is it so bad to lose it? cause i kinda feel guilty and kinda not.. and it wasnt even with my boyfriend..it was to a good friend of mine..and it was spur of the moment..is that bad?
2006-09-25 05:36:36 · 26 answers · asked by Sarah K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If God intended on us being perfect, we would be perfect. No one but Jesus has walked this Earth as perfect, and no one ever will again. We're only human, luv. You think it's a new thing to lose your virginity with someone you don't intend on being with? Boy, do you think the moon is made of cheese too? Just as long as you are a responsible person, why feel guilty about it? I'm not saying go out and be a ho, I'm just saying that you should stop questioning your humanity.
2006-09-25 05:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by Special nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feelings are probably normal. Feeling both good and bad about it. You have to know you were going to loose your virginity at some point -- whether to a boyfriend, a good friend, a hook-up, or a husband. As long as you are satisfied with it, it was not a bad experience, just look at it as it really is -- it is an experience of life. Sex is to be enjoyed and if it happens, it happens. And, sometimes, spur of the moment sex is the best sex there is!
2006-09-25 12:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by Hammer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are sooooo young to be up on here. I feel bad you can't talk to somebody closer to home and have resorted to this online question game where most people (including myself) are just wasting some time and not taking things seriously. Well, to answer your question. NO it is not bad; but YES it is bad to give yourself away so easily. You are a valuable person no matter your background. So, for future be picky because you CAN! And if it was with your best friend, its all good; but make sure you are always treated well.
2006-09-25 12:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Hello A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how you view it. If it was with someone and you enjoyed it I don't see a problem. the only time I see a problem with "loosing it" is when it is forced or either party isn't realy "ready".
If you agreed and you wanted to.. then its fine. Everyone does eventually.
What you DO need to think about though now that you are 'sexually active' is
1- what will I do if I get pregnant? abortion? adoption? keep it?
2- what can I do to protect myself?
3- where can I get the morning after pill (or plan B) in case I need to?
As far as protection goes ALWAYS use a condom and at LEAST one other type of BC (pill, sponge, shot, patch, diaphram, cerival cap, cervical ring, iud, etc). out of all of these condoms are the ONLY ones that help protect against STDs.
finally, before having sex with anyone else you need to have a discussion with your partner on your views of what you would do if you got pregnant. that way they know what they could be getting them selves into. Its not fair to a guy not tell him that you would go to term with a pregnancy and keep the baby (or lie to him and tell him you would abort) just to have sex. he needs to be able to decide if he wants to do this based on your views of conception/life/abortion. otherwise you are trapping him into somethning he may not want.
2006-09-25 12:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess since you're questioning it, it was sorta bad, in your heart and mind. It only matters how you honestly feel about giving yourself to another person. As long as it's concenting and enjoyable, it's okay. If you have regrets afterwards, it probably shouldn't have been done in the first place.
Remember, it's your body to give to whomever and whenever YOU want to. Just don't treat yourself (or others) like a commodity our use sex as a weapon or a tool to control people.
2006-09-25 12:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you have a boyfriend, and slept with someone else, then YES that is bad. Losing your virginity is a personal decision. Obviously you felt like you were ready.
You should consider breaking it off with your boyfriend. If you aren't more concerned about his feelings than that, you shouldn't be with him.
2006-09-25 12:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can not regret for something that you have already done.Just try to live properly in the future and try to explain to your boyfriend what you did.For nothing in life you should regret.Best wishes :)
2006-09-25 12:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, cheer up, darling.
There has to be a first time for everyone.
Now tell me,
where's Kananga?
2006-09-29 09:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by religionman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes & No
It depends on your age and all kinds of different things.
Just don't turn into a hoe
2006-09-25 12:38:15 · answer #9 · answered by PeachN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it had to happen sometime and what better time than a friend as long as you two keep things the same
2006-09-25 12:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋