the cat that we had 14 years ago when we got divorced. She is now 18 years old and he kept her in the basement where it is damp and cold for the last 4 years. When I saw her the litter box was overflowing and her water bowl was dry. I basically stole her from out of the house. I have taken her to the vet and the groomer for a bath. I live almost 200 miles away from my ex-husband. He is mad that I took her. She is doing wonderful at my house. She is very old so she sleeps alot and craves attention which I give her alot of. Do you think I was wrong?
2006-09-25 03:26:26 · 26 answers · asked by Kim M 2 in Pets ➔ Cats
I don't even know you but I thank you for doing what you did. That is terrible that he kept her in the basement for all that time. Thank God for people like you.
I had a cat that lived to age 24. She was old as dirt but so sweet and loving. Good Luck!
2006-09-25 03:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by Maggie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
relationship a divorcee who has a daughter become as quickly as in no way going to be obtainable, so as which you form of could authorized what you signed up for - I with out doubt could no longer do it! on the different hand, you're actually not waiting to permit her (or him) take the p*ss, there are limits. I evaluate this impediment is life like adequate even nevertheless, that is not as though it's going to take place consistently is it? I propose... how usually do individuals fairly seek suggestion from their in legislations. Ex or now no longer. lol purely supply a proof for to him that his ex better half makes you uncomfortable robotically and on the comparable time you be attentive to the impediment, set stumbling blocks could be placed into area. i'm guessing if she lives down the line she has been taking the p*ss lots by purely popping in and stuff on an identical time as you do no longer choose or want her to? additionally you may renowned that they have got a daughter mutually, so they are bonded by that for all times, although take solace interior the certainty that she is sixteen, in some years she'll be 18 and out of the condominium actually. So he's going to have much less and much less reason to seem his ex better half. that is going to be a attempt against although take care of gritting your the teeth for now, the certainty that he steered you attitude he desires there to be no secrets and methods and innovations between you and from the sounds of concerns, he has performed no longer something incorrect and must you think him, you haven't any longer something to concern approximately.
2016-10-17 22:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the best thing that you could have done for that cat. Had you not taken the cat it probably would have died from loneliness not to mention neglect. Your ex would have found it dead in the basement one day and just threw it in the garbage. Besides, I doubt your ex-husband is going to drive 200 miles just to get the cat back if he treated it the way he did. Good Job!
2006-09-25 03:43:24 · answer #3 · answered by Bogie Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure don't! Definitely the right thing to do.
I rescued a cat who at fifteen was living totally outside, cold and rain too. She was dying of hyperthyroidism and her owners were in denial that she was dying and needed medical attention.
Cameo has been with me 7 years now and is 22 yrs old. Her kidneys won't go on much longer and she loves her "retirement" home where she has a warm comfortable place to live with regular meals and medical attention when she needs it.
Mad, smad. Your husband was subjecting her to very cruel, unhealthy conditions. Hooray for you!
2006-09-25 03:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by old cat lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were definately not in the wrong. You are a great person for saving the animal. Your ex should always remenber, animals are like little people in fur coats. Would he have kept your daughter in a damp basement with feces and no water? Probably not, but why would he a pet? He's a jerk.
2006-09-25 03:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by biffer84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has kept the cat for 14 years, and she's still alive. I think that it would be hard to keep a cat alive that long if you were neglecting it. Are you sure it's true that he was neglecting her? What if you were just there on a bad day, and he'd actually been taking very good care of her?
2006-09-25 03:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by farmgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!! You did the right thing.
(I never would have given up my animals in the first place though! When I was in the process of moving out of the apartment that a shared with my fiancee' the issue of the (3) cats that we had together came up. He asked how we were going to decide what to do with them. I looked at him all confused and said that there was nothing to decide, they were coming with me! There...I made the decision. Good thing I did too, since one of them was diagnosed with diabetes a little over a year later and he NEVER would have been able to care for her like I did.
2006-09-25 03:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by msnite1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o Yes what you did was wrong. You should have changed littler box, gave the cat some water and attention then discussed it with your ex-husband. You should have had your daughter go over after you discussed it with him to see if he had taken your advice. You may be able to report it and hopefully they will check on the cat. Also, ur daughter may have some influence aswell?.
2006-09-25 04:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by AMBER DAWN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you did commit a theft - and he could have charged you.
what you did was right for the cat but you should have asked him if you could have the cat first...he probably would have given it to you and is only mad now becuase you took her..
I am not sure if the cat was in your daughters house or his? but either way they were not looking after her and she is better off with you - try to find any old vet records and see whose name is on them - that will prove ownership of the cat unless you had later agreements written up as to who the owner is in your divorce agreement
try to patch things up with him.. no point in fighting about this for years.
2006-09-25 03:36:36 · answer #9 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You should have expressed your concerns to your ex without kidnapping the cat. Perhaps this would have been justified later after he had refused to improve the situation, but you didn't give him a chance. I don't think cats have much value (in a legal, material sense) but if they did, you might be guilty of burglary here.
Now that you have improved the cat's situation, I would offer it back to your ex along with a request that he be more attentive to its needs.
2006-09-25 03:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by lmnop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋