Ive been taking my 2 youngest kids (1 yo girl & 2 yo boy) to a home day care for almost a year now. Her name is Candice and she has a 2 yr old boy that is my boys BF now. She loves them to pieces and only watches 2 other kids part time. She is not a "licensed" provider so I can not deduct her....
The other is ny neighbor, Lisa, three houses down who runs a licensed day care out of her home. My 2 yr old went there previously. I do not care for her as a person, she is pretty indifferent. And she has an assistant and watches 12 kids. She does a preschool program, which would be beneficial and she is only 3 houses down (so no more driving-the other is only 5 min away). But something is holding me back from switching. I LOVVVVEEE my current sitter and she loves my kids. Overall, the convenience of Lisa (the neighbor) is appealing, but I love Candice and she loves my kids. I mentioned this dilemna top her this morning and she said she would be willing to drop off and pick up my son.
2006-09-25 02:37:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
...from preschool when I enroll him. What should I do? My husband wants us to switch becuz of the tax deduction, but because we are over the $110K limit, we only get a reduced credit... how much I dont know.... Does anyone know that?
2006-09-25 02:39:00 · update #1
She doesnt want to be licensed becuz she doesnt want to claim the income (which I understand). The neighbor isnt a BAD person, she is great with the kids and can handle all that craziness. In her defense, she is very structured and has a beautiful basement with a little classroom and everything. But Candice just LOVES them. The neighbor will teach them and feed them and take care of them.... but if I gave the neighbor notice she would just say bye. Candice CRIED this morning when I mentioned it to her.....I think I know what I want, I just wanted to ask becuz my husband wants to switch becuz of the tax deduction and the fact she is 3 houses down.... She isnt bad, she just isnt Candice...
So, still the same w/ you guys? Stay w Candice?????
2006-09-25 02:52:51 · update #2
1.) If you switch and then Candice takes someone new you probably can't switch back. And even if you do it will never be the same.
2.) Consider all the bad habits that your children could pick up from those other kids. Much more likely that there are bitters in that group.
3.) Two people cannot watch 12 children as good as 1 can watch 5 and the reason is because undoubtedly there will be times when two of the children are fighting and it gets both adults attention so then you have 10 that are unsupervised and you know that with kids things can happen very quickly.
Stay with Candice and don't have her pick up and drop off either, that's almost like getting her to take on extra burden because she loves your kids and really wants to keep them in her care. It's not fair. Tell your husband that you are the Mom, you know what's best and to shut-up and just pay for it.
2006-09-25 06:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Not Laughing w/ U 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG--definitely stay with the situation you're in now! If this lady is wonderful and only has a few other kids, that's great. Your kids are still learning to socialize with other children, but at the same time, she doesn't have 12 or 15 kids running around with green, runny noses, biting and hitting and all that stuff. It sounds like she's really great with the kids too, and they probably definitely get better one-on-one care. With this other lady, even though she has a helper, they probably don't get very individualized care, she doesn't sound overly friendly, etc. Which is more important to you--the health and happiness of your children, or a tax deduction?
2006-09-25 05:40:18 · answer #2 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with Candice .. Convenience is not always the best.
2006-09-25 02:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay with the person who you know and who knows you and your children. You know that you can trust this person with your children... how can that compare to a tax credit?
Can Candace become liscensed? Perhaps she has so few children that you can claim her without her being liscensed. It's worth looking into.
Good luck.
2006-09-25 02:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by gonefornow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not switch. Keep the kids where thay are happy and you know they are well cared for.
2006-09-25 02:43:27 · answer #5 · answered by mommyofthree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don' t want connivance you want someone that you can totally completely like, and trust. Its hard to find that anymore. Plus do what would make your child happy.
2006-09-25 04:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by amanda H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't switch.
2006-09-25 02:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by Katyana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋