I've been in a relationship with a man for 11 months. I love him but I don't think he loves me. He has never told me he loved me either, even after almost a year. Everything in his life comes before me, friends, family, football, even his soon to be ex-wife. For Valentine's Day he didn't get me anything and my birthday just passed and he didn't get me a present or even a card, but we did go out to dinner. To me though, that wasn't anything extraordinary - we eat out a lot. At one time in the beginning of our relationship I went out to dinner with another date and he was very upset! Said he thought our relationship was "exclusive" and that he cared about me. Even had some tears in his eyes. So we decided we wouldn't see other people and things were great. For a while. Everything is always about him, what he wants, how he feels. He also doesn't want to spend any time with my child and she doesn't like him at all.
2006-09-25 03:05:52 · 8 answers · asked by ConfusedGrl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're right, he does not love you. He wants to be exclusive with you, but only that you are exclusively with him. He is not in a relationship with you. You are an accessory in his life-not a part of it. If everyone else in his life comes before you than you are not that important to him. And why would you even consider staying with a man who doesn't want to spend time with your daughter!!!
Don't even have a conversation with him about this. Just pack your stuff and get out (if it's your place, pack his stuff). When he starts that crying thing, hand him a tissue and show him the door. Do not be fooled by that, this guy is a manipulator. He is going to tell you what you want to hear and then go back to the way he was before. He has already done it to you once (probably more than that) so don't fall for it again.
And one other thing, if his ex-wife comes before you do, he's probably still sleeping with her. If he's not he's going to. Either way it's disrespectful to you and the "relationship" that you have.
2006-09-25 03:14:38 · answer #1 · answered by writeroftheyear1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a relationship all right, a lousy one. Exactly what do you love about this loser? Even your child sees through him. He buys you dinners? He is getting divorced soon, and the temptations of freedom...his family, his friends, his sports, are the biggies in his life. You aren't. When you were the exciting other woman(please don't tell me he told you that you were the only one who understood him), he got tears, now that he has you exclusively, you've got tears. Funny thing is, if you asked him, he'd probably say hes never lied to you because he never has loved you. Surely you are worth more than this.
2006-09-25 03:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, move on!! If there is one thing I have learned in 37 yrs. is if your child doesn't like the man in your life and he doesn't want anything to do with your child he is worth the pot to piss in!! Your child should come first before anything else in your life even men. Men will come and go but your child is forever. And they are usually the best judge of character. Good Luck!!
2006-09-25 03:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by proudwmn69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so he may have been jealous on your dinner date and he may have shed a few tears but this guy sounds like he is more in love with his ego-centric self than with you.
Perhaps you know he doesn't love you but you may not want to admit it. I know it may be hard but maybe it is time to consider moving on...you and your daughter deserve better
2006-09-25 03:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by Norman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweetie three words "LET HIM GO" its obvious the man is selfish......you have all the signs there ...even if he thought he may love you which i dont see how ..why would you want to lower your standards to meet his ....trust me sweetie coming from someone who has been in a situation like this one , its only going to hurt you in the long run , more than your hurting now..you deserve 100 time better than that, you cannot change who he is but you can change who you are and find better
2006-09-25 03:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by Miskateyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
11 months to long - Dump him!
2006-09-25 03:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him and find soemone who will spend time with you and pay attention to you and your child
2006-09-25 03:10:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you must move on......have some faith and respect for your young ones wishes
2006-09-25 03:09:28 · answer #8 · answered by l00kstwice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋