I've been dating a guy for a short while and things seemed to be going great, we saw each other almost everyday at least 5 times a week, spoke the other days, we spent the night together almost everytime we saw each other, went out had fun, stayed in had fun - just a good place.
Then this weekend he made a comment to a mutual friend of ours that he and I weren't 'dating', this through me off, i talked to him about it and he said that we are just at the moment he paniced..
He's freaked out around 'relationships' because of his ex.
So anyways we had a normal night after that except I didn't stay over because he had to get up early, then again yesterday I see him and he specifically makes referance to me not staying even though there was no reason for me not to, then later that night when i was home i said i would have liked to be there and all he can say is pretty much 'i see'.
I'm afraid he may be pulling away because i told him he's more than just a friend to me...though he agreed.
2006-09-25 02:00:55 · 14 answers · asked by attila 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know it's a little soon to be thinking something is strange, but there are a few little things too.
Should i worry, or should I say something to him?
I think because we were so close, basically in the mode of serious relationship and he realized it he may be pulling back, and i don't want this, i don't need a title if i have a good relationship.
2006-09-25 02:02:11 · update #1
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I don't much care about titles of 'dating' or not it's just I don't carry on relationships with 'just friends' because it's asking to get hurt.
For those saying that he's using me by staying just friends/not dating, he said that we are - that he just paniced when he was asked.
2006-09-25 02:07:48 · update #2
not early to mid teens here - we're both in our 20s.
I don't know too many early/mid teens who spend the night 5 nights a week, do you? ha.
2006-09-25 02:46:57 · update #3
This can be a difficult situation......The best way to settle this is by communication. If you have feeling's for him you should bring them out in the open.
2006-09-25 02:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by beez224 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you two? Have you considered this may be too early in the friendship to get this serious? Spending every day together for over a week leaves very little time for homework, or other things. Sounds like this guy may feel he has no room to breathe here. I know I am getting a little claustrophobic just reading about it. On the other hand, maybe he was enjoying all the "benefits" you freely gave him and now he's bored and wants to move on.
I may sound like the proverbial out-of-touch-old-man, but if you are in your early-to-mid teens this may be going too fast, too soon. Maybe its time to find another guy, because for some reason, this one isn't dealing well with being together with you 24-7.
2006-09-25 09:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him some room to breathe. He admitted he paniced, and remember that most guys don't talk to other guys about the girls they are seeing.
Men don't like to feel like there is only one option out there, even if they are really keen on you and remember the beginning is always the nicest point in a relationship, don't ruin it by putting pressure on him. Let him cool down a bit, and if he is really keen on you, he will come back so to speak. But let him have his space.
Hope that helps.
2006-09-25 09:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.... If the two of you have not sat down and defined exactly what it is you are doing then I would say you are not dating.... you are just friends with some great benefits..... If it is a committed relationship you are looking for you need to set down with him and make some ground rule. It doesn't sound like to me, that is what he is looking for.
What is the harm in just being friends with benefits.... a lot of girls have the need to be clingy and possessive.... make him want a more than friends relationship... don't chase him let him chase you. Work it girl....
2006-09-25 09:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off a little and let him realize what you mean to him! I now Live with a guy(getting married in next 6mos) who I knew was right from the being,but he was kind of standoffish! I just let things go at his pace and after about 4mos I could tell he was getting closer and finally at around 6mos he told me he loved me and the rest is history!
2006-09-25 09:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys is like that , u see , he just care about his ex , when his ex play him down , he will find another want 2 replace , so , in his heart , he maybe just think u as his replacement , or maybe he is scare , scare that the fact he is just a useless man . First , u should realllllly ask ur self , r u really like him ? if yes , what do u love him ? if not really , then u can tell him ," gameover" . Hope u goodluck.
2006-09-25 09:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by Yeong w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we get confused when it becomes to distinguish between a frienship or a romance maybe he knew the way you feel for him and that's why he made the coment,yes he is backing of , but it's better now than later when you could get hurt.
2006-09-25 09:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by fudge4two 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chill out a bit - step back and take a breath
does it matter whether you are technically "dating" or not?
enjoy his company, and let him enjoy yours. stop worrying about whether you are technically "dating" or "an item" or "just friends", as it's very immature of you to start putting a lable to your friendship.
just enjoy his company and have some good sex.
2006-09-25 09:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by shoby_shoby2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not interested in a serious relationship but he likes having sex with you if you can deal with that keep it up if not walk awaway before you get hurt
2006-09-25 09:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by cyanceychaser 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's that insecure at this point in the relationship, there is no point continuing. trust me. Ditch this guy, and find yourself a nice one.
2006-09-25 09:04:23 · answer #10 · answered by talz_talz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋