My nephew was diagnosed with ADHD,he currently on methylphendate(ritalin)but only takes it when hes at school not on weekends or holidays can that effect the meds?also his mother is not grasping the seriousness of the situation he is acting out at school bullying little girls and also my daughter.I love him hes my nephew but i cant have him visit if he contiues to hurt my children how can i help him and how can i explain to his mother that he also needs counciling?There is also not alote of structure at home and she wont listen when u tell her thats what he needs.I have done lots of reserch on ADHD and want to help but how?
2006-09-25 02:40:47 · 14 answers · asked by liz 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
First off let me start by saying the parents have to wanna help the child. If the mother is still not at terms with her child having ADHD it is going to be a long road. First let me ask you what state do u live in? Reason being different states laws vary. I know how you feel in wanting to help the child, yet having the mother not be cooperative. I would love to talk to you in more detail about this if you wish you can message me. Also put it point blank to your nephew's mom. Tell her that until this gets under control you as a parent cannot have them over because him hurting your children is just something that you are not willing to put up with. Yes, feelings will probably be hurt at first but I think once the mom wises up it will all be okay and she will probably thank you for trying to open up her mind and her eyes to this situation.
I look forward to hearing from you where I can help u some more.
2006-09-25 02:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by baby j 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She is not helping him. I have a nephew that's has been diagnosed with ADHD and severely Bi-Polar. He started on Ritalin. Since then and it have been over 5 years he has advanced. His behavior has good days and bad. With ADHD children they have a hard time grasping many things at one time. The can be violent. My nephew has been hospitalized in a psych ward a few times. He has periods of violence and depression. Suicide has come in to play a few times. They need to be involved with psychiatrists and there meds need to be constantly upgraded and monitored. Regular schools cannot handle these type of children. Their answer is to put them in an LD class. They do not have a learning disability, my nephew is very intelligent . It took my sister to move to an area where they had a school equipped to handle and deal with Jacks needs. He will always have this issue and it is very hard on the entire family. But his mom has to realize that by not getting him the help that he needs is only hurting the child.
2006-09-25 02:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by slanteyedkat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my son. So I can relate to what you are going threw. Let his mother know how important it is for him to take is meds on weekday and weekends. There is also some diet tips. Such as stay away with food with red dyes, stay away from sugar as much as possible. Let his mother know that it is very important to get counseling. If she don't he could get into a lot of trouble some day and not be able to get out. counseling can help both of them out by dealing with the situation and also it can help her come up with ideas to punish him. But she has to deal with it. Let her know if she can't do the necessary procedures that your not going to be able to let him come over anymore because your kids shouldn't have to go through be bullied. If you would like some information on diet tips or anything you want to know about adhd goggle adhd. If you would like to talk some more about this feel free to contact me. Best of Luck
2006-09-25 04:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by amanda H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell his mother that and let school officials know. There's more wrong with him then ADHD. I have ADD and was on the same medication. I never took it on weekend, during holidays, or during the summer and it didn't seem to make a differnce for me. They do that because methylphendate stunts growth.
2006-09-25 02:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by Bear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how frustrated you must be about your nephew, but if he is harming your children then you must keep him away. If you feel that his mother is being negligent in taking care of him, you might want to call the Department of Children and Family Services. Sorry but, there is no easy answer to this problem. Just keep an eye on it to make sure it doesn't get any worse.
2006-09-25 02:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have three ADHD children. Medication vacations are good things. It helps them learn to cope without meds. He probably also has a Learning Disability (many ADHD kids do)
He's still very angry - he's felt failure his whole life and now is stigmatized with ADHD. He may need counseling for a short while.
2006-09-25 02:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Vicki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact the pediatrician or whatever doctor it is that prescribes that medication. Tell him or her the situation and see if he will talk to the mother and explain the seriousness of the situation and that the medication needs to be given consistently for it to work properly. Good Luck!
2006-09-25 02:47:41 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter has ADHD and she is on amphetamine salts 20 mg daily. she her self asked the doctor to put her on something. they had taken her meds for the summer and she did not like how she felt. she takes this 7 days a week...check it out, yes it is stronge but my daughter can live with herself now...
2006-09-25 02:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by ticonderoga1186 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my grand daughter has the same thing, the doctor told me to be sure and give it to her everyday. and the doctor worked with me ,till we got her on the right dose, and medicine. there are three kinds. if its not the right one and dose, it will make his condition worst. when hers wears off around 4:00 pm, she is a little monster. i dont really believe in all these behavior drugs, i think that spanking them, when they are little and teaching them right from wrong, is the way to do things, but this one of mine is thur d-fax, and cant be spanked. and i had to do something. she was driving me crazy.
2006-09-25 02:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in "ADHD". It is just a fancy way of saying spoiled rotten brat who needs to be spanked. If the parents would crack the little monster on the butt when he acted up, he would knock it off.
2006-09-25 02:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋