My brother-in-law is your typical chauvinistic male who uses women for sex and shelter. In the last 7 years I have watched him meet a woman, move in with her, become a control freak, and then cheat on them 3 or 4 times. Every time he does this same pattern he always makes some grand gesture to proove to his family that the newest relationship is "the one" and expects all of us to run to him and pat him on the back. This week he has once again planned a gathering with his newest conquest to look for the pat on the back once again. My question is 1. Do I go to the gathering and look at the new women and tell her to where armor (he likes to hit women during the control phase) and not unpack boxes cause he will cheat on her within 2 months? or 2. Do I just take a stand and not go to glorify his latest attempt to proove how wonderful he is to himself? Either way I am not going to be well liked by my wife's parents but am trying to decide which way would get my point across better.
2006-09-25 05:14:35 · 18 answers · asked by jvano35 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I just wouldn't go. That way you aren't saying "bad"(even though true) things about him and you don't have to raise your blood pressure by witnessing the b.s. show.
2006-09-25 05:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go and confrot the new woman. One of two things will happen, she will take your words to heart and go make, possibly a clearer decision, and potentinally saving her a huge heartbreak, or she will go into denial and believe that she can "change" him. Either way she'll know that she's gonna have some challenges and your brother in law will see that you don't agree with his lifestyle. It may cause tension in the family but doing something is what I would do. Good luck!
2006-09-25 05:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can do 1 and 2 tell her but be anonymous like in a letter mailed to her type it out with no return address and go show your face for an hour and leave make up an excuse as to way your leaving like you don't feel good but start to complain about that before you and wifey go and say I'll go for a little while but then leave sooner or later he will run into the right one that wont take his sh** and turn the tables on him every dog has his day
2006-09-25 05:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Go to the gatherings but stay aloof.
2 If you think it appropriate talk to your wife and let her see your concern for a lady being wasted by her brother.
2006-09-25 05:23:53 · answer #4 · answered by abhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would invite some of his exs to come with and then do number 1.
what's he going to be thinking when he walks into the room with his new woman and sees 4 or 5 of his ex girlfriends there?
i would love to be a fly on the wall then.
2006-09-25 06:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by craina c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course u should tell the lady what ur brother in law is in reality... If possible bring his ex gfs in the party
2006-09-25 05:18:19 · answer #6 · answered by Rose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to actually make a point, simply dont go. You make take some guff from your wife, but it may be better than watching the spectacle.
2006-09-25 05:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky one. I would have to opt with the not going version. If this woman is into your brother-in-law, what ever you say will be bull in her eyes. Unfortunatly she will have to see for herself, that she deserves better.
2006-09-25 05:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go. I wouldn't tell him either that you are not going. He is not a nice person. If he asks you why you didn't go. Tell him how you really feel. Be honest with your wife as well, tell her why you choose not to go & she should stand by her man.
2006-09-25 06:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by liz7768 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save the poor lady from the torture, no 2 thoughts about it.
2006-09-25 05:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by cuteteddy761 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋