I am 16 and he's 24 that's why y mother says she can press rape charges against him and have him deported.I asked and google it and it's statutory rape.It's unfair.What am I supposed to do?I love him.What if I don't cooperate?I don't wanna get him in trouble.I LOVE HIM.What is so wrong?It is unfair.
Please tell me what to do to help him.I don't have much time.
2006-09-25 03:55:28 · 31 answers · asked by Jazz 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Immigration
He's a better person than my mother.He's working.My mother doesn't have a job.And my boyfriend was right .She is a racist *****
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2006-09-25 04:32:15 · update #1
I didn't know what to do and my friends told me I should ask Yahoo and I had never done such things before.and people are ganging up against me.He was right.
2006-09-25 04:45:53 · update #2
"Can my parents report my boyfriend and have him deported?"
The quick answer to your question is "Yes."
If your boyfriend is in the U.S. illegally, then anyone could report him to the U.S. Department of Homeland Security or immigration agencies that might then move to deport him. If he committed a crime, such as unlawful intercourse with a minor, then the chances of him being prosecuted and sent to prison increase significantly-- or if he is not prosecuted for the crime then the chances of him being deported increase significantly. Either way he's probably screwed.
Although it might hurt, sever all ties with him. And when you've turned 18 and still think you love him, then find him and see if it works out.
[This is not legal advice. You should consult a licensed attorney-at-law for legal advice and representation before making decisions that may affect your legal rights.]
2006-09-26 03:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by ParaNYC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do to help him. I don't really think you love him though, which I know may difficult for you to understand. HONESTLY: There is no reason a 24 year old man would pursue a 16 year old girl for her "mature mind" and "personality." Trust me. I'm not trying to say you are wrong or stupid, or whatever, I'm just saying please REALLY think about what you're doing and what kind of position you are putting yourself in. You are only 16!!! Let's say you live until you're 86, do you really want to be looking at the same mans' face for the next 70 years?
Try and see where your parents are coming from... what would you think if you were your daughter? I know I wouldn't want someone having sex with my daughter at 16... especially if he is an illegal immigrant that you don't know anything about. You need either break things off or let your parents do what they're going to do. It will be much better for you in the long run.
2006-09-25 11:05:21 · answer #2 · answered by superrix83 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What in the hell is a 24 year old doing messing around with a 16 year old?!?! It SHOULD be statutory rape!
Honey, I think in this case your parents may be right. See, I do not deny your feelings for the "man", but are his "feelings" true for you? Or is he looking at you and thinking "Hmm. . . a way to legally remain in the US. . ."? I think that you really need to find and date guys more your age. You need to grow up and mature more in the "emotional" department. How can you offer someone your heart when you really don't know what your heart wants?
Again, I am not denying your feelings for him. But take it from me, he will break your heart when someone older comes along, or another girl does (if he isn't already). I mean, let's look at the differences in age:
24: Can legally go to the bars, nightclubs and buy alcohol
16: Can't do any
24: Has graduated high school, college (if he went), and is getting his career and adult life really started
16: Still has to finish high school, start college (if desire to go), and hasn't even really thought about what they are going to do with their life
24: Has dated, and according to the polls and surveys, has more than likely "done it"
16: Maybe has "dated" a guy in school, possibly gone out a few times, but nothing very serious; maybe has done it with a guy. . .
24: Legally able to vote, make their own decisions when it comes to their lives, body, and can leave the country. They can legally go into an R rated movie without hassle or having to have an "adult" with them.
16: Can't legally make any decisions along the lives of their health care, the laws of the land, and can not leave the country without their parent's permission. They can not legally go into an R rated movie without having someone over the age of 18 with them.
There are many "gaps" that are HUGE at this point in your life, and will get smaller as you get older.
What to do to help him? If you truly love him, you will break up with him and leave him the hell alone. Your parents are not going to go through with things if you do that. They are truly looking out for your best interests. LISTEN TO THEM!
When you are older and have finished school and started your career, if you truly love him, then you two will be together. Love doesn't change. True love lasts forever and doesn't change with the scenery or age range. When you are 24, he will be 32. The age gap is a lot smaller in the sense of where you both are in your lives and what you both want. You will be ready to give your life to him for the RIGHT reasons - not just because you "love" him.
2006-09-25 11:14:05 · answer #3 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, hun, but no real man who is 24 years old really wants to be with a 16 year old girl unless he is a pervert. You may not like it, but it's true. You're mother can press charges because what he is doing is ILLEGAL. If you don't cooperate it's still going to happen. You are 16 years old, you should be in school, not having sex with older men. If you were my daughter, irregardless of the color of that man's skin, I would have him in jail and you would never leave the house. Why? Because I love my children, I want them safe, I don't want them sweet-talked into bed by manipulative men who should know better, and you can bet they'd better deport a guy who did that to my daughter. If they didn't, I'd kill him.
2006-09-25 12:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jazz:
I'm going to give you words of wisdom, please remember this through out your life. NOTHING will mess up a girl's/woman's life more than the phrase: "but I LOVE him". That means that there are some females who will tolerate the most degrading circumstances just to have some male in their life.
Put your emotions aside for a moment, if you can, and ask yourself: "I'm a 16 year old GIRL, why is a grown 24 year old MAN interested in me"? Answer! Because he can manipulate you into doing things that a 24 year old WOMAN his own age wouldn't do
Your mother LOVES you and is looking out for your best interests. She should report him to the police and get a Restraining Order against him to keep you apart.
I know you think you can't live without him ("but, I love him"), but you'll be better off dating boys that are 16 or 17, you have more in common with them.
2006-09-25 11:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by Peedlepup 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Got bad news for you, young lady: Your mother CAN have him deported and you can be forced to cooperate because you're a minor. And I'm going to be extremely blunt here: YOU'RE SIXTEEN YEARS OLD. YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT LOVE IS. You never should have messed around with this guy in the first place. He took advantage of you because you're young and naive, and he's basically using you for sex. Of course, if you ask him he'll tell you it's all a vicious pack of lies and he loves you more than anything, but he'll tell you that because he knows you're young and naive and gullible enough to believe it. Take off the rose-colored glasses. There will be no happily-ever-after with you and this guy. If he doesn't get deported he'll throw you out like yesterday's trash when he's done with you and find some other chica to take your place. Your mother is actually doing you a favor, so wake up and help your mother give that rapist the boot in the @$$ he so richly deserves.
2006-09-25 11:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by sarge927 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
It's not unfair. The law is there to protect children like you and if your boyfriend broke the law then he should be punished. He is an adult and should know better than to mess with jail-bait.
If you were my daughter you wouldn't be allowed out of the house until you were 18 and I would press every charge I could against him.
2006-09-25 11:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by myste 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your mother loves you and it is her job to care for you. You obviously are not mature enough to understand that a twenty four year old man is too old for you. You are too young to comprehend how this man is using you and wishes to marry you in order to gain legal status. Mexican men come here illegally in the hopes of finding somebody who will marry them. They court American women with that one goal in mind, not love or care for the woman or girl they victimize. Your mother should call the police and press charges and he should be deported. Not just for rape, but for breaking our immagration laws. His is a double wammy and was a stupid move on his part, to target somebody under the age of eighteen. I am sorry you think you love him, but your mother is right and I hope she follows through on what she said. You do not need to be with a twenty four year old mean, especially an illegal mexican man. You have no idea how differently they think than American men. They believe women are less than men. You would be treated as a second class citizen.
2006-09-25 11:23:50 · answer #8 · answered by Serenity 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Everybody can't be wrong here. You asked, now at least consider the answers. Nobody is "ganging up on you". They are offering up their (well, most of them) honest opinion.
You are too young for this garbage. Go out and play.
2006-09-25 14:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by Zelda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi. my name is mireya.. well i am also 16 i was born here in the us well last year when i was 15 I myself fell inlove with a guy from Mexico. well we started talking when i was 14 and then i turned 15 well i LOVED him.. my parents are both from mexico but now there legal here so what they wanted is to make me break up with him.. but i mean when ur inlove umm... theres nothing stopping u.. well he was 18 then well he use to live in arizona and i lived in tx well then i ranaway with him.. but his friend thats a girl and is a us citizin went for me from az to tx well my parents where mad cuz they wanted sumthing better for me u know how parents are.. they want the best for us.. well then i'm still with him today my parents just said ok stay with him... it took a while for them to forgive me but they did. i mean mexico may a country filled with crime and everything but that doesn't mean everybody from there is bad.. my bf works to support me and i dont need nothing i have everything i need.. he is a great bf! i'm not saying for u to do the same thing i did but just follow ur heart do what u think is right.. if u need to talk to any one feel free to email me at mireya_garay77@hotmail.com ok.. take care=)
2006-09-25 12:40:54 · answer #10 · answered by -->TeXas<-- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋