My godmother and her family won't be able to attend my wedding, b/c she has to mc at her cousin's wedding. Should I move my date to the following weekend? Her and her family have been there my enitre life and I wouldn't feel right without them there...but if I move the date for them, then someone else will want me to do that for them?!?! If I don't move the date, what should I do?
2006-09-25 05:38:47 · 18 answers · asked by Halley G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If none of the arrangements for the day ( church, reception hall, etc.) have been made, by all means move the date so you godmother may attend. Unless invitations have been sent out there shouldn't be a problem with other folks. However if these things have already been put into motion, then you should absolutely go ahead with the wedding as planned. Your godmother should understand.
2006-09-25 06:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by fivestarmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she and her family are important to you AND it's not at the last minute ... go ahead and do this for her if it's not a big deal to you and your fiance'. You don't have to broadcast why the date was changed and you don't have to change it again for anyone else. If it's really difficult to change the date, you can still make an effort to include her and her family in other things like the various partyies, showers, etc... and put together a nice photo album for her and let her know that you really love her and missed her on your special day but understand that she has previous commitments. Can she and her family take part in any of your wedding day? Are the ceremonies and receptions at the same time? If not, is it possible for them to come late or be there and leave early?
Best Wishes!
2006-09-25 05:48:28 · answer #2 · answered by ore2nc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you will regret not having your Godmother at your wedding, then you should change the date. And you don't have to make any apologies for the decision. They'll have to respect the special relationship you have with your Godmother and they will surely understand that you can't change the date for everyone. Everything will be OK. Don't stress.
2006-09-25 05:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Roberts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this same issue on my wedding day and oddly enough it was my godmother that could not attend. Unfortunately she did not make it to my wedding. I decided the right thing for me and my husband was to do what made us happy and to put everyone on the back burner. It was our special day. My godmother whom is also my aunt missed my entire wedding but she did make it to the reception. I was disappointed and hurt that something else was more important but I got over it. I had a beautiful wedding without her.
2006-09-25 05:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by amandaholes19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't printed invitations and programs as of yet.....I say yes. Godmothers are very important and much needed. A wedding is normally made up of the most important people in your life. If she holds that special place in your life, I say change the date.
2006-09-25 08:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do would have been to choose a date and then check with all the most important people (wedding party, parents) and make sure it's clear with them. Now is there anyway to do your wedding late or early enough that she can hit both? It's up to you and your spouse weather you change your special day or not.
2006-09-25 07:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by PrincessB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's far enough in advance and others have not already made airline and hotel reservations, you haven't already reserved the church, ordered the flowers, had the invitations printed, etc., change the date.
If all those things have already been done, there's not much you can do.
It's true that it's your special day, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't consider anyone else's feelings. Go with the option that inconveniences the fewest people and allows the greatest number of people closest to you to attend.
2006-09-25 05:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by sparticle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your gut saying? do YOU want to move the date? is she that important to you? If you think so, then do it, but if you feel like its going to be more trouble than its worth then don't. Is it going to affect a lot of people negatively if you change it? will their be a lot of other weddings on that day that your guests have to decide between...keep this stuff in mind but take it from a bride to be who is finally developing a backbone, you can't please everyone, so do what you feel is best to make your day all you dreamed it would....if they call you bridezilla, take it as a compliment! :) good luck!
2006-09-25 08:40:30 · answer #8 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your Godmother is very important, then change the date so she can be there. It's unlikely others will want you to change the date. You cannot please everyone when it comes to a wedding. Best Wishes and please get help from your mother or a trusted advisor on this. ladygrace
2006-09-25 05:42:14 · answer #9 · answered by Isabella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't move the date for your Godmother, you'll undoubtedly regret it... but make it known to everyone that you'll only do it that one time... & that after that, everybody will either be there or they won't... then, if they can't make it, they'll have to live with regret.
Congratulations!
I wish you oceans of happiness!
2006-09-25 05:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋