My man is not acting right. He has been very distant and short with me for the past two months. When I ask him what is wrong he says he's tired. Things just haven't been the same. I think he is taking advantage of my feelings for him by stringing me along. I care for him a lot but I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. Nor can I force him to open up when he doesn't want to. I've decided to phase myself out of his life, but I'm having a really hard time with it. I've thrown myself into my work and started hanging out with friends more, but when I come up for air I'm still more sad then anything. I know this is the right thing but it still hurts how else can I move on? 2nd Q is why do guys do that? Why do they sit in a relationship and let it fester into resentment instead of just letting the other person go if they don't want to be there. They will tell everyone else in the world of their discontent expect the one person who needs to know!
2006-09-25 02:47:14 · 7 answers · asked by Freespirit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok. It has been TWO months, not a couple of days of him being distant and having an attitude. I realize that he may have other things going on but I don't hear any of his friends or coworkers complaining he is acting all moody. It seems to me that he wants space! Possibly from me and that is why I am backing off. I've tried talking to him and he won't tell me anything, I've tried being empathetic and still here we are. I see it as a sign. I'm tired of being the one who gives a crap about this relationship!! That is why I'm throwing my hands up if he even NOTICES I've phased myself out at least that would be a sign that he still gives a crap. If he doesn't then we both release each other from a messy break up.
2006-09-25 03:23:05 · update #1
Could he have possibly told you the truth and your just not getting it? Maybe he is tired. It happens. And now you are phasing him out of your life when maybe all he needed was a little time to get his head together. Men communicate things differently than women. Did he say he didn't want to be with you? He said he was tired. Now he is tired and alone and you are alone to. Maybe you should have just waited it out and given him a little time. The question about guys letting relationships fester is because I think honestly most don't want to hurt the women that they are with and when they try to leave they just don't want to say it. Good Luck
2006-09-25 02:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man may not be acting right cause you're not acting right. I'm having the same issues with my wife (wife not gf) and she's being just as stubborn as you seem to be now. I'm sure they guy loves you, he is just got things going on in his life - maybe professional, maybe other things. And you are not realizing it cause all you want is his time. His time must be split with a lot of things. Also, maybe he's evaluating your relationship. Do you make him happy? Are you who he wants to be with? Maybe not, but he's still trying to decide if that is the case or if he's just being unreasonable. So give'm some slack, if he's going to leave trust me - unless he's a loser, he's out of the door the moment he reaches his decision. And on your second questions - it's because women are vile and evil when they want to be and have no notion of logic when upset cause ya'll are 100% emotions most of the time and that sucks for us. That's just honesty, I'm sure I will not get chosen for a good answer but you should list and not be so petty. In order to be happy things must be sacrificed. Time, money, self satisfaction - and in return you get a long healthy relationship. You can't have your cake and eat it too. There must be some give along with the take. In this case, it looks a lot like you want you want you want, but you have no give. Good luck -
2006-09-25 10:09:49 · answer #2 · answered by TexasLSUTiger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep- Men are hard to figure out- thats why they aren't women! LOL! Could be lots of reasons he is shutting you out- >cheating, stress, not an emotional giver , tired of you, but doesn't want to be the one who breaks it off- Men seem to want -what they CAN'T have- try talking to him once more- let him know- you aren't just gonna sit around waiting for him to join the relationship- that if he wants to be a part of your life- he needs to speak up- or you are out of there- if so, go find a guy you can relate with better- and go from there- everyone needs communication girl- Go find it! Good Luck!
2006-09-25 09:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by sawgirl513 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're phasing yourself out of the relationship, so you're being just as "dishonest" with him and yourself as he is being to you! If you're not happy, break it off COMPLETELY! It's GOING TO HURT LIKE HELL! But, PLEASE, believe me when I tell you it's SOOO much worse when a relationship has gone bad and something that was once love and tenderness turns into pain, resentment, hate and sarrow. You WILL get over him and meet someone else.
2006-09-25 09:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by gidget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can either let him control the situation or you can control the situation and move on....
many people, men and women will sabotage a good relationship........
2006-09-25 09:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because men and women are different... the eternal problem.
2006-09-25 09:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by tiger_the_prince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both sex are different
2006-09-25 09:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by 185 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋