my son 8 has been for 2 months waking up crying every single night ,he dont care what the he looses he still crys ,when I ask whay he says im alone in my room ,or Im scared ,I ask the doctor about this he has put him on startta 25 mgs ,and it still has not stopped ,I tell him if you cry tonight you loose fun game time he still crys what should I do what id your oppion ,he dont cry when you are in his room sleeping .
2006-09-25 00:59:03 · 18 answers · asked by Holly 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Perhaps you are inadvertently rewarding his crying by a lot of attention. Try to minimize the time you spend on this issue with him.
Instead of punishments, give him stars for being successful at not crying or for getting himself back to sleep.
Coach him on how to get back to sleep. Like think about favorite animals or the beach or playing soccer.
He may not yet have learned he can control his thoughts.
Reasure him of his saftey. Show him how he is safe.
2006-09-25 01:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
is it just being alone, or is he afraid of something in his room. my sisters youngest did this too when he was 6. She put a baby monitor in his room and showed him she could hear everything that went on in his room and then bought him a small dog to sleep with him so he wasnt alone. Took about a week to get him use to it but it slowly worked. He wasnt all alone any more. Then do away with the medication, take him to counciling if you still have a problem, I would rather seek professional help before medication
2006-09-25 01:04:43 · answer #2 · answered by Mom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely get him off of the meds. You really don't want to start over that bridge. Try leaving his door open at night if you don't already and let him know you are close by him or even allow him to get out of bed to come see that you are close to him instead of sitting there crying.
A night light if you use one already and try putting himto sleep with soft music on the radio. Light classical or the like. It can be very soothing. And yes, definitewly check into any abuse that may be going on anywhere. Good luck and hope all works out for you.
2006-09-25 01:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has something you may be unaware of happened to him?
Maybe a kid in the neighborhood said he was going to get him at night, or some other person has done something to cause him this anxiety.
Try talking to him during the day and see if maybe he will tell you when he is awake and alert.
It could be that things have changed at home, divorce, moving, sibling moved out, pet died......and he just needs time to adjust to his new life.
In the meantime I would try putting a night light in his room, and one or two down the hall, or you could try letting him sleep in your room while you sleep in his to show him his room is safe.
2006-09-25 01:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by howdidiknowthat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a VERY normal thing that this age child goes through. Please don't put him on medication!!!!!!! It's the time of his life when he realizes that he is mortal and so are his parents. In other words he figures out that he is not a baby anymore and tragic things happen. My son at 8 went through a time that he would cry at school when I dropped him off, he was afraid something bad would happen to me and I wouldn't ever come to get him. Please don't be angry with him!!!!!! He will get over this fear but not if you scold him or take things away from him. You may think that he's being "bad" but he truly has not control over his fear right now. Let him sleep with a light on, talk to him gently and with understanding, and sleep with him if it helps him with his fear. It won't last forever, my son was over it in a month or so. He needs love and reassurance now, NOT SCOLDING!
2006-09-25 01:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FIrst get your 8 year-old off of the meds. Second it's probably just an overreaction to night terrors or being afraid of the dark or alone at night. I knew a few kids who went through it. I dont know much treatment besides just helping him get over it.
You could try getting him a dog or something to keep him company and make him feel safe at night.
2006-09-25 01:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by zooba 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi tell him
to pray!
but teach him how
for starters
Tell him to say "Thank You Jesus" over and over again until he falls asleep explain to him how Jesus is aways with him and he is never really alone Let him know that God wants him to have a Good night and that Jesus will listen when he talks to him don't take his fun game time away it is not his fault that he can't sleep just:
Stay in the room and do it Repeat Thank You Jesus with him for seven days
take him off the pills drugs now will teach him to depend on drugs later in life
Remember The Name of Jesus has Power!
Just try it you don't have nothing to loose
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2006-09-25 01:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How many times have you slept with your son and under what circumstances caused you to start sleeping with him?
I feel the reason he cries is a way for him to get you to stay with him.
If he doesn't have a night light in his room you might put one in there, that might make him feel better.
2006-09-25 01:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by yakity_one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try talking to him instead of punishing him. He is obviously afraid of something. Maybe someone is bullying him at school and it is affecting him. But if it has only been for the last 2 months then something happened at that time. THAT is what you need to find out.
2006-09-25 01:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible he is being abused by someone? Depression in young kids can manifest itself in behaviour like this sometimes points to abuse (sexual in nature). Is there any way you can try to talk to him with a therapist and find out whats going on? Has he experienced anything traumatic that would cause distress to this level (death of a relative, divorce of parents)? Either way, I think professional help would be best.
2006-09-25 01:03:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋