I have noticed more and more that kids are really acting up in public. When they become teens they have absolutely no respect for anyone. As a teen I was rambunctious but I always had respect for the elderly and the general public. I got my butt whooped regularly, not in an abusive way. Some of these kids need a good whipping. Don't you agree?
Should we start spanking our kids again? Timeout doesn't work.
2006-09-24 18:12:56 · 14 answers · asked by rswdew 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Colleen, you were beaten, not spanked
Confi, I respect your remarks but disagree
2006-09-25 01:01:49 · update #1
Kit, that is the problem, too many people being LAZY and reading freakin' books and not taking the situation into their own hands. The greatest generation of Americans is that of my grandparents, WW2 veterans who were kids in the great depression, those people got thumped when they were kids and look at the respect that they get and deserve. Nobody was reading Supernanny books back then.
2006-09-25 01:07:10 · update #2
I think every boy needs a strong father (or father figure) that is clearly in control when it comes to the rules about what is and isn't allowed. Without this he will simply never learn any discipline at all.
Sometimes a kid needs to feel a little intimidated to learn this and if they are vehemently defiant then the belt should come out. It would be worse to allow them to grow into the asshole they would otherwise become.
2006-09-24 18:40:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It relies upon on the measures of the spanking. if the make sure over makes use of the privlage to spank their baby and use it as an abuse then sure, yet when the make sure is only spanking them for something the youngster did incorrect and isn't any longer being abusive then no. at the same time as a make sure spanks a baby it really is to inform them they love them and to enable the youngster understand they ought to not were doing what they were doing.
2016-11-23 20:13:55 · answer #2 · answered by mehboob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 14 years old as a younger child i was spanked if i back-talked my dad he spanked me i consider myself to be respectful to my elders and my fellow people i know it hurts but in my onpinion i think it is an awsome way to teach ur child/children i have 4 brothers and 2 sisters and we always got spanked when i have kids i will spank my children as long as u dont leave a permonant mark there aint nothin wrong w/ it
2006-09-24 18:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by Camera_Queen 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
yea, we should start spanking our kids but as long that you don't abuse the child, such as leaving marks on the skin, or just beating him/her for no reason. Nowadays, children have no respect. I know if i acted up somewhere in public, i know whats going to happen when i get home. Now that i am older, people tell me "wow, you are very polite," etc...
2006-09-24 18:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by cobo6 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Timeouts are pathetic, the kids just grow up with no respect for their parents, their elders, the public or even themselves. They just become irresponsible, rude adults. Its better to apply a good spanking when the kid needs it, no need to overdo but he should know that there are consequences for acting wildly...till he knows better.
2006-09-24 18:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by DrSH 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be that way. All freakin kids should be disciplined. It's better to teach when they are young how to obey and do what is right. Teenagers today think they deserve anything and everything for doing nothing except going to school. Ipods, cell phones, computers, you name it, they have it. Are they really happy? No, they are miserable... Why? Because they don't know any boundaries.
2006-09-24 18:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What children learn from being spanked is that it's okay for big people to hit little people and to fear others. Spanking is the lazy person's way to control a child.
If you love your child and want him/her to be well-behaved, you will learn the appropriate way to use time-out. There are specific steps that work. Both parents have to agree to work together and be consistent for it to work.
It's a process that takes a little time for the child and the parent to learn. In the end, the child is able to control him- or herself and not have to be controlled by some other person. She/he is empowered, not simply compliant due to fear. (Compliant children are more apt to be subjected to abuse because they are taught to do what others say without question.)
Once you've done the work of teaching the behavioral rules of the house using time-outs, then you continue to be consistent in enforcing the rules. Children are smart, they will try you from time to time, but they'd much rather know what to expect and follow the rules than to spend all their time being punished.
Family life is much more enjoyable when everyone is respected and knows what is expected/required of him/her.
If you're really interested, get a copy of one of Jo Frost's SUPERNANNY books. They're easy to read and practical.
2006-09-24 19:19:00 · answer #7 · answered by KIT J 4 · 0⤊ 5⤋
It is not necessary to hit a child in order for them to behave. All one teaches a child when they spank is that it is okay to hit someone when you're angry and frustrated. The reason alot of young people today are they way they are is that the government and the schools took over raising them. They decided that they knew what was best for our children rather than leaving the raising of the kids in the hands of the parents. Then they turned around and handed the kids back and expect the parents to "fix" the problem. I never once hit my daughter and she never acted up in public, she has always respected other people. Could it be the way I raised her? Time outs DO work, but one has to be consistent. You don't just say "sit there" and expect a 2 year old to do so. You have to be willing to take the child back to the spot over and over and over again eventually the child will tire of getting up knowing that no matter what he/she does they will be returned to the spot for time out. If you're not willing to be consistent then you're really defeating yourself. In our house we had rules, if my daughter followed the rules she was rewarded with television time or time to play a video game (this was before everyone had the internet) as she got older and we aquired the internet that was a privliege as well time on the computer came when she behaved. She didn't have a television in her room, she was allowed one hour of television in the evenings IF she had earned it, earning it consisted of getting up on time to get to school in the morning, getting her homework done, not mouthing off, on weekends she got more television/video time but no more than 6 hours. When we got our internet connection the computer was in the family room and she was allowed one hour on it, unless she had a school project. The family room was directly off of our kitchen so that during dinner preparation I was able to keep an eye on what she did online. I didn't need any "parental" locks to keep her off of it. I simply passworded the internet connection and changed the password every few days, a hassle but part of the job of being a parent. I also learned that if any parent wants to know what has been going online all they have to do is call their internet provider, they keep a log of all of the sites visited and they can give you a list of all of the sites your connection has gone to. It's not that kids are any worse than they were when I was a kid. I got beat as a child, I have scars on my legs from my father's belt as well as muscle and nerve damage on the left side of my face due to one of his beatings and suffered a broken nose more than once. Did that make me behave? Not really, it made me resent and distrust, and fear my father and in the end not give a damn about whether he lived or died while he spent 3 weeks in hospital dying of cancer. Conversely my daughter and I have always been close, she has always been well behaved and now at 20 has grown into a productive, intelligent, independent member of society, she's even been approached on more than one occasion to run for city council, which should give you some idea as to the respect she has earned from those much older than herself. And I never laid a hand on her.
2006-09-24 18:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
i dont agree in favour of spanking at all!!! Only because of these spankings children loose control and they are forced to disrespect their elders!! what i prefer is the loving parents....loving and caring parents are the only people who can show their pure love widout even thinking about spanking. teenage is a very cruicial stage of life...parents have to be very careful in taking decisions for their children...decisions should be in such a way neither it will be against the child nor against the parents...both the party agrees....and parents who are wise enough knows this trick.. believe me spanking worsen the attitude of child...and thus they show their attitude...give them love...and then c the results...and then u will feel that i would have used this way of treating the child earlier...!! cheers buddy!!!
2006-09-24 18:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Yes. They're out of control and sending them to the "happy chair" doesn't work :(
2006-09-24 18:15:49 · answer #10 · answered by Avid 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋