2006-09-25 05:43:11 · 47 answers · asked by OnionSkin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No, if it were then I sure wouldn't be married. It's all about what you both want. Not what everyone else thinks it should be.
2006-09-25 05:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only things in life that are necessary are Death and Taxes.
That being said, a wedding is about a day, the focus needs to be on the marriage of two people and how they are going to make it work. There is absolutely no sense in anybody, neither the couple themselves nor their parents going into debt for a grand, lavish wedding. The couple is just as married if they go to the Justice of the Peace, have a small private ceremony somewhere, or a grand, lavish wedding. Married is married. It comes down to what the bride and groom want and can afford.
2006-09-25 05:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by Plain_Common_Sense 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, a grand wedding is not necessary. What is necessary is a lot of love between the two of you and a commitment to make a life together and be happy together.
Everything else is extra. How much you spend on your wedding does not dictate how happy you will be. As a matter of fact, people that spend next to nothing on their wedding often turns out to be the most happy and have all their money left to spend towards their marriage and their new life together.
Use the money towards a house, a good honeymoon...
Look at all the celebrities out there that spent millions on their wedding and divorced few months later.
Good luck.
2006-09-25 07:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by Tayo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All you need to get married is a bride, groom ( maybe witnesses) and a preacher.
Too many brides lose sight of what this day really means. It is a life-changing event for two human beings in love. The start of a new journey, together.
This is not to say I am speaking against lavish weddings, but there are many brides or bride's parents that are still paying for the wedding a year after the actual event.
I recently had a request to do a ceremony for a bride. She's having it in a WONDERFUL place; 200-300 guests. Said she wants to concentrate on things like the dress, the cake & the music. She's forgetting that she can be married without any of those things, but not without an Officiant. She's looking for a "cheap" preacher. I hope she finds one.
2006-09-25 07:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No.
Your wedding should reflect your personal style and taste -within reason of course. Huge weddings like you see in the movies and on TV are quickly becoming a thing of the past. The couples I meet just cannot justify the expense, regardless of their personal wealth. Most people I talk to think 'grand' weddings are tacky and show-offish.
Do what suits you and makes both you and your guests comfortable. Obviously you don't want to be cheap, but grandiose events can be just as uncomfortable.
2006-09-25 07:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by exclusiveindigo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally-NO. I feel you do not need all the extravagance to have a nice wedding. Having family and friends is all you need.At the end of the day all that really matters is the way the both of you feel for each other, not how much was spent on the wedding!Let your "grand wedding" represent in the way you care and love each other and people will see that and remember.
:)
2006-09-28 09:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by islandgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...people go way too overboard for weddings. I think a lot of people make the mistake of getting married for the sake of the wedding instead of the marriage. It's a huge waste of money that can be used for a life together. Trust me, you're just a married with a small casual wedding as you are with a huge extravagant wedding. Also, people that go for the huge expensive one, end up stressing themselves out so much before the wedding they end up having a horrible day. I've seen it happen many, many times. I'd love to know the statistics of a big wedding vs. a small wedding and the longevity of the marriage.
2006-09-25 05:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not. Come into the marriage happy, save the money that would have been spent on a grand wedding and take a grander honeymoon. Time alone and away from everybody is far more important. If you love your groom, your eyes will shine. That's as grand as it needs to be. Good luck and congratulations!
2006-09-25 05:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by ordinaryfemale 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that it is necessary. But I am a very down to earth, low key person and prefer a small wedding. I am sure that there are people who think that it is a necessity. I would say just do what feels right to the couple getting married.
2006-09-25 05:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by suz' 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Necessary? No. But if you are having ANY kind of reception, you should treat your guests as guests. If you can't afford to, then elope.
Is a grand wedding a waste of money? No way. If you can afford it, go for it. Everyone should either have or go to one great party in their lives. But again, only if you can afford it.
As far as people on here belittling those who can afford it - there's no reason for those who couldn't afford one to spill their sour grapes all over those who can.
2006-09-25 07:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's actually very bad for a relationship. 1) with a hugh wedding you often start out your marriage in hugh dept which causes fighting. 2) If everything is "perfect" on the wedding day like a hugh wedding is supposed to provide then it sets an impossible expectation for the marriage so that when something goes wrong the couple are shocked and get divorced. 3)Just having your close friends and family there makes it sooo much more intimate and special.
2006-09-25 06:57:54 · answer #11 · answered by PrincessB 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋