2006-09-24 19:54:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Beside all that, he's smart, successfull in his career, carring, handsome and very kind to people. BuT he only behaves that way with the one he loves.
2006-09-24 20:07:34 · update #1
Thanks Becky.
The difference is what confusing me.
Building thing is always harder than beaking it.
Sometimes he seems like a very caring person that's when he's happy. But if I did smt that makes him jealous like chatting to a co worker (we work at the same office) then he would do anything to get my attention away from that guy which is very annoying. But if i give in then I just got ignored, but I dont want to give him up. Should I ignore him, I just cant do that for more than a day...
2006-09-25 21:26:10 · update #2
jealous=insecure
hot tempered=immature
You don't deal with such people. They will remain that way if you try to deal with them by giving in or admitting something they think you did wrong (but didn't). They'll always find fault. They want control--and from you, submission.
Do yourself a big favor. Say goodbye. Mean it. Never look back.
2006-09-24 19:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Pandak 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the people seemed to answer your question adequately, ie dump him he might turn into an abuser. I agree. But there are two other things to consider. 1. Are you afraid that he will try to hurt you if you leave him? 2. Is there some mental process going on with you that makes you into a possible victim? If any of these things are possible with you than in the case of fear in leaving him ask your family for support. If that is not possible than call an abuse hotline and get their advice. In any case LEAVE HIM NOW. If you do things that put you in a position where you can be victimized try to get help and counseling for that. Call a hot line for their assistance. THINK before you do something such as park on a dark deserted street instead of in a more public place. Like the other people said get rid of him instead of trying to change him.
I'd like to add something to my answer in response to what you added. People are not always what they seem in public. Sometimes its in a good way like my boyfriend. He's the kindest, most gentle and innocent human being you could imagine. In fact even though I'm very young I plan to marry him because I know that I will NEVER find anyone better out there no matter how old I get. A lot of my friends who used to downgrade him now see what I see and some even say how much they envy me. Nevertheless, Jamie is extremely physically strong and brave. He has risked his life to stop an armed robbery once and my dad who is a police officer (did not agree that he should have done it ) says he deserved a medal.
Now people can be the opposite. Someone could be nice as a public persona, but evil and rotten inside. He needs help with his mental functioning to make him a better person. NOT you and your furture children to provide him with a release of tension because he can't abuse his co workers so needs to take out his anger and aggression on the innocent people in his home.
Leave him now and pray that no other person is taken in by him until he receives help from a mental health professional and heals.
2006-09-24 20:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but if it were me and I was dating someone who was jeolous and hot-tempered they would be kicked to the curb at once. I don't care how good they look or how much money they make. They obviously have trust issues they need to deal with. Unless you are legitimately doing something to make him not trust you, he needs to learn how to calmly deal with it and learn to trust you more.
2006-09-24 20:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a sense of security if he's jealous about you going out with another guy friend, cool him down immediately if you think the temperature of hotness is rising...
2006-09-24 19:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by dolphin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him go before he hurt you. it is not cute> jealousy, or hot tempered he will explode before long, there are some hidden past issues that he is dealing with that he has not come to grips with. check his home life with his parents and other siblings.
2006-09-24 20:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by PHAT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Replace him with an trusting, calm, and easygoing boyfriend. Or develop your inner resources by being alone for awhile.
2006-09-24 20:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you dating someone who is jealous, hot tempered, and touchy? Those are three major red flags of an abuser.
My dear, please move on before you get hurt!
2006-09-24 19:59:45 · answer #7 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him how it makes u feel...my boyfriend is the same way, all i had to do was talk to him and it made things much better.
2006-09-24 19:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by pinkprep_4life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, it doesn't get better, it gets worse, and someone is going to get hurt...you can't change him, you either live with it or get out of it...it's all up to you...
2006-09-24 19:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple question, simple answer. Dump, dump, dump and dump.
2006-09-24 19:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋