my daughter went to her dad's for the summer straight a student , pageant queen, cheerleader.. now thats she's home she things she is some big bully, always wants to fight people. acts like a want to be thug. quit cheerleading and don't care about grades.or people's feelings
2006-09-25 05:19:38 · 12 answers · asked by cottoncandie1969 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you need to call dad and find out exactly what went on over at his house for the summer. It sounds as though she got mixed up in the wrong crowd. Sit down and have a heart to heart with her. Don't put down her change in character, just question it and ask her what the heck happened to change her view so drastically. Once she explains, ask her about a game plan for her future and how she plans on reaching her goals with this new attitude. If she has it all "Figured out", let her go with it for awhile and allow her to fall down and realize this way of life isn't working. She needs to realize this on her own mom. Kids, especially teenagers go through all sorts of weird stages trying to fit in. As parents, we may not like them, but we have to let them learn and grow. And this is going to be really trying for you to deal with it, especially since she went to the other end of the spectrum with her lifestyle change, but consider this....things could always be worse. She could be doing drugs, she could be pregnant, she could be a run-away, abusive towards you, etc. The possibilities are endless. Just keep an eye on her and the lines of communication open so you aren't in the dark. I wish you the best of luck and all the patience in the world.
2006-09-25 05:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a child goes from one extreme to another and there is no real reason why it happened- most of the time something is going on inside of them that they need help with. Do you think she may have been harmed in any way at her dads house by someone? I would suggest talking to her, and trying to find out what is wrong with her. Then I would suggest taking her to the doctors and then to a child therapist. They may be able to help her now before it is too late. I have a 14 year old, and when her behavior started to change, i sat down and found out that she was being pressured to do things by not only her friends, but guys at school as well. After talking things out, things are a lot more open, and her behavior has improved dramatically.
Good luck!!!
2006-09-25 05:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep loving her as gently and firmly as you did before. Her behavior may be a result of seeing how her Dad acted, or maybe she is upset internally about her Dad not being so much a part of her life. When I and my brother and sister used to visit my Dad, my Mom would get upset because we seemed to be more agitated and hard to work with when we got back. I've heard that 14 is one of the hardest ages in a teenagers life.
This link may be of help as well:
http://www.clubmom.com/go/teens/behavior?fromPage=216743
There is also a Christian organization called "Focus on the Family", and they have a web-site. They do clinical research and behavioral research and tie it in with solid values to offer good advice for raising a family. Their web-site is: http://www.family.org/
Be encouraged! Have a nice day!
2006-09-25 05:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by missiongurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may have nothing to do with going to her dad's at all and she may be going through that tough move into being a teenager.
2006-09-25 05:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you put her on punishment & show her that your not playing a game with her. Monitor every move she makes until she can show you she can act better.
2006-09-25 05:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find the biggest belt in your closet and let her back side become best friends with that belt
2006-09-25 05:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to here about things way acting
2006-09-25 05:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to her and not let her go back to her dads! YIKES! i am very sorry to hear about that. I hope she comes around for you!
2006-09-25 05:21:00 · answer #8 · answered by mml619 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
UNFORTUNATELY, YOU SHOULD JUST SIT BACK AND WATCH...IT IS A PHASE...I WENT THROUGH IT. DONT LET HER TAKE IT TOO FAR THOUGH.....YOU ARE HER MOTHER, YOU SHOULD KNOW WHEN IT IS BEST TO STEP IN.
2006-09-25 05:23:54 · answer #9 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she might be using drugs or alcohol, find out quick!
2006-09-25 05:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by mimi22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋