After years of no contact with an ex (28yrs) would you tell him about his child, he doesnt know exsists?

Answer 1

Your kid is an adult now let it be up to him if he wants his father to know about him.. There has to be a reason you didn't tell him so long ago so tell your child that reason and see if they would like to know him now

Answer 2

It depends on if......
1) you are sure that it is his child
2) you are still a single mother.
3) you have no means of support
4) you want him back.
5) he decide to stay with you for good.
Your question is very vague for me to go on....am not too sure if you were married to him b4 or if you are currently married to a different person. It also depends on whether you want to rekindle old relationships again and in which case where do you think it will lead you to?
If I was in your shoes and if I was married to someone else and am happy with my life, then does that give me a reason to tell him? It doesn't matter to me at all...after all he was away for 28 years!!! What is another day of his presence to me???? If he has never supported you or the child all through these years, does it matter?

Answer 3

You should have told him 28yrs ago, this child is no longer a baby but an adult. Does the 28yr old boy/girl no that you have lied to there father all this time. The 28yr old should be annoyed and you and not there Dad

Answer 4

hard one........... I believe you should always tell the truth. Ok you are 28 years too late, but I think you should as long as you don't do it cos you want revenge or something mean. Also, don't expect him to just take it in. It is a hard thing to swallow, specially that he might have his own familly by now. His life will be turned up side down and give him time to deal with it. He didn't have 28 years like you. Does your child know his/her fathere never knew about him/her? You should be more worried about that........... His/her life will never be the same.......... Be tactfull, will not be easy but time will sort things out.

Answer 5

He should never have been deprived of this information in the first place - of course he should have been told regardless of how or why ye broke up.
You should tell him immediately - then regardless of whether he wants to contac this child or not - you've done the right thing and have fulfilled your part in all of this.
However at 28 years of age now, perhaps you should consult with your child if he in fact wants his dad to know.

Answer 6

If that is the case, then the child is at least 27 or thereabouts...

Ask your son/daughter if they *want* contact with him. They're old enough to decide that on their own. At this point in their life, they may not want an additional parent and there would be no need to tell your ex if the adult child doesn't want any contact with him.

At least for now.

Answer 7

im sure there is a BIG explaination of why no contact with this childs father. im guessin ur choice and if so im sure u had your reasons let the woman / or man (YOUR CHILD) decide for themselves try and its going to b hard as hell to be impartial. u love them they know this but this situation will b difficult for them to. and its ok that u feel the way u do about this person but its your childs father NEVER BASH THEM TO YOUR CHILD. take care.

Answer 8

I had no contact with my dad until i was 16 - had never met him before then - im glad i did we get along fine.

The guy has a right to know he has a child, the child has the DEVINE right to know who his father is....hope this helps

Answer 9

I think I would. He may have grown up and want to see the child. i don't know how old the child is but if he is old enough let him decide on what he wants to do. Don't hide anything later on it may look like you have something to hide and I know you don't

Answer 10

Yes