until he is down there and them say something like "oh tease me." "Gentler I am not ready yet. Oh let me enjoy this some more."
You can just word what you want done in a way that is not giving instruction but giving pleasure to you.
2006-09-25 12:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you're asking because you just can't tell him outright. Make up a story about one of your girlfriends telling you about how this one guy gave her multiple orgasms because he was orally skillful. He will feel the need to compete and ask you what the guy did differently.
2006-09-25 12:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While he is giving your oral sex, talk to him. If he is sucking too hard, tell him to go slower. If you want him to lick up and down, or back and forth, tell him. Remember ~~~ sex is something to be enjoyed ~~ it may be hard initially to talk while having sex, but you do want it always be pleasurable, right? ENJOY!
2006-09-25 12:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by Hammer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a sex book and see if it can explain how you want it. It's a lot easier for guys to hear how to do stuff from a 3rd party ( a source outside of your relationship).
2006-09-25 13:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by six.pack.abs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just direct him when he's down there. "Slower...softer...little to the left." Might be embarassing and akward at first, but you'll both be glad you did.
2006-09-25 12:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not a question of who should direct who. patience and understanding guides us to the ultimate ecstacy of sexual drama. but, it's always suggested for each to tell his/her partner how he/she feels about the road to sexual ecstacy. theories vary with each persons, it's the way of doing it right that makes them reach the desired spot at the right moment. try it with patience & you will reach there.
2006-09-25 12:51:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you like the way he does it but ask if he can by a little more gentle
2006-09-25 12:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by PeachN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK WITH HIM. PRESENT IT IN A WAY LIKE,"DO U KNOW WHAT REALLY TURNS ME ON?"MOST MEN ARE NOT EDUCATED ON ORAL SEX. MY WIFE COMES AT LEAST 5 TIMES PRIOR TO STARTING REGULAR SEX BECAUSE WE COMMUNICATE!!!!
2006-09-25 12:57:06 · answer #10 · answered by MAJOR JIM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋