Have you told your current boyfriend the situation ?? If he knew that your parents are dead set against you being in a relationship then it might make things easier between the two of you - especially when it comes to going out on dates ect. Also, im sure your parents do understand as they were 18 once before, maybe they just dont want you to make any of the mistakes they made. Have you tried introducing them to the idea slowly ?? like telling them that he's a friend only, and not a boy friend. That might be more believeable to them if you have more than one male friend - that way they may not be as suspicious than if he was the only male friend you have. Plus that way, you will be showing them that boys are not as much of a distraction as they think as you can cope with guys as friends and keep your grades up. Then after some time then start to drop hints that maybe you like this guy more than just a friend and see the reactions to that. This isnt going to be a quick fix situation so youre going to have to be prepared for the long haul. But if you and this guy are really in love ect then the sacrifices you make now will all be worth it in the end. Also, with your parents, try not to take the attitude of "well im an adult now and you cant rule my life forever" as that will only alienate you from them and thats never a good thing imho, as you only ever get one family x x x
2006-09-25 03:25:40
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answered by Qooki 2
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You're 18 years old therefore you are legally an adult. That means you have the right to make you own decisions. I wouldn't consider marrying this guy or anything but don't stop seeing him. If your parents find out tell them that you have real feelings for this guy and you need to find out for yourself whether or not he's right. Don't tell them you love him because love takes awhile to figure out. Just explain that you enjoy spending time with him and his gender has nothing to do with it. What if this were a female you were spending this time with, would they have a problem then? Turn things around on them and make them see how you feel. Stand up for yourself girl. Your 18 and the world is waiting for you. If you don't allow yourself to venture out soon you will end up not only getting hurt yourself but possibly hurting this young man as well. Follow your heart and do what you feel is best for you. Hopefully your parents love you enough that God forbid you fall they will be there to pick you back up. You never know what will come of things if you don't try. Good luck and God speed!!
2006-09-25 04:44:38
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answered by mystri 3
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You are a legal adult. It's time to begin an independent life. It's hard to get specific because their side of the story isn't being put out here. Hopefully they are not the kind of parents who will use financial blackmail to force you to do as they say. Other than their disapproval of your dating there is nothing that they can do to control you. It obviously didn't work in high school so you take care of you. Your father will have to see that you are an adult and can't be his little girl until he feels you are old enough to be grown. No one should live like that. Be respectful and talk to them and tell them that you are involved. Act like an adult and you should get treated as one. If they get mad let them. Time is a healer and if they honestly love you they will get over it. Deceitfulness is NEVER the right thing to do. The betrayal of trust is a painful thing.
2006-09-25 03:25:29
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answered by Anonymous
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Honey, you're 18. Your parents no longer have a say in what you do. They really do understand you, and in their own way are trying to keep you from getting hurt or having a relationship interfere with your studies, but you're old enough now to make your own decisions regardless of what they want. If you're still afraid to disobey your parents, maybe you aren't mature enough for a relationship anyhow. I'm sure your parents already know you are disobeying them, unless they're brain dead.
2006-09-25 03:17:52
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answered by Lola 6
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If someone sees you and tells your parents, then just tell them he is one of your guy friends and you two study together.
I have raised 3 daughters and I still don't understand why parents don't let their daughters date. We had a rule that worked well with us. We allowed only group dating until our daughters reached the age of 17. Then they were allowed to date one on one but there was a curfew. It was later on the weekends then it was on school nights. We realized that once our girls hit the age of 18 they were adults. There were still rules of the house they had to abide by but we were tolerant of then.
2006-09-25 03:22:50
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answered by nana4dakids 7
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You should tell ur parent no matter what they may get mad but they won't be for long let them know how u feel for this guy. And tell them ur a women now u make ur decission not them any more it ur turn to take over ur life. ur parent should be happy as long as ur happy and don't think about pregnancy yet either .
Good Lucky with every thing I'm only 17 year old and I know!!!
2006-09-25 03:27:00
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answered by Roberto V 1
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You are an adult. It's your choice, you are supposed to decide if it's good or not.
Talk to your parents, tell them this: that you love them (I hope that you do ;-), and that you will still welcome their advices, but that you are now an adult and this is your choice, this is your life, not their, and that you expect them to understand this. Tell them that if they don't, you will be very sorry but it will not change what you decided to do, and that you will do it with or without them, better with them. Tell them that they don't need to understand you if they disagree, this kind of conflict happens for most people, but you wish then only to love you and support you.
Tell them what are your plans: maybe continue your studies, that you are careful not to get pregnant till you are ready for that, and that you will marry in few years when it's time.
2006-09-25 03:30:57
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answered by bloo435 4
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You are a legal adult now. Tell your parents they no longer have the right to tell you that you can not have a boyfriend. You care for this boy and if they love and trust you, then they have to trust you know whats right for you.
2006-09-25 03:24:12
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answered by Anonymous
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how do you date secretly when you're in college?
it's not like they visit you every 24 hours right?
Maybe you can jjust hold or delay your love and then once 19 or 20 ? maybe you can get back together cause your basically on your own...unless you live with your mom>
2006-09-25 03:19:11
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answered by Anonymous
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Your parents should make a new baby and let you go.
Look likes your father is just jealous.
2006-09-25 03:20:49
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answered by Chri R 4
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