I met this guy, and I like him soooo much, even though we haven't even been on a date, we just met at a party. He walked me to my car and spent an hour talking with me. He is physically everything I like, tall, nice body broad shoulders, and has been single for two months and is looking for a relationship. We hit it off so well, that I keep struggling to resist the urge to call him. We made a date for later on this week, but that is three days away and it seems like FOREVER! How can I slow my brain down, and take my time, to make sure that this starts properly and develops into something good?
2006-09-25 02:17:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, ensure he is not your ONLY focus in life. Find something else to distract you. I mean, if your energy and focus are used elsewhere, your emotions won't be so caught up in him and you can take the time to actually see where this is going with a clearer head.
Second, get a friend you can trust to help you through this. He/she can keep you anchored, focused and a second opinion or observation can REALLY help if you want to be able to truly know or understand someone.
We all would hope that things would work out but ultimately, I just hope you find the one for you. All the best with love. :)
2006-09-25 02:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by Studier Alpha 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
New relationships are always exciting, but it is good that you are going with you gut feeling of moving too fast. You don't want to scare him off and make him think you are nuts :) If you feel the need to see him before your date, call him and tell him that although you are so excited about the date, you thought maybe the two of you could meet for coffee, or maybe even lunch to get to know each other a little bit better before going on the date. Keeping it at coffee or lunch in the middle of the day keeps it safe. There really isn't room for anything truly "romantic" to go on because of the time of day. Evenings are so much more sensual and lead to the first kiss, among other things. :) That way, you get to see your guy before then, but without scaring him off. Good luck and God bless.
2006-09-25 09:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by pamalamadingdong_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First , breath deeply , i think u has a bit too excited , relax , girl . First time 4 u ? let me tell u , if u really like this kind of guy , just has a try but , don love him 2 much first , try 2 know him better then u make ur decision , u can be his friend first or anything that is better ur relationship with him so that he will not be the guy who will hurt u at the end .
2006-09-25 09:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by Yeong w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, remember that good things are worth waiting for.
Let him set the pace. If he calls you great! If not, then wait for your date. If you seem over anxious it may push him away.
Go out on your date, see how it goes......if you still like him soooooo much, then you can begin to call him and pursue a "relationship". Right now, you should just hold off, and let him make the call. Good luck!
2006-09-25 09:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am trying to do the exact same thing. This is difficult b/c sometimes I just conceal my feelings too much or else disclose them too much. I can't seem to find a balance, but then again it's normal: isn't love an emotion that's supposed to throw you off balance?
2006-09-25 09:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Lasha♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just go with the flow of things & enjoy yourself. Yes be patient but you can't slow it down if it is meant to happen. Please if you have been hurt before don't take old baggage into this new guy. Just be you & let it happen for you cause I think you are already head over hills the way you are talking . Good luck & relax.
2006-09-25 09:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who says all relationships have to move at the same momentum? If your heart can't seem to wait then go for it... The worst that can happen is that you'll take less time to discover he wasn't Mr. right..
2006-09-25 09:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by Norman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
During your next date, tell the guy that you have genital herpes. You want to continue seeing him, but feel you should only do so when you are not suffering from an outbreak. Then, he will want to see him less, which in turn will make you want to see him less because you feel unappreciated. As time goes on, he will become more secure with your disease, and he will love you more because of it. This will make you feel loved and will bring you two together as a tighter couple.
2006-09-25 09:24:25 · answer #8 · answered by wade b 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You sure he's not on the rebound after only being out of a relationship for two months? I'd be real cognizant of that.
2006-09-25 09:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by caramellatte 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do something to occupy your time and then relax for an 1hr or so.
2006-09-25 09:23:53 · answer #10 · answered by nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋