I'm currently in counseling because I can't move on from losing my family.?

Question

Due to religious reasons I don't have the same closeness with my family as I once had. They can't really have much to do with me anymore. I miss them so much that I've entered counseling. Should I hide my true beliefs and go back just for my family or should I continue counseling to deal with losing them?

Answer 1

I can't see how beliefs can keep people apart, unless they intentionally like put salt on wounds.

I mean you either stand up for and defend your beliefs or you keep them to yourself.

A lot depends on the openmindedness of people.

You don't give many details about your problems here.

I have diverse friends. Muslims, Jews, Born Agains, Hindus, Atheists, Agnostics, Communists.

Some of them, not all of them can get together and get into heated debate.

We do this at parties and other functions.

Our communist friend can't keep her views to herself, so she always throws out that line about "that will all end when World Communism finally happens" I then tell her that isn't possible.

Then we get into it and I back her into a corner she can't get out of, even with her PH D and MS in two fields.

The bottom line with world communism today is that we'd all be living on $5k in salary or less. That means most of the world has to take 30 big steps backwards to reach the one or two steps forward the poor would take.

No one will go for that.

But no one has any hard feelings. It's just jousting.

Now recently I went out with a friend who's another radical. She goes to a black Apostolic Pentacostal church and she's into Rapture, end of times and is now getting into speaking in tounges. I have problems with a lot of that, but I stay nice, PC and don't get into arguments. Especially not on their ground. It's disrespectful and there is no way I'd win, not against 300 of them and a minister. I'd be out of my league. So I just enjoy the experience and learn from it.

Of course, like I say, you gotta be open minded.

Now, with another friend who went from being non-Jewish, Jewish to living in a Born Again Christian commune, he invited us for one of those Friday Night sessions.

Our neighbors, whose father is a Minister, took deep breaths, giggled and wished us luck, as they knew what we were in for, even though we didn't.

I ended up jousting with the house leader, because they were in active conversion mode. I tend to resist that. I have my faith and I stick to it. I don't need conversion.

I was baptized, I went to Lutheran school the first four years of my life, I knew the Bible cover to cover, although not chapter and verse or to memory, but I can paraphrase much of it.

I held my own against him and we all parted friendly.

My biggest argument was that my friend hadn't changed much at all. He was still uptight and unsure.

I told the house leader to have be back again when my friend was more like the house leader. That would impress me.

Answer 2

you're her mom. Im sorry however the way i become raised, even now at 34 i be attentive to better than to curse my mom out. i might get slapped suitable interior the mouth, and you be attentive to what? i admire and appreciate my mom better than something. You the two make her quit doing what she's doing and minimum, appreciate the undeniable fact which you're the grownup, or purely quit each and all of the accountability to her, she desires discipline, and in case you won't be able to supply that to her then you definately locate somebody who can. She isnt the only individual thats had a coarse formative years many human beings did. that is not any excuse in my opinion.

Answer 3

Can't you spend time with your family without getting into religion with them? Even the most religious families should be able to find other things to discuss. If you're an adult, you certainly have the right to choose your own path; your family should be able to understand that. Be who you are. You'll never be happy pretending, even for your family.

If your family just won't accept you, that doesn't mean you can't continue to care about them. Continue sending cards and letters. It will be good for you, even if they never respond; and who knows that it won't melt the ice on their hearts one day. Also, seek out the fellowship of like-thinkers. You can never really replace a family, but finding a faith family or support group of fellow nontheists (if that's the case) can help you feel less alone.

Answer 4

You can't chose family over God so if your faith is a true faith and really what God would want then stay in counseling over losing them but also I'd try to keep in touch with them as well. If you are in some kind of cult that won't let you talk to your family or if they are and that religion won't let them talk to you then these are false religions and I'd stay away from them.

Answer 5

blow the beliefs they may not be right anyway,swallow your pride and go back to your family,blood is thicker than water,and what can a beleif do to help you when you are in need,you americans are all religious freaks that have been brainwashed ,religion is the root of all evil and all the wars that have ever been fort

Answer 6

The Bible says sometimes we will lose loved ones... . But can you still communicate with them.. maybe a not to say I love you? I'd stick to my religious beliefs. Are you seeing a religious councilor?

As Suzanne asks, we need a little more information.

Answer 7

it is according to what religion you are a member of if it is a religion that beleive in the father the son and holy spirit stay on that road you are on the right road. no matter who falls by the wayside

Answer 8

Tell us more about these "religious reasons." It would help us to further understand where you're coming from, so we can give you better advice.

Peace.

Answer 9

which religion have u align yourself with? it's worth giving up?