He went to London for his business trip for around 3 mos. he's been there for 3 weeks. I'm missing him so much. I always think of him. i can't believe he's jealous over some small issue. i told him about my male friends who asked me out and one of them confessed his love to me. I totally ignored them. i did not flirt or cheat on him. he got so jealous when he heard that. he said i was being too nice and friendly with guys sometimes. okay, i'm not a mean girl. what am i doing wrong? why did he sound like it was my fault? he broke my heart. he doesn't know how much i miss him.
2006-09-25 03:08:59 · 35 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did not intend to tell him about this. I know he trusts me! but i just can't stand him saying that is me who being too friendly with guys, like sending them the wrong signal. I never!
2006-09-25 03:18:31 · update #1
I did not hook up with those guys!
2006-09-25 03:21:11 · update #2
One guy is bugging me like hell! he often awaits me outside my house when i get home. i'm scared. i needed to tell my bf.
2006-09-25 03:23:40 · update #3
it's not me being childish! it's him! he shouldn't get jealous over this. i thought two couples should be HONEST with each other?
2006-09-25 03:27:47 · update #4
Girl, it's clearly that you care about him as much as he does. you both are so in love with each other. it's not worth fighting over this , like you said, small issue!
I understand why you both were so over-reacting, cos of distance! cos you both miss each other and it's so overwhelming. it's okay girl. tell him you love him. things will be better!
2006-09-25 05:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by #1 Girl -She's Bittersweet- 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a great person! Loving and faithful. He's lucky to have you! Look at it from his point of view, though... thousands of miles away and you tell him some guys asked you out and one of them loves you?!?!? He feels helpless and afraid to lose you, even though you didn't do anything wrong. Just keep telling him he's the only one, and that you won't go out alone with the guy friends. Also... you really don't need to tell him EVERYTHING that happens to you! This was a little thing that didn't mean anything to you, so why get him upset over it, understand? Not that you're supposed to hide things from him, but there is such a thing as being TOO open and honest, when it's just little details that mean nothing. Good luck, and hang in there! It'll all work out!
2006-09-25 03:21:16 · answer #2 · answered by JP 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it really that hard to underdstand?
He loves you. He's far away from you, and will be for a good while, and there's nothing he can do about it. He's stuck there, and you're not with him. People worry that the other person's love will fade if they are not around to nurture and feed those nice feelings. That does happen, unfortunately, but sometimes it's just an irrational fear we have.
So, you telling him what you did was really not a nice thing to do. If it didn't matter, then why telling him? Do you telll him when you take the trash out? Do you tell him when you put gas in the car? No?.....because it's inconsequential. Same goes for soem guy telling you he loves you.
You really have poor timing for telling him now. It was insensitive, because now all kinds of irrational fears and thoughts will be flowing thru his heart and his mind. You should have just kept your nouth shut and left it be until after he came home, and then say somehting, IF you felt it was necessary to say. I feel bad for the guy.
It will be difficult for you to set this right now, but I think you can do it, but you have to try....if you actually care about him and love him. You will have to reassure the heck out of him.
How can he know how much you miss him when you're telling him about other men falling in love with you! Talk about poor judgement on your part. I'm sorry I'm hard on you, but c'mon...what are you thinking?
How woudl you feel if he called you up and said there was this babe that he talked to and she's a nice friend, but then she said she loved him. That wouldn't exactly make you feel safe now........would it?
I hope you get thinsg straight. I believe you, but I can see clearly why he's upset. Good luck to you, I hope he realizes what the truth is.
2006-09-25 03:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off men as a general are jealous creatures much like women are. How would you feel if he had told you a lady friend of his asked him out? Its something you did not need to bring up but both of you need to get passed this obstacle and you need to just let him know that you do not want to be with anyone other than him and you felt that being open and honest with him was the best solution.
2006-09-25 03:17:09 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
call him everyday, just to let him know you are not out with other guys. If what you said is right he is missing you also and is afraid of loosing you while he is away.
How would you feel if he mentioned that he was still faithful but also mentioned how nice and friendly all the ladies were in London and how some were hitting on him. Even though, so far, he was ignoring them, but hanging around with them anyhow.
he made you sad? he is likely trying to do his job and keep thoughts of your "gentleman callers" out of his head as well as ignore the cute young secretary/assistant wiggling around the office trying to "cheer him up." How could you be so evil.
your gonna loose him, there are lots of fish in the sea and it would serve you right.
2006-09-25 03:15:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame him. He's trapped on the other side of the world and you tell him that some other guy relatively close to you told you he loves you. How did you expect him to act? He's not there to interfere or to say anything otherwise. And forget what you've heard in the past - men not there are exactly that. Men not there. We need to be there for these things so nothing gets misconstrude. Especially if we have a beautiful woman - it hurts to even hear that stuff and we are in no position to do anything except to hear it. He loves you, he wouldn't have made a big deal about it if he didn't. He's just lonely, sad and when you said some other guy loves you - in other words 'hey wanna cheat on your man with me' - it breaks his heart. It's only instinct to get upset. He knows how much you miss him, he's obviously calling. You just need to curtail things you tell a man who's in love and nowhere next to the woman he loves. Call him back - tell him you are sorry and that you didn't mean for it to come out that way, you were not even thinking of them in that way - he'll probably be coy, say something snide, but in the end, he'll be spilling his loving heart out to you in no time.
2006-09-25 03:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by TexasLSUTiger 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes guys just get jealous. Probably feeling insecure because he is so far away. Just let him know he is the only one for you. Point out to him how honest you were to tell him what happened instead of hiding it from him. Just give him some time, he will get over it. It will all be ok. Hang in there!
2006-09-25 03:11:26 · answer #7 · answered by krisaquarius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men who get jealous do not want to appear over-emotional or needy. He most likely wanted to make the situation appear to be your fault so he can save himself the emotional embarrassment.
Don't fret. This is a typical male ego at work, and he obviously has some confidence issues if hes worried about you going out with someone else while he's away.
Next time he's in town, do some hint dropping and make him feel like number 1.
2006-09-25 03:15:36 · answer #8 · answered by Elkie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
he is jealous and worried that you will get bored, or horny, or lonely and the fact that you have this opportunity to be with this guy friend who confessed his love for you. Think about how you would feel if he told you that he was in London and his co worker confessed her love to him. How would you feel, put yourself in his shoes? Do you understand the jealousy? You are not doing anything wrong but I really think that you need to get this guy friend out of your life or it will ruin your relationship. I had a guy friend do the same thing and it ended up breaking up my relationship.
2006-09-25 03:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why on earth would you want to tell your man when he is away on business that other men hit on you?????
How would it make you feel to know that he spends his evenings hanging out with female friends and they are confessing their love to him.....
You need to grow up and stop playing mind games. Understand what things are better left unsaid.
If you continue this behavior you wont have to worry about him being jealous. He will dump you for a more mature girl.
2006-09-25 03:12:41 · answer #10 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should never have told him about some other man being in love with you. Put yourself in his place, how would you feel if you were far away and some girl was in love with your boyfriend? Of course he's jealous! Don't do that anymore unless you're playing games with him and want him to get mad.
2006-09-25 03:12:16 · answer #11 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋