i really love him alot and i wanna say yes but i dont no just yet what i should do. i'm asking everyones opionion.
2006-09-25 04:49:49 · 63 answers · asked by MsTop10 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If there's any hestating then I would wait, whats the hurry if he's the right one he's not going anywhere, right
2006-09-25 04:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by accvining 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just say no. Honestly, if you've only been dating for 2 months, [or 2 1/2...whatever it's the same thing] you really shouldn't be thinking that far ahead. Marriage brings on so many complications that are not even apparent to you at 2 months. There are a lot that you don't even see until you actually get married. DON'T RUSH IN TO ANYTHING! That is my advice above everything. I don't know how old you are, but you seem to be younger. Young enough that marriage should not be on your Top 10 List of things to worry about. Be patient. Love takes time, and developing a relationship that will last takes time. Just be careful whatever you do. Just tell your boyfriend that you aren't sure right now and let him know when you are. Which shouldn't be for a while.
2006-09-25 05:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by mandarin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't know, then wait. If you love him and can see yourself with him for the rest of your life, the father of your children and your best friend, then say yes. Only you can know and examine what's in your heart. I was engaged to my husband a month after we met. We met in November, we're engaged by Christmas and were married eight months later, in August of 2005. It's been an amazing, wonderful year and I'm glad that we didn't wait. We are growing together as a couple and are continually learning new things about each other. Being married, the best behavior drops quickly and you see the real person.
Whatever you decide, I wish you all the best.
2006-09-25 05:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by ore2nc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would not get married when I'm in love. And usually people are in love in the beginning of the relationship. I would wait a couple of more months, when the relationship goes through some challenges. Then, you and him will see more each others character, and will be more likely to decide in a rational way the future of the relationship. Remember a marriage should last a lifetime, try not to fit into the 50% that does get divorced.
2006-09-25 04:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should know in your heart whether you should say yes or no to this guy's proposal. If you have to come to this community of complete strangers to help you make such an important decision then I definitely think that you are not only NOT ready to get married, but that you also have some growing up and maturing to do. No one should have to tell you whether you should marry someone or not, that's something you decide to do because you love the person and you want to spend your life with them & dedicate yourselves to one another. Think hard, look within yourself, and then make your decision.
2006-09-25 05:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by fabulous diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it should not be a half n half decision... also, you have provided so little information that no answer here can be trusted. There is no formula - 2.5 months plus love equals marriage.... it depends upon your family, finances, can he be trusted for the rest of your life!!! Big stuff to consider.
Just so everyone knows, it says 2.5 months, not years... I don't know how old you are, I don't know enough to really make any suggestion except, think carefully, this is a big decision..
My brother is proposing to his G/F when they go to China. She will definately say yes, but they have been together for 6 years... What is the rush anyway?
2006-09-25 04:54:18 · answer #6 · answered by Jeremy D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a toughie. I knew when I first met my husband that I wanted to marry him. We were together for 1 1/2 years before getting engaged and we were together 3 1/2 years before we got married. Personally, had he asked me after 2 1/2 months, I would tell him if he really loved me then he could wait until I was ready. So, if you're ready now, say yes. If not, say no.
I have a friend that met her husband and after two weeks they got married. They've been together for 8 years and are doing great. I had to experience living with my husband first- I have weird habits and I had to see how they'd work with his weird habits.
Good luck and congrats for finding true love
2006-09-25 05:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter if you love him. A lot of ex-husbands/wives still love eachother, they just didn't realize they were not compatible until after they were married.
The advice I was given is wait two cycles (years) before getting engaged. That's the amount of time it takes to see most of who a person is, and to understand them and understand your relationship.
You can't wear love blinders (using love as the ultimate excuse to do something). If you are still in High School or below, forget it. Between the time you are in high school and your first few years of college is the time the both of you are going to change the most.
If you are past that point, you should already know better.
2006-09-25 04:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by gen_ex 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Their is no minimum time you need to date before getting engaged.....I know people who dated for 7 years who got divorced after a year.......but think this through, do you really know him? This is a lifetime with this person you are talking about! If you decide to say yes, consider a long engagement (don't sink a lot of nonrefundable deposits in to early)...or tell him to come talk to you in 6 months or whenever you feel comfortable with! Do what your heart tells you, but don't rule out your brain!
2006-09-25 08:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happend to me one time,,I had only 1 month with this guy and he ask me to marry him,but like I had been divorce I always think tweece before getting marry,some times rushing things could turn out that he was not the one,,, so you dont hurt his feelings you could tell him that yes,,, and you can be engaed for some months while you know him,,you dont have to nessecary need to marry him soon,,,
2006-09-25 07:14:30 · answer #10 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that question. Are you happy with him? Are things equal? Do you both have chores? How is your communication skills? How is his? can you talk - does he listen? There are many important factors that go into a marriage. ITS a big step. Are you living together? do you both want kids? do you share the same values?
I suggest making a honest list of things you want in a marriage, and him the same and then, when things are mellow and you both are relaxed share the list.. and keep and open mind.
Marriage is about giving and sharing..
2006-09-25 10:57:25 · answer #11 · answered by meowymew 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋