So me and my boyfriend love each other. We have been dating for over a year but he wants to have sex with me and I dont want to. He says he wants to have sex with me because its a feeling he wants to share with me, he said that he isnt going to force me to do anything I dont want to do. So yeah I respect him for that. But I really dont want to have sex again until Im married. He says he wants to marry me but I know thats not going to be anytime soon. I told him eventually that he might go somewhere else and get sex if I dont give it to him and he didnt exactly deny that. Im a Christian, but I am not a virgin. I have changed my ways and decided since early last year that Im going to wait to have sex again until Im married. I just dont want us to break up over something like this.
2006-09-25 03:45:02 · 9 answers · asked by . 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stick to ur guns.....do what u believe and dont change ur values for anyone. He should respect you enough and love u enough to understand how u feel on the subject and if he cant wait until that day and gets sex from someone else then really doesnt that tell u how much he loves u?? if hes stupid enuf to resort to that then hes not good enough 4 u.
2006-09-25 03:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can't stay true to you due to your beliefs and if he cannot respect them by staying faithful, then he is not worth your time. With true love, you should not have to be worried about if he will cheat on you or not. Keep an eye on him, or just sit him down and tell him this:
"Look, these are my beliefs, and God knows I love you, but if you think you can't stay faithful to me because I'm not giving you what you want, then I suggest you find yourself anothe girl to screw with, because it won't be me."
Don't change your views for anyone. Keep your belief, and save what you have to offer for marriage. I'm doing the same. Hope this helps you, and good luck.
2006-09-25 03:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by Maico 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should find a compromise. In today's world, the fact that he has waited so long for you is wonderful and proves that he loves you. But sex is a very important part of a relationship. Its how you bond to your partner and get closer to them. Surely you would want to feel as close to your partner as possible before you decided to marry him?
2006-09-25 03:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by speakmankev 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Stick with your values!
You know what you want in your heart, and if he REALLY loved you he would respect your beliefs. Don't worry about him breaking up with you, if this is what he thinks is going to keep the relationship solid, then he doesn't know what it is to be in love with you!
Stay true to YOU!
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2016-10-16 02:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart. You know whats right for you.
If you are really worried that he would go somewhere else for sex, do you really want to be with him?
2006-09-25 03:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FOR THE FACT THAT I'M MAN ENCOURAGES ME TO ANSWER THAT YOU SHOULD HOLD YOUR GROUND AND DO NOT HAVE SEX AS YOU HAVE PROMISED TILL YOU GET MARRIED.IF REALLY YOUR MAN LOVES YOU, HE MUST RESPECT YOUR STAND AND BEING FAITHFUL TO YOU AS WELL.
PLS ALWAYS REMAIN TRUTHFUL AND FAITHFUL TO HIM AS EVER.THANKS.
2006-09-25 04:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by commandoo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you enough, he will wait for you. don't compromise your morals because of a guy. good for you for standing up for what you believe in, more girls should be like you :) good luck!
2006-09-25 03:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by Katy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right for you.Do not let him push you into something that you do not want to do.
2006-09-25 03:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by eva b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋