I have been seeing a married man for a long time and really want him for myself. I know that sounds terrible but I can't seem to find a single guy who will take time to date or do anything. He has been married for many years, children all grown and gone. He is a great husband and I would love to have him for myself. The single men I am meeting just don't turn me on (they don't fit into my image of an attractive man as far as looks, dress, job, interests, sophistication, etc) as much as he does. He is my only man in many many years and I want him for myself. I've losing it aren't I?
2006-09-25 05:22:01 · 25 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's understandable, but yes, you're losing it, because it doesn't sound like he's ready to leave his wife. Don't grow old waiting for him--look out for yourself, and keep looking for the right guy. There's bound to be one out there.
2006-09-25 07:12:02 · answer #1 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are losing it. He's a great husband...To who? Not to his wife if he's cheating with the likes of you. Women like you make me sick. And it's the same old story..now you want him to leave her for you. If he does leave her for you, when he gets tired of you after a couple of years--don't have the nerve to be shocked and angry when you find out he's cheating on you. If he'll do it to her, he will have no problem doing it to you. Actually, he will care less about cheating on you because you knew what type of man he was from the start. You participated in the cheating, allowed it and condoned it. You should only be mad at your dumb self. You need to find a man of your own who is not married and leave that woman's husband alone. Stop being lazy and take the time to look for what you want. He's out there. Right now you are doing a low, slutty & trashy thing by sleeping with a married man. You are going to get everything you deserve...and that just might mean you'll get him. You should remember two things:1. God sees you and him. 2. What goes around usually comes around. If you think you are going to just live happily ever after once you've taken this woman's husband....you're in for a rude awakening.
2006-09-25 05:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep...you are a goner. He is never going to leave the life he has to be with you! He's getting everything he needs right now. Wife at home and a mistress on the side. And you can't find a man because you keep comparing them to this guy you are seeing now and no one will ever measure up to him, Get rid of the marreid guy and then try dating. Things should work out a lot better for you once you get that monkey off your back
2006-09-25 05:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. He isn't a great husband if he's cheating on his wife.
2. You can't find a single guy because you too busy and focused with a married guy.
3. He hasn't left his wife, so why would he now?
4. I think you are loosing it.
2006-09-25 05:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are attracted to him BECAUSE you can't have him. and he's attracted to you becuase he's got you wrapped around his finger and he has no commitment to you. the relationship is obviously based on him being in control and you trying to catch a prize that is already caught by his wife... if it makes you happy more power to you... but do you really think you'll be happy with this situation in 5 years? 10 years? don't fool yourself by saying "by then he'll leave his wife for me"... no... he won't... he likes having 2 women so it's either you and the wife or you and another mistress.
talk to a relationship therapist and get some perspective on your situation... you deserve happiness and a bright future... not a life of being the "other woman" until he tires of you... he's not worthy of your time and attention... YOU deserve better.
2006-09-25 05:32:28 · answer #5 · answered by Patti B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant find a decent man?So you take someone else.This means you have low self esteem and that your a whore. His wife might beat the **** out of you.I know I would if you tryed to break up my marraige.Why dont you get a clue he is married even if they divorce you can never trust him.Theres always someone younger better looking or more mysterious a cheater is a cheater.Its hopeless.
2006-09-25 05:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok think of this...
you are happily married to your dream guy( this man if you want) and you find out hes been seeing another woman... how would you feel well thats what his wife will be dont be selfish she had him first and you ve got to respect that!!! there are many men in this world and you can move on and find someone else move or go on vacation and meet new men!!
2006-09-25 05:28:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter how you justify it you still are a self centered home wrecker. That I truly hope and believe that you will get what you deserve in the end. I can not think of anything worse than a home wrecker that knows that they are doing it but doesn't care that they are destroying lives in their quest for self fulfillment at any price
2006-09-25 05:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet his wife. See the pains she will go through if you attempted to steal her husband's love. Put your self in her position and most likely you will realize where you are wrong.
2006-09-25 05:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by abhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep him on the side or better yet he is keeping you on the side. Keep it going till you lose interest and then go find someone else
2006-09-25 05:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by nice guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋