How does God feel about birth control?

Question

I need an honest, christian view about my marriage. Before my husband and I got married he said he always wanted a big family so I thought we'd probably have a child. Now that we're married, he says he doesn't want one now and maybe never. He wants me to keep taking my birth control pills. I really want a baby. I wondered if anyone knew of any bible verses that I could read that would give me some comfort and understanding in my situation. Is God even ok with birth control? How does he feel about "withdrawl" which is something else that he does to prevent pregnancy. I know this is a weird subject and please don't respond if you only have critisizing or distasteful answers. Thanks and God Bless.

To answer a few questions some may have, my husband is a christian too. He has 2 children age 10 and 12 from his previous marriage, and I have one son age 4 but we do not have one of our own. Financially we will be fine having another child. I am 29 and he 35. Thanks to all of the answers from believers. If you're not a believer of God then don't even answer this questions.

Answer 1

I know what you are going through.

I went through the same thing. I think it is wrong when we are deceived by someone; especially when it's our spouse. Telling you he wanted a big family and now doesn't want even one is deceitful.

I understand you really want a baby. Ask yourself this: by forcing him to have a child he doesn't want, will this be good or the best thing for the baby? You must look at what will be best for the child. I know what it's like to have this desire in your heart (for a baby). But know this.

If you get pregnant without your husbands' knowledge, he will be resentful; not only to you but ALSO to the child. That is not a good thing. I decided to do everything in my power to not get pregnant. I did this for the unborn child.

I would strongly recommend praying about this...

As for birth-control...the Holy Bible / scriptures do not address this issue specifically.

I would tell you that as long as you can mentally/emotionally, physically and financially have children, have as many as you'd like...as long as you and your husband are in agreement.

BTW, what are your husbands beliefs?

Children are a blessing from God; a gift. We must be good stewards of this gift.

I wish you the best, comfort and peace with the living God and His Son Jesus.

P.S. You have one other choice...if you really want children and your husband is not in agreement...there's divorce. Again, I would pray about this.

Answer 2

it really depends on what denomination you are, but if you believe as some of my friends and family, birth control is not a sin. abortion is. give your husband time. he hanged his mind once he can do it again. withdrawal isn't a birth control, it is a misconception. sperm gets ppl pregnant not c(u)m. sperm can come out at almost anytime not just in the ejaculate. sorry i cant give you a bible verse. i remember seeing a page in my family bible that had situations with references to different verses. it is a large Bible. maybe if you don't find what you need here you can look for something like it. i hope this helps in some way.

Answer 3

I thinks this question has less to do with birth control and more to do with the tension between you and your husband. You want a baby and he doesn't. This is a big factor. I recommend marriage counseling, perhaps with a therapist or even with your pastor over this issue. Your husband may hold it against you if you decide to have a baby when he doesn't want one and it could destroy your marriage. God does not want you to suffer over this decision. My prayers are with you.

Answer 4

I can only answer as a Catholic.

God hates it. It destroys a possible human life. Withdrawl doesn't always work. A religious stand point is to not take birth control. There is supposed to be a rhythem method you can use, but that's rather iffy.

As much as religion says don't use birth control, many do. I think you should talk to your husband since it looks like you want a kid. Try to get him to understand your point of view. Bring up religion only if you must.

Answer 5

If you really want to know.... look it up. Dont listen to people you dont know. They may be right or wrong. Read the Bible and look it up. Pls. Some people are telling its good or that its wrong. And i do believe you should bring God into your marriage. He should be with you at all time. Good bless you.

Answer 6

He is in control of pregnancy not you. If a person does not want children, they should not have intercourse. They should always engage in intercourse with the idea that it is a life-giving act weather it leads to life or not. Think of the Crucifixion itself--at the time of Jesus death, the veil in the temple was torn into--much like the tearing of the hymen--Jesus entered the Holy of all Holy to give us life.

Answer 7

As a Catholic I can tell you that birth control is viewed as wrong! and the rythim is usually used along with the withdraw method!

Answer 8

He's all for it.i dont know of a passage you can read, but if your going to bring a child in to this world it should be with the consent of both parents.i think a better form of birth control would be temperance

Answer 9

He doesn't exist. He doesn't feel anything about anything.

Please, don't base something as important as whether or not to have a kid on superstitious religious beliefs. You know that a baby is conceived when a sperm meets an egg. You know how to control whether that sperm meets that egg. The decision to let that happen and bring another being into this world should be based on more than outdated superstitions. You have a brain. You know how to figure out the benefits and costs of raising a child. Think for yourself, in your situation, whether this would be a good idea or not.

Answer 10

Take your decision, and leave religion or God out of this, cos the responsibility for the kids you bring to the world would be yours anyway. Make your decision and face the consequences boldly, don't shirk it.