My bf has cheated on me 35 freakin' times(not including w/ friends) and I finally said enough but is there something wrong with me? If I don't forgive him? Is it my fault? Plz help me
2006-09-24 15:15:01 · 25 answers · asked by outlandishb13 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 13 and he's 15 and he said that if he loves me and I don't know what to do.
My mom says I should stay with him and I just need some advice on this topic.
2006-09-24 15:26:33 · update #1
yes this is for real and I'm imberessed enough about it so plz no sarcastic reamrks andI guess I am cuz that's what he keeps saying too. Look I'm sorry if this sounds rude but I don't really appreciate sarcasime. And if I break up with him my Mom will get mad.
2006-09-25 17:05:31 · update #2
No, but there's something wrong with you if he's still your boyfriend.
After reading your additional notes, there's definitely something wrong with your mom.
2006-09-24 15:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe this is is not a joke. Are you for real?
Your boyfriend has cheated on you 35 times, that you know of, and you wonder if there is something wrong with you for not liking it? Come on girl. Where is your head.
You should have bounced his butt after the first one.
You know what you are to him? A port in the storm. No other girl at the moment? Hey she will forgive me let's go get with her.
I am sorry to be harsh on you if this is for real but girl you have been such a fool. Do you have any idea how much at risk this guy has put you to? You could have every possible disease there is.
Kick him and find someone that likes you for something beside what is between your legs. I kid you not.
2006-09-24 15:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him -- and then show him the door! He is obviously NOT going to change. Do you really want to spend another second with someone who constantly cheats (including with friends -- and what kind of friends are these; I'd cut them loose too!)?
You forgive for yourself, so that you can MOVE ON. Forgiveness means letting go of resentment. Resentment means that you still care in some way about the guy or what he does wouldn't bother you one way or the other.
The sooner you have this man out of your life the better!
2006-09-24 15:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by pat z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hadn't forgiven after the first time, and tried to make something work, THEN there may have been something wrong with you not forgiving him. But you question yourself about it now after you know he's cheated on you 35 times??? AND you're still with him? Jesus H. Christ...tell me when you're going to be on Dr. Phil, so I can buy tickets in advance!
2006-09-24 15:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by squidbrat2003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you once, you are completely in your right not to forgive him. The fact that you stayed with him and he cheated on you 35 times makes you a said. Dump him and move on to someone better!
2006-09-24 15:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well ok this is my opinion. he doesn't really luv u if he keeps doing it. even if he says sorry and that it was an accident ot he'll never do it again. well i wouldn't trust him at all. cuz look he keeps doing it. and has the same excuse prolly each time. but in my opnion there is no excuse. i wouldn't put up witht hat crap i would dump him! like after the second time! cuz i would forgive him after the first just cuz its nice to give second chances but after that bye bye! but if you are gonna stay with him. well i dont know how you could ever trust him again. and if he gives you crap about not trusting him. just be like give me one good reason i should trust you , you've cheated 35 times! and if he says but i luv you just be like oh is that what you do to people you luv and people who luv you? see if you ain't gonna dump him then i guess thats ok but if he cheats on you again. and you get hurt for the 36th time don't be like all sad and crap cuz you're the one who stayed with him after 35 rounds of cheating and so you are subjecting your self to get hurt. maybe not the first time but after the second time yeah if you were hurt well it was your fault you got hurt cuz you didn't stop dating him. now im not saying its your fault he cheated cuz its not thats just his fault. i don't know whats wrong with him why is he with you if he likes everyone else!? you know ok so i hope i helped im sorry if i came off as rude or something i was only trying to help. and i tried to put it in the nicest way possible. good luck! ~Ps if your mom says to stay with him. inore her. she ain't dating him you are. its up to you not her.
2006-09-25 02:08:18 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Tyson Ritter♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO ANALOGIZE OR FORGIVE. THIS GUY IS NOT HONEST AND DEFINITELY NOT TRUSTWORTHY. TRUST IS THE KEY TO ANY GOOD RELATIONSHIP. EVEN IF YOU BOTH AGREED TO SEE OTHERS (WHICH IS NOT MY WAY--ONE AT A TIME FOR ME) IT STILL IS WRONG TO CHEAT. DON'T FEEL THAT IT IS YOUR FAULT. I TOO HAVE THAT PROBLEM. I ALWAYS FEEL THAT IF I DID SOMETHING MORE THEN EVERYTHING WOULD BE PERFECT. BUT LIFE IS NOT PERFECT AND BE GLAD YOU FOUND OUT NOW. IT SOUNDS THAT YOU LOVE HIM OTHERWISE YOU WOULD NOT CARE IF HE CHEATED. IT MAY TAKE TIME BUT LOOK FOR A HONEST PERSON AND MAKE IT KNOWN THAT YOU ARE HONEST AND EXPECT THAT IN YOUR PARTNER.
2006-09-24 15:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by LuLu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He++ no there is nothing wrong with you. Forget about this bozo and go on with your life. Find someone else that is not going to cheat on you. You are much too nice a person to stay with this clown, he is just wanting you to feel quilty.
2006-09-24 15:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump the jerk,the first time you can forgive,but not 35 times,sounds to me like he's more into himself than you.Why is your mom telling you to stay with this boy?Be honest with yourself,your only 13 is this the kind of a relationship you want to deal with!!!.
2006-09-24 22:12:29 · answer #9 · answered by dragonflypenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something wrong with you for not dumping him at number 2 or 3.
2006-09-24 15:17:00 · answer #10 · answered by Contesta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTLY NOT!!!!! If he even has to think about another girl, than honey he is not the guy for you. "Love is like a dove, it will fly with the wind and eventualy land." So, i'm sorry if this comes out rude or inconsiderate, but honey if you take him back again your a dang fool. You need to find yourself a kind, caring, loving man, who is honest and loyal and who will give you the TLC " tender loving care" that you deserve. I'm sorry hun, i feel your pain.
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2006-09-24 15:22:58 · answer #11 · answered by poetryslame200 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋