can anyone help with my troubled son?

Question

My son has just started reception class and he was fine at first then all of a sudden he has started hitting the dinner nannies and scratching other children but this is only at meal time. Also he is getting terribly tired on an early afternoon and just wont stay awake, WHAT CAN I DO???????????

RECEPTION MEANING THE YAER AFTER NURSERY

Answer 1

Its not easy is it - my daughter has just started too and we are having problems with her upseting other children eg shutting doors in their faces etc. We are hoping that this will pass and she will settle in, but we were told at our school that if your child is too tired let them have the day off as it will not help them to settle. Are you able to take your son out at lunch time ? and if not try him on packed lunch if he is on dinners or vice versa.

Hang on in there and goodluck !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Did your son go to nursery school or creche before starting school? Did you have these problems then? Make sure he is getting enough sleep at night, a proper nightime routine is vital. I sympathise with the person who has suffered from ADHD but I think we are far too quick to label children these days. I went through months of my son having all kinds of "evaluations" because the teachers thought he had ADHD, in the end all it did was make my son depressed and wonder what was wrong with him. Absolutely nothing!! It was a very stressful time for me and my son. 4 years old is far too young to diagnose this problem. When I left south africa when he was 8 and moved to the UK not once was ADHD mentioned at his school. Unfortunately at 4 he will find it difficult to vocalise what the problem is but you must try to get him to open up as to why he is behaving like this. Persevere, it will all come right in the end, sometimes it is a long hard journey but you will get there in the end. My son is now 13 and just started his 2nd year at high school and finally the penny has dropped and he has realised that he has to stick in. My thoughts are with you.

Answer 3

You say reception class is the year after nursery. It isn't clear whether you were minding your child previously or whether he was in a nursery. Regardless, your son had found regularity and security in his previous environment. The transition will of course have emotional tolls on your son and he will need to deal with these in his own particular way. In his case, it appears to manifest itself in a slightly aggressive form. The fact that he sleeps in the afternoon would appear to support the fact that he is emotionally drained. I guess however that he will adjust to his new environment and that his current behaviour is simply transitional. In summary, he is not happy with his new environment. Either you ride the storm for a while or try to council him in the evenings so that he understands that there will always be security at home, even when his day time environment changes.

Answer 4

Children act out for many different reasons. He may need more one-on-one attention and in reception class he is not getting it. He is getting attention when he acts out but that is negative attention. When you have dinner at home is he made to sit still and quite. Does he cause a fuss over food he doesn't like or throw things? I would talk to his teacher and doctor about the way he is acting and his tiredness. Best wishes.

Answer 5

Take him to a doctor and make sure he is healthy, then beat his @ss everytime he pulls that shi.t. It is just like fire. after it burns you the first time, you are reluctant to touch it again. However, the overall health should be addressed first. Maybe its more than a behavor problem. Are you there for the class? Are you sure the nannies aren't provoking him? If he was fine before and he is acting up now then something happend between point A and point B, I would read between the lines and check it out.

Answer 6

he is a normal kid he has to learn to share and not to hit etc
when at home if he does this behavious with other kids say no and remove hime from the situation even at this age bounries must be set

also normal to be tired from getting up to afternoon is a long time let him have a little nap when he a little older he will cope much better

take him out after school finishe bed time by 6 you will be amazed the difference

Answer 7

I would take a serious look at what he is eating??? is something triggering him off?? if possible can you not take him home for lunch, until this problem settles down. Also he is only 4? and the day is very busy, any wonder he is getting tired, i would try and get him to bed earlier in the evening as now his days are more fuller he will need the extra rest.

Answer 8

What on earth is reception class?

If hes tired in the early afternoon, try putting him down for a nap!

Answer 9

he is probably ghitting them because he doesnt want to eat or is overly hungry and doesnt like waiting in line/competition. get down on his eye level and firmly say hitting is unacceptable and one of his treats will be withdrawn or he will be punished with time in the corner if he does it again.

let him sleep if he gets tired in the afternoon most children need a midday nap and he can take his in th afternoon if that suits better. he needs sleep as he is still growing.

take time to do things with him to show you are interested in him and he may not play up so much. also dont get too stressed yourself.

Answer 10

I reckon the secret is in something he's eating.

I let my 2 year old boy have cola once and he turned into a child from hell, hitting, punching, behaviour that was totally out of character. Can you give packed lunch, avoid food with artificial colourings etc.