I fell in love with my best guy friend. I couldn't take it anymore, so I told him and when I realized I wasn't going to get the same response from him, I also said I think it would be best for me if we weren't friends anymore. I didn't say it to hurt him, it's just easier for me to get over someone if I don't have contact with them, and he knows this. I didn't hear from him for a few days. Then he calls me, saying I'm "running away" and "throwing away our friendship" and says I need to rethink this. I think it's best I don't have him in my life anymore, but I do really miss him. Should I push my feelings for him aside, just stay in contact, have a distant friendship with him and see what happens? Or let it be and let him come to me if one day (when he's out of this party stage he's in) he realizes he does care for me and the time is right?
2006-09-25 05:18:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I appreciate the responses and I totally see what everybody is saying, but how will I get over him keeping him around? And what happens when he tells me he has found someone else?
2006-09-25 05:42:30 · update #1
Its better if you throw your feelings and stay in contact with him because friendship is very precious and dont lose it for some silly reasons.Ofcourse yours is not a silly reason but anyway you can continue your friendship.
2006-09-25 05:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by sunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just became very honest with him when you told him about how you feel for him and I'm sure that deep in his heart, he appreciates your love for him. Perhaps, he is not yet ready to have a romantic relationship with anyone. Or may be, no offense meant, he just wants you as a friend.
But no matter how he feels about you, the most important thing for you to do is to preserve your friendship which I believe is a product of your long-term association with him. It will be very unfair for him if you will end your friendship just because he doesn't feel the same way with you.
In the long run, he may really end up loving you because the more he sees and talks to you, the more you go out together and have fun, the greater the possibility of his falling for you. You know, togetherness is a factor in falling in love and you may just be wasting this chance for him to fall for you when you get out of your friendship with him.
Do the same things that you were doing before concerning your friendly relationship with him. Let him know that you are still there despite the truth that you divulged which did not get a positive response from him but don't mention your unwavering feelings for him again. He remembers that because that is something really worth remembering.
You will only hurt yourself and the feelings of that guy if you avoid him and doing so will be to your disadvantage. Be happy that at least you still have him in your life as a friend and remember this... believe in your heart that if you and that man are meant for each other, at the right time, Destiny will make you see yourself in his arms. If you are not, then Destiny will bring to your life the man who deserves your tears and love. All the best.
2006-09-25 12:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang girl, don't lose a friend over this. Good and true friends are so hard to come by. He may have rejected you because the thought of losing you from a "love" relationship going sour. Give him some time to think about it. Who knows what time will bring maybe in time he will warm up to the idea. But still be his friend, don't you feel a bit guilty from walking away from a friend like that? Just be his friend and let nature take its course. Who knows what will happen.
2006-09-25 12:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by lucyinthesky111l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should stay contact hey he was a friend 2 u and one day maybe he will relize that he have feelings 4 u that always happen especially when u have a friend that is a guy
2006-09-25 12:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same thing and i stayed mates with him and we've been together for 2 and a half years now. be patient either he will realise he feels the same or he won't either way he will appreciate you more because you told him ur feelings and didn't get too weirded out by it trust me its woth it to be patient
2006-09-25 12:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by laura g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes down to it you miss him. Over time your feelings will fade or perhaps his feeling will grow. Do you really want to lose his friendship?
2006-09-25 12:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very good idea
2006-09-25 12:28:58 · answer #7 · answered by bprice215 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋