WY DO MEN HAVE TO BE POLITE AND GENTLEMANLy TO WOMEN YET THEY SCREAM THAT THEY WANT TO BE TREATED AS EQUALS?

Question

I AM NOT SEXEST BUT IT DOES SEEM LIKE WOMEN USE THE EQUAL RIGHTS THING TO THERE FAVOUR. IF YOU CAN EXPLAIN PLEASE DO SO I CAN UNDERSTAND

Answer 1

You miss the point.
Is it not a good thing men are polite and gentlmanly to women?
In so doing so, it should also be expected for women to behave with equal respect.
Treat others and you expect to be.

Answer 2

Even though I am a woman, I am inclined to agree with you. However, if a man is expected to be polite and gentlemany, then a woman should also be polite and ladylike. There are a lot of women out there who are not and I think they need to check themselves before they exercise equal rights. I think that there should be equal rights in some aspects but not all. If everything was equal, it would mean that men shouldn't open doors for women or defend their wives from others - they must do it themselves. I personally like all the gentlemany stuff - and at the end of the day, women and men are different. There are certain things that women can do better than men and vise versa. So to be totally equal wouldn't fit.

Answer 3

Equal rights are about being allowed to have the same chances and respect in life as men. Women want to be paid equally at work and have the same rights as men. I think that's fair enough don't you? Equal rights has nothing to do with men being polite and gentlemanly towards women, that's just a nice thing that men could do. I suppose I'm an example of what you're talking about in a way. I'm a supporter of equal rights of course. I work in a very male dominated industry (engineering) and I want to be treated and paid equally as men. However, I'm very traditionalist too. I cook and clean and do all my boyfriends washing and Ironing, he pays the bills and drives etc.

Answer 4

How about EVERYONE being polite and gentlemanly / ladylike? Or am I asking the impossible?

Do you think that because women wish to be regarded as equal to men (note 'equal' does not mean 'the same') they shouldn't have doors held open for them? As a woman, I always hold doors open for anyone coming in behind me. I'd give up my seat on a bus or train for a pregnant woman or an elderly person.

Equal rights for women give them the right to earn the same wage as a man for doing the same job. Why should that mean that they cannot be treated politely?

Answer 5

Well, like most women I know, I don't think of myself as part of homogenous sub-species. There's no accounting for individual reactions, from males or females. For example, that's why some men overreact to women having a viewpoint, whilst others accept it as perfectly normal, isn't it?
But surely none of us should question the principle of equal rights, especially if it is just because we feel somehow snubbed.
I would say from experience that sometimes a woman might feel that she is being unnecessarily the focus of attention, when she just wants to get about her business fairly anonymously, like everyone else (i.e. not picked out for any reason, good or bad, just because of her gender). I can see why that annoys some women, as much as if one was fussed about by others because one couldn't walk properly (not a great analogy, but, off the cuff, close as I can get).
Please do allow people to reject that well-meant attention, without taking it as a personal criticism! If you've learned to be polite and courteous to people, that's to your credit. Keep it up!

Answer 6

Men do not "have" to be polite and gentlemanly to women ,,,but that is the way I was brought up. As far as how the women feel ther are a lot of the that are into the feminist thing and are very independant. But most women like for us to be the gentleman and be very considerate of them.

Answer 7

First of all I just want to state that you shouln't tar all women with the same brush. The whole polite opening the door etc, it's just gentlemen like and old fashioned. You have been taught good manners if you do this. As a woman I wouldn't put up with my bf being ill mannered. And there is nothing wrong with it.

Answer 8

There's nothing else to it. Some women are going to do that. Most will not. Bottom line is......."Men will always treat women the way they act." (The converse is also true. Women will treat men as they act, as well.)

That's the facts and just the way it is! If a woman acts like a lady, she'll be treated as a lady. If she acts like a whore, she'll be treated as a whore and so on.....(Sorry)

Answer 9

treat women like you would want to be treated. if u want the same politeness back, give it also. in reality men and women are not the same, and most women are more fragile and sensitive than most men, so treat them with care. it is obvious that we are not the same, but we say we are all equal; men, woman, children boys and girls, but is that the case? think about it.

Answer 10

Nowadays as I see it women are expecting to be treated with consideration, not on terms of your "other mate", but a female version of your equal. Women still want attention, and they like sensitivity, but they are likely to resent if they sense that you are trying to boss them around, whether a man will or will not try to do that, a seeming hint is enough to set this one off. This is how I see it.