she does not know what her mom would say want this baby so bad she loves this boy to death what is your advice????????????
2006-09-25 02:46:17 · 24 answers · asked by sweetjanean 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
So, is she already pregnant or she just wants to get pregnant?
2006-09-25 02:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her mother. or father. This way they can talk to her and show her why she shouldnt be having a child.
She has so much life ahead of her, and if she truly loves this boy then it can wait, what about homecomings, and proms, travel, college, income, finishing high school, all the things a parent should be able to provide a child, she cannot. What happens when her child needs to go to the doctors, or becomes ill, how will she get him there? Not to fail to mention, she probably cannot afford health care.
I know as a parent I want to provide the best for my child.
Explain the expenses.
Let me tell you mine.
rent $1250 month.
health insurance, $423,
car note. $229.
car.life, renters insurance $352
grocerys. $500 month.
diapers, $40
clothing for a family of five. 80 month.
misc. $300
utilitys. $400 A(including cable. and internet)
I can tell you at the end of the month money is tight.
And my husband has an excellant job.
I am sure at 14 she does not have this kinda income. This is a peice of my monthly expense.
Not including gas for our vechicals, and maintence.
Then there are the surprise expenses. appliance repairs, travel, larger phone bills.
please do tell her parents, they will be glad you came to them, maybe there is something in her life that doesnt feel complete, and being a good friend you can help her.,
2006-09-25 09:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by Make u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should wait until she in her 20's cause she miss her life she has now and she would not be able to party like other kid do try new things an she wiil not be able to go to school and make some thing of her self . And babys cost alot she won't be able to buy thing for her self cause she be spend all the money on the baby. If she wait and get through school she can get a good paying job and she will be fine. and i don't think she ready 4 that pain trust me it painful. and teel her when girl have baby their privent part ripps open and get stiches and she would not have good night sleep 4 a long time. come to time the boy might not like no more they don't know nothing about love some guys don't care that she has his baby and still leave the girl I've seen it many times.
2006-09-25 10:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by Roberto V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, You be a friend to that girl, and tell her not to get pregnant. I had a friend who got pregnant at the age 14. She didn't even come close to finishing school, She can't find a good job. It is a lot of hard work. She won't be able to go to her prom and enjoy growing up. The baby's father most likely wont stay around and help. Tell her to grow up, finish school get a good job, fall in love with the right person for her, get married and then talk to her husband about it. Tell her to wait so she won't ruin her life.
2006-09-25 11:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by amanda H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was her i would not fall pregnante because her mom will spit chips and i feel that she is not ready for a baby yet she doesnt need a baby to stay with him if he loves her he will stay with her no matter what she is only young and she has her whole life ahead of her but in some people that have a baby at a young age they regrete it because they cant go out and have fun and party and somtimes you lose your friends i would wait if i were your frriend you have got to put a roof over this babies head and it will cost $640 or plus per month and these other items are what som people fort of a week nappies $6 for a packet of 12 nappies and a newborn baby can go through 105 nappies a week if it is bottle feed there is bottles to provide and that is $10 and plus and there is formula and thats $17 and plus so reay rality babies dont came cheap and theres teething gel and its $8 plus and when its teething they can cry and keep you up all night and get hardly sleep and theres panodol and thats $4 plus and clothes well it is hard to put a price on clothes and theres toys forit to play with but all these things cost money which alot of people dont have and we all wish we had lots of money and i do agree that children are adorable but i do think education is important to get somwhere in life good luck what ever you choose or what ever your friend chooses in life just think twice before you decide to get pregnate i only get just over a grand per fort night even i cant do it i would never fall pregnate again and im from australia in quensland it doesnt matter were you are in the world it costes to much to bring a baby in the world
2006-09-25 09:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by cuteteddy34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she already pregant and trying to find a way to break it to her mom and dad? Or is she trying to become pregnant? If it is the later of the two I would suggest waiting, when you are 14 you can think you love someone or you can really love someone but either way you have to wait until the other person is sure of their feelings. Also, when you are 14 having a baby is stressing on you body and emotional health.
2006-09-25 09:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by flaminfortune 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what her Mum would say as well - thats ludicrious and I am sure she does love this boy to bits - at the moment but shes 14 - next year she may love someone else - it happens and its life and if were all to have children each time we fall in love there would be tripple the amount of children growing up without one of the parents around. Tell your friend shes mad and needs to learn how to have fun and not ruin her life at such an early age !
2006-09-25 09:50:05 · answer #7 · answered by kinnoishere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she already pregnant?
If not I think quite a lot of girls go through the stage of wanting a baby, because of the unconditional love, and the attention they know they would get for it. So hopefully it's just a phase.
Remind your friend that having a baby isn't all taking it for walks in the pram and cuddles, it's hard, and sometimes stressful and demanding. Not to mention it's for the rest of her life!
2006-09-25 09:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a freakin idiot!!! She is infatuated with that idiot boy. Her mom would kill her!! How would she support that baby flipping burgers at McDonalds? She needs to get married, graduate highschool, and get some kind of college education before she even thinks about having a baby. Having a baby is not a picnic! Its hard, stressful, tiring, and its like a second job! You need to slap some sense into that friend of yours!
2006-09-25 09:49:00 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is completely crazy. No one is ready to care for a child at the age of fourteen. Besides that, how can she love someone to death at the age of fourteen? She doesn't yet know what love is. Talk her out of it, tell someone, do whatever it takes. She may be mad at you at first but she will thank you in the long run. JUST STOP HER FROM MAKING THE BIGGEST MISTAKE OF HER LIFE!!!
2006-09-25 09:48:47 · answer #10 · answered by krisaquarius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants a baby at 14, most likely it's because she lacks love and attention from her parents... check into it.
2006-09-25 09:48:16 · answer #11 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋