I'm married with 3 kids ,my wife wants me to get a vasectomy but i don't want to how should i tell her no way?

Answer 1

She probably wants you to do it because a vasectomy is reversible and "fixing" a woman is not reversible.
If you've been married long enough to have 3 kids she's probably at an age where birth control pills, patches, or shots would be a danger to her health.

Answer 2

After three kids, I can certainly understand why she may be ready to make sure there aren't anymore. Has she been on birth control pills at all? What many people don't realize is that birth control pills were never designed to be taken for extended amounts of time (ie...years and years and years). While the side effects are minimal, most dr.s will advise a woman to move onto a more permanent form of birth control is she is positive she is done having children.

Of course, permament birth control is in one of three types...having her tubes tied, his having a vasectomy and abstinence. The last would be hard for most married couples, so the others are the best choice.

So why does your wife feel you should be the one to undergo sterilization?? I can tell your from personal experience, many women feel that since birth control in a realtionship has been their resposibility up until then, the man should be willing to step up on this one. Also, while having her tubes tied is not major suregery, it is surgery. It requires undergoing full anesthesia and all the risks that go with it. Her recovery will be more extended, meaning someone will have to be able to step in and fill her role in the household for at least the first week or so. If she feels she can not count on you for that, it could certainly be a driving force behind her demand.

The other question is why you aren't willing to consider the vasectomy. Are you hoping for another child? Are you worried about the pain or that having it done will somehow decrease your masculinity? Trust me when I say my husband admitted to all three.

Before any final decision is made, you both need to sit down with a dr. you trust and discuss this more. Find out if there are any possible medical issues that may make either of you a better or worse candidate for one of the procedures. Sit with your wife and ask why she is adamant you undergo the vasectomy. Ask a few friend you know who have already done it to get first hand knowledge of the pocedure and recovery. And then take all the information and use it make a decision with your wife. Stop simply refusing..it is making her feel as if she is the only one who is responsible for everything.

Answer 3

First you need to ask yourself why you don't want one. Is it fear or do you want more children?

A vasectomy is a 15 minute procedure that is done with a local anesthetic. In a week you are back to normal and everything works as it did before. You no longer have to worry about contraception so sex can be more spontaneous.

Fro a woman, a tubal ligation is a major operation and a higher risk than a vasectomy. You wife has gone through child birth three times, a vasectomy is not such a big deal.

You should speak to a Urologist before you just say no.

Answer 4

You didn't mention why you don't want to get a vasectomy. Its minor surgery for men and tubal ligation for women is a more involved procedure - not to mention expensive. Some guys still have the stupid idea that they will be impotent after they have a vasectomy (they won't). Do you want more kids with you wife? Are you planning to divorce your wife and have more kids with a new younger wife? Are you a candya5s and afraid of pain?....what is the deal with you? A real husband who loved and respected and was actually concerned about his wife instead of himself would not hesitate to get clipped - after all it is reversable. In this day and age I can't believe there are still guys like you around....

Answer 5

Why would you tell her No Way?? Do you want more children? If neither of you want more children, and you are in a long term relationship, there are less complications for a man to have a vasectomy, than for the woman to take the pill for the next 20 years, or have her tubes tied. There's really no reason to be so closed minded about the situation. I think you just need to sit down and talk about it honestly with each other, and make an agreement together.

Answer 6

Maybe you could offer her an alternative. Get her tubes tied. But, you really should consider getting a vasectomy because if she doesn't want any more kids, then why not? Plus, you should love her enough not to put her through the pain of having another kid.

Answer 7

I got a vasectomy because I wanted done. I also got one cause I no longer wanted kids. If you don't want to get one then don't.

Answer 8

it's a lot easier and less expensive for yours (vasectomy) than for her to get 'fixed'.

wear a rubber and don't get any feeling from sex from now untill the end of time or get 'fixed'.

or don't get ANY SEX . if she finds out you're having an affair, she has all rights to everything you own and you will be paying her untill the day she dies.

think about your options.

Answer 9

Sounds like you should be talking to her about your what you both want. Being she is your wife you should be able to communicate with her. Do you want more kids? You need to be talking with her and exploring all options. You can tell her you do not want to but nicely. Again talk with her!

Answer 10

You should sit down and talk about why you don't want to and why she wants you too. There has to be something that you both can do that will prevent pregnancies, that you both can agree on. As always, keep and open mind.