Should i depart from this world ?

Question

HI,I m a 20 yr old guy from India.I having all kinds of problem.Here are some of them..

1> Have a prblm communicating with people.I M having problem with my speech and also at times hearing problem also.

2> My mind is like a empty box.whatever i talk or say does not make sense to anyone.Nothing comes to my mind to talk with people.I always wanted to talk to people.But thing is the that , I m totally speechless in front of people.I dont know what to talk.

3> Lonely guy.No friends for me in life.I not able to make friends due to my speech prblms & aslo due to the reason that i m less talkitive.Whenever i try to make friend everyone just ignores me.Nobody is happy when i make my presence among them.

4> Financial poor.My parents are unemployed.

Answer 1

First of all I am not a expert. Your hearing problem you need to see a doctor. If you have no money for one see if there is a Health Department around you that does free screening for hearing. If they don't maybe they could direct you to someone who can help you. Try not to look at the negative things you can't do. You say you have a problem communicating with people but you are communicating right now by writing this and asking for help.That's good. Before I went and got help for myself I felt like you.I could never think of anything to say to people. I felt shy and embarressed and I thought people did not like me because I felt whenever I did say something it came out wrong and they thought I was stupid. I also thought nobody liked me around. It turned out they thought I was stuck-up because I never said much. So I went to community Mental Health which is free for those who cannot afford to pay. I went to therepy and learned how to become self confident and work on my self esteem. I was diagnoised with sociol anxiety and given a medicine called paxil cr. This medicine along with therepy help me greatly. I do not feel like "my mind is like a empty box" anymore. I can communicate very well with others without thiking they don't like me. I am so much happier! You seem like a smart guy. You were able to compose a well written letter. Be good to yourself and try out the therepy. Take care and remember I am not a professional and this is just my opinion. You do not want to depart from this world. It has a lot of major problems but you can be happy if you just get help. Please don't leave us.

Answer 2

Can I ask you a question first: Are you a coward?

If you answer no then read on:

As a young guy of 20 years old it would be a tragic loss, without having explored every possibility. Talk to your psychotherapist about possible treatment not just about your suicidal tendencies but also about your speech problems. There are many different ways to treat this, but first talk to a good psychotherapist.
Think about the positive things in life, make a plan with a concrete aim together with your pyschotherapist and stick to the plan. It is hard to do but if you want to live you will do it. Good luck and maybe try joining a speech therapy group. You will surely make friends there, which will give you morê confidence and energy to want to succeed! The world is your apple!
I wish you all the best! By the way I am also poor, not worked since 5 years and have four kids! Where there is a will there is a way...i send you lots of my energy!..Good Luck!

Answer 3

You've just posted this question in front of an entire community and from my point of view it proved that you can express yourself in writing (it's not easy for someone to express what they feel to many that don't even know him).
I think I understand your problem in communicating... You can manage very good in writing but when it comes to talk to someone you don't know where to start, so you don't say anything (well maybee just the usual greetings) hoping that the other will start the conversation for you!
Think that the person you want to talk to is in the same situation... Is he to be blamed for this? No and neither should you. You must find a common subject which at first can be very hard, but not impossible to do. Once you do it two or three times you won't stop :). The easiest way is to find someone that can integrate you in a group of friends. I can't imagine that there's nobody out there which doesn't care about you..
I don't know how is it India, but here being poor has nothing to do with making friends! A friend that is interested in you only because you're reach will definetly let you down sooner or later! Friendship is not based on money!

Answer 4

I have a speech problem i stutter it can be hard when trying to talk to people i can understand. Many talented people have different minds they may not be understood in there genius think about it Einstein could not have many peers.
Some people talk alot this can be a handicap as well as talking to little but if you are quiet and talk only when you have a good point some people will listen more.
My parent are poor they both are disabled and i know that is hard but i never let that stop me. When i was 18 all i have was two plastic bags of clothes nothing else.
In time about 9 years i have had ups and downs but through out it all i know it will all pass at 27 i have almost a quarter of a million dollars i only say this to show you can do things in life that will help you. When you look back you find that all these things go or bad change you for the better. Killing your self is a final solution to a short term problem you need to talk to a Friend doctor any one that can help. Stay strong i promise it gets better and you can do great things at 22 i have in debt 30 thousand dollars and had no job or hopes but it worked out.

Answer 5

First of all - I know in India it is difficult to get medical and psychological care if you have no money and if memory serves right, the government doesn't do much in the way of helping. Several church organizations are there, as well as medical groups like "Doctors Without Borders." Try contacting one of them. Not only can they help medically, you might find many people wiling to be your friends because they understand your problems. It does puzzle me some, though, because if you are that poor, who's computer are you using? They aren't cheep, even in America! If you're using someone elses, might you not consider that oerson a friend?...Any way..

1. You communicated your problems just fine.

2. Let someone else start the conversation or just smile at people. You aren't the only one who is nervous meeting people or even being around people you know but have responded poorly to your attempts. A lot of people suffer from anxiety and depression and what you are describing is way up on the list of symptoms. You could probably use an anti-anxiety or anti-depressive medication.

3. As my dear old grandmother would say, baloney sauce! Instead of moaning about not having friends, take a week and look how you respond to others and while you're at it do something nice for someone every day. Eventually you will notice they will start responding better to you. If they don't, look for a different quality of people.

4. I was married to the heir of coal mine fortunes and I was miserable, especially when he tried to kill me. He finally left me. Eventually, I married an auto mechanic without an education and no prospects of ever having much. I've never been happier.
Money will not make you happy. You have to do that for yourself.

5. Suicide is the cowardly way out. You hurt those who love you and hurt the God who created you, who loves you, too. Hardship and loneliness is neccessary. It helps us appreciate the good times when we have them instead of us taking life for granted.

If you end it now, your soul mate will wander this world without ever finding true happiness enjoyed between two people. If you end it now, you will not fulfill the purpose God put you here for. If you end it now, you end the life of a beautiful person with a sensitive heart who didn't work hard enough to find his place in life and that is truly the saddest thing that could happen.

You are only twenty. You haven't tasted enough of life or known enough people to really judge your own lot in life. You have a speech problem. My daughter found out she was pregnant - on the same day they told her she has a brain tumor. Four weeks later she lost the baby and was told they think the tumor is probably cancer. She isn't even sure she will graduate from school and if she were standing next to you when you wrote that question, she would kick your bum from one end of India to the other and back!

You have a lot to live for and if a speech problem and loneliness are the worst problems you could have, you should count yourself lucky. Everyone has problems, even the rich and beautiful feel loneliness and alot of the time they don't know whether their friends like them for them or for their money or prestige.

Don't give up. When you do, those you feel are against you win. Keep fighting hard to succeed, keep trying and someday you will look back and say, "What was i so worried about?"

Answer 6

departing from this world is never an answer. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. You may think that people wont like you because of the problems you seem to have, but believe me...people don't notice things as much as you notice them yourself. I know that it is hard sometimes in life but things always get better. Tomorrow is always another day. You should really consider going to see a psychiatrist to talk about your problems. They can really help you see how important your life is. I know you feel like no one likes you, but that is just the way you, but that is the way you see yourself and not the way others see you. I am sure you are a wonderful person. You should feel wonderful about yourself.

Answer 7

I am very sorry to read that you are so depressed. You could start by making some friends online. They cannot hear how you speak and that should make you more confident to talk to them. Good friends accept one another as they are. We all have things which hold us back, but your friends should accept you with your speech problems. They don't take anything away from the person you are. I will gladly speak to you on Yahoo Messenger if you want.

Answer 8

No don't ever think you should depart from this world. I'm sure you are a very beautiful person on the inside and out, you need to realize there are alot of people in this world that don't realize how just one wrong look could hurt someone.
Let me tell you, you have made a friend and now I am happy.
God is with you and you are a very special person, and I am sure you are a good and very SPECIAL FRIEND

Answer 9

HI Floyd, you did great here, you talked and we listened or read. Stop being so hard on yourself. Life is good you should enjoy it, try new places to make friends. People who do not want to be your friend, either don't know you or have a problem with dealing on an honest level with real people. We are all poor, we just deal with it. not going to Alaska this year maybe never. being poor does not mean you can't do better or dream rich

Answer 10

NO u shouldn't depart from this world

try first sitting with a group, not just one person, and listen to wat they say....once u feel secure enough, talk with them
i believe that u feel that ur mind is an empty box because ur insecure and u feel from the inside that watever u say will have no meaning, but sometimes it's not like that so just say wat u think..compare wat u talk about to wat other ppl talk about and if it really doesn't make sense then just talk about wat evrybody else is talking about

if u feel that u just can't talk to ppl because of ur speech problems then try making friends online, u can obviously write and read and i believe it will be a good start ;)
u may start first with making friends here and then once u have friends, u can go and try speaking to some1 in person:)

about ur financial situation, u should try helping ur parents by working...whenever u have free time, work....

Last but NOT least, always have faith in GOD, never give up and GOOD LUCK ;)