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Question

for my whole sexual life it has been nearly if not totally impossible for me to have an orgasm during sex. i enjoy sex alot so it's not that big of a deal to me. i warned my boyfriend that i can't come and told him not to be offended. and he was like "oh really?" the problem is that my bf is a stone faced kind of guy so i never know what he is thinking. he didn't seem discouraged but he didn't seem to pleased either. if your gf told you what i told my bf, how would you feel? i think my bf thought i was 'issueing the challenge" but it's frustrating when a guy tries really hard to make me come and i just can't. i feel like i failed them. so i'm really afraid my bf is gonna go on a mission and we are both going to end up disappointed. none of the guys i slept with were bad in bed, i just have a mental block or sumthin. but how would you feel?

i am capable of having an orgasm, just... only by myself or after like an hour of oral.

Answer 1

Yeah he felt like you were issuing the DECREE OF MANHOOD!!

So I would suggest a few things, first if you dont masturbate you need to start NOW. Self pleasure is the best way to figure out your pleasure zones. Next you need to connect with him and tell hin that. SO he is eager to join in. For women to have their big O it starts days before you get nude. So figure out what you ike about him think about him and have him tell you what are te things that arouse you. If you to start discussing what works for you both, I am sure your sex will be better even if you dont get your BIg O it will still open the flood gates for a higher level of sexual connection! good luck chica

Answer 2

Although we will never admit it, we sometimes fake it too. My girlfriend told me exactly how she liked to be treated -- Lots of non sexual hugs, a lot of friendly touching, all the time not just when I felt like it, she said she liked it when we lie down on the couch and just watch TV. I started to do those things, as well as bring her little surprise gifts and surprise dates because I gathered what she wanted was attention and not sex. The number of orgasms increased dramatically (although she may be faking it ;-). But go ahead have a heart to heart, if he has any kind of sensitivity he won't mind.

Answer 3

i think i would feel a bit like him, like you threw down the gauntlet. a guy will typically think, well, i'm the guy who's going to blow down the house.

i think you need a very tender guy to take a day with you and do a romantic date, a romantic meal, a romantic evening at home, followed by a spa in the tub and a hot oil rub and then wild sex.

i would personally guarantee you an orgasm either by my throbbing hard penis or my pulsating tongue.

there again, i'm behaving like the typical male who thinks it is a challenge and "by, damn, i can make any gal come."

can you make yourself orgasm? maybe you need to go by some vibrators or dildos and try them on yourself, so you'll know what strokes and feelings you like. seriously, try it on yourself, then show the guy.

maybe you'll find happiness and the release of a great orgasm.

Answer 4

ok honey if you cant *** then hes doing it all wrong. im telling yeah. im the guy tht shows a woman a good time, no lie. i have dated plenty of women tht said the same thing when i met them and even though they hate my almost famous still working on it guts right now the one thing they all agree on is tht i have a big man member and i could rock thier worlds like no other. maybe thts why i have done all thier friends too. its nice to know im the guy all my ex's talk to thier new bf's about, oh yeah i would love to see the looks on those guys faces when they say stuff about how i was, oh yeah i know they hate me lol.

Answer 5

hmmm if i was ur boyfriend then i would feel kinda sad and understand if he cant understand then he is not the right guy for you but you see i was in his situation a couple of weeks ago and i felt real sorry that my BEST BEST BEST BEST friend almost a girl friend could not go to the concert i asked her to and after the concert the next day i gave her something i bought at the night of the concert and she loved it so just get him somthing that he would like so when the next opertunity comes he will want to come

Answer 6

If he really loves you, he will try to give you an orgasm and if you can't have one through intercourse, he will try to make sure you have one some other way. If he really loves himself, he won't care if you have an orgasm or not as long as he has one. Although, he may want you to have one just to prove his sexual prowess. Try to figure out which one he is...if he is the first, experiment with other methods of achieving orgasm. If he is the second, dump him.

Answer 7

I dated a girl like that before. I took it as a challenge to give her the ultimate pleasure. It took awhile to figure out what worked on her best, and was fun learning too.

Answer 8

My wife is similar. We just work with it, l stimulate her until she orgasms then things get fun. She can *** over and over really fast after the first time. I do her about a dozen times then it is her turn to do me.

Answer 9

My fiancee had the same problem, like i said had... we dated for a yr before she had an orgasm, and since then she has no problem. dont worry once you have your first you'll will be cummin all over the place...

Answer 10

Hmmmm. well from my own personal experience, guys are mostly horrible when it comes to sex. once they get off their gone. if he cares about you he will do things to help you overcome what your going through. maybe you just need the right stimulation. try one of those battery opercated devices....