I am a nanny and look after a little boy aged 2 who has an older brother and sister.
I have just started toilet training him and for the first 2 weeks he was brilliant at it and loved going now though when ever i mention it he runs away and bursts out crying when i put him on the toilet.
I know his parents are quiet lazy to be blunt with him and do not encourage him at weekends at all and think this could be the reson and I know that a potty would be better but his parents dont see the point in buying one when there is a toilet! but have you got any other ideas of what could have caused this change and how to get him back to his old ways?
2006-09-25 01:08:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He is refusing because he knows you really want him to use the bathroom. If you insist, he will resist because it is something in his life that he can control. Let it go for awhile.
I agree with not getting a potty chair. Children see these as toys. They like to use things that are real. Instead, get him a step stool for the toilet. Don't put him on the toilet, let him do it by himself. Make sure he is in clothing that he can easily take on and off without help, including underwear. If he's not ready to do this, he's not ready for potty training. When you see him doing the "potty dance" say to him "It looks like you need to use the bathroom." Give it no more attention than that. If he soils himself, say to him "It looks like you need to change." Hold him responsible for the cleanup. He can remove the wet clothing, rinse them out or put them in a bag and into the laundry. clean his body and put on dry clothing. He will soon learn that it is much easier to use the bathroom. Good luck!
2006-09-25 07:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for the parents being lazy the only thing that will do is extend how long it will take for the child to learn. Ask the older kids if something was said to the 2 year old. Just be careful not to do it in an accusing tone of voice. Maybe someone said something about him falling in or something. Some kids even freak out because something that came out of them is being flushed away. What if they are next. I know that sounds crazy but some do feel that way. Try encourage him by giving him a sticker ever time he even goes into the bathroom. Start with that he him to go back in there. Then one for sitting on the potty with the lid down and his pants still on. Next just for sitting on the potty even if he doesn't go. Some have had great success with reading a short book while sitting on the potty. He might catch right on again or it might take a while to get from one step to another. Just remember to give a sticker or something small and praise him for just walking in there. After he gets so many stickers maybe he can get a special snack. Try that and see if that helps.
2006-09-25 02:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by deeprankstir 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the child may not be ready to potty train. Most children fall in love with potty training at first, they thrive on the positive reinforcement, praise and treats. I would talk to his parents and explain your intentions and the need for consistency. You all have to the same game plan or the child is bound to give up and regress.
As for the potty chair issue, I agree with the parents. IMO, potty chairs are unsanitary and kind of pointless. Try the small seat cover that fit over a regular toliet seat and start a sticker chart (one pee in toliet = one sticker). And, go over this with his parents! Sometimes, parents wait longer with their youngest child and maybe they just aren't ready, too.
2006-09-25 01:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by lynnguys 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't see where you'd be any good at being a nanny frankly, I know I wouldn't hire you. As a former child care facility supervisor I know you don't force a child to potty train, you wait until they are ready and are willing. Success at potty training does not come with a "potty seat" and such is not necessary when there is a toilet. I suggest you just taking it slowly and allowing him to determine when he is ready for such a major change, and quit blaming the parents, or you might find yourself fired.
2006-09-28 21:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would almost bet that he done something while he was in the potty.....like wet some on the seat or unrolled the toliet paper, and his parents have screamed at him and caused him to be afraid of it.
Just try and be patient and show him how fun the potty can be, and that if he has an accident (like pee pee on the seat) just to let you know so you can help him clean it up.
Ask him if he got in trouble for something he done and see what he says when his parents are not home.......kids that age usually dont lie and then you will know what you are dealing with.
2006-09-25 01:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by howdidiknowthat 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what is wrong with the parents. You are doing the right thing and they don't give a **** so that makes it very hard for you. I think I would tell them that you need them to cooperate with you since you are the one taking the time to potty train him. You would think that they would be happy that you were training him. All I know is that a kid needs consistency on these types of things. Good Luck to You!
2006-09-25 01:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by Maggie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two things, there is a seat you put on the regular toilet seat that is the size for their hiney. He may be afraid that he will fall in and this will releive his fear. Also there is a potty book and video that my son loved. It has babies singing and laughing. Your local library will have the book and probably even the video.
2006-09-25 02:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by Dawn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will go when he is ready. don't force it my son did that but he was 1 years old. don't worry he will go when he is ready but the parents might want to get a potty chair for him. maybe he is scared he will fall. or maybe he did fall and now that is why he doesn't want to use the toilet.
2006-09-25 01:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by missy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like all your hard work is not being carried on when you are not looking after him.
Children need the stability.
You could look into this deeper - has he maybe tried to go at home, made a mess and been punished.??
There could be lots of answers. I would keep trying - talking to him and telling him what and why... they do take a lot in.
Good luck.
2006-09-25 01:13:48 · answer #9 · answered by Tinkerbell 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hon i feel you i tryed with my 2 year old and she done good but for my mom she didn't but got her a new potty and well she took right to it and she more or less done herself just buy on and add it to the bill for being the nanny
2006-09-25 01:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by newmom3272002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋