so who is in favour of them? have they worked for you in the past ever? my friend is all for them and the freedom they entow, but i cant agree with her, but there must be some bad points too.
any opinions helpful, what do you all think?
2006-09-25 05:39:06 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been in this place before. I do not wish to give all the details, but it did not go very well. It is very dangerous and it leads to others getting hurt. Are you considering this? If so, have a change of heart...please!
2006-09-25 05:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dead 2 Self 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
An "open relationship" (in my view) is one where you are just casually dating someone. There is nothing about the relationship that is "committed" (committed - adj
1: bound or obligated, as under a pledge to a particular cause, action, or attitude
2: associated in an exclusive sexual relationship [syn: attached] ).
You simply have a main person who you sleep with.
As long as everyone involved understands that they have no claim on anyone else then there is no problem. However.. this seldom works in that most women once they have the emotional ties to someone have difficulty in letting that person develop other emotional ties with others. Likewise guys have a difficult time with women being physically intimate with someone else besides them.
Can it work? sure... but it takes a lot of talk and communication about the status of the relationship.
2006-09-25 05:44:47 · answer #2 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it's just a way of saying I want to have my cake and eat it too (so to speak and no pun intended). If you don't want to have an exclusive relationship with someone then why not just agree to date and see other people? The answer to that goes back to my first sentence. People want to ensure that they have some form of "ownership" of each other because they do love one another but one party or both want to be able to have a clause written into their established relationship that allows them to enjoy seeing other people sexually. With that agreement there can be no accusations of "cheating."
Here's why that doesn't often work: because at some point one person in an "open" relationship meets another person that supposedly it's okay to have sex with but it ends up becoming something more. Then there is a problem and you end up seeing postings on Yahoo Answers like, "I love two guys," or "I love two women," and they want to know what to do or how to choose.
Another reason it doesn't often work: no matter how much people say it's okay to see other people and they really believe they can deal with an "open" relationship, inevitably somebody gets "jealous."
To me the only way you can have an open relationship is if you really aren't in love with the person OR your views on sex totally match. By that I mean both people are able to separate sexual pleasure from emotional ties. Not many people (particularly women) in my experience are able to do that.
2006-09-25 05:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah how can a open relationship mean that you love someone. If you both agree to have a open relationship then i cant see the problem in that. But i wouldn't have one, there just is no trust or special bond with that one person you love. Woteva floats your boat i suppose.
2006-09-25 09:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by Dave 1987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is up to the person and if they can handle that kind of relationship...i personally couldn't.
I wouldn't date anyone I would just be single....I don't see the point and inthe long run someone will get hurt or you will cause huge problems....I think there is too much drama involved in this.
2006-09-25 05:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by PeachN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Close the door on open relationships. Feelings get hurt, lives destroyed. Utter Chaos.
2006-09-25 05:41:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I worked with a girl who her herself and friends are into open relationships. They have never worked for them because at some point in time jealousy accrues.
2006-09-25 05:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by Didi S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I belive having a open relationship is a good thing to have. It allows u to see what else is out there. And u can still have ur partner.
2006-09-25 06:45:53 · answer #8 · answered by Adam K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The might work for a short while. It is really a matter of mutual consent and understanding. Unfortunately humans are jealous and possessive and want to be monogomous.
2006-09-25 05:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open relationships are OK for some but its usually the ones who are a bit wary of commitment.
2006-09-25 05:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by TMS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋