You need to tell him. If you don't and he gets the virus from you he will find out then, and probably be REALLY upset. Herpes is for life, so you really do need to tell him. If he loves you, he will stay with you. He'll probably be upset that you didn't tell him in the beginning, but better late than never!
I got genital herpes from a guy who didn't tell me he had it. Now, I have it the rest of my life. I can't completely blame him, because I could have just simply not slept with him, but it is partially his fault, because he didn't tell me he had it.
2006-09-24 22:12:46
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answered by Alli 7
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I think if you truly love this person , you should be honest with him. First off though, I think it is a selfish indivdual who is not upfront with a person they are involved with. How would you like it if someone did this to you child when he or she are grown? There is enough deceit out here, people need to start being more responsible..... And, because he may have only been with you recently and could have had STD testing, when he does have an outbreak, how do you think he is going to treat you then..... You can almost guarantee you will lose him forever!!!!!
2006-09-24 18:16:20
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answered by phinesse 1
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Tell him you just found out about the herpes and that you didn't know before. Don't tell him you were afraid to tell him the truth because he can feel that you dont really love him (because 2 people who love each other tell everything to each other). If you really love him you have to try to tell him everything!!!! Don't keep the secret forever, don't do it!!!
2006-09-24 17:16:23
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answered by mermaid 1
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Stop being selfish. Put yourself in his shoes...how would you feel if the situation were reversed, and someone you cared about was exposing you to a disease for which there is no cure? Would you be happy?
Grow up and take responsibility for your actions...give the people you want to have sex with, the opportunity to decide for themselves if it's worth the risk...you have NO right to decide that for them, no matter how much you think you love them...
If you really did love this guy, you wouldn't be putting him in the position that you are...how can you claim to love someone, then expose them to an incurable disease? I hope no one EVER loves me like that...
2006-09-24 15:02:28
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answered by . 7
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If he loves you unconditionally he will forgive you but is hard to forgive someone if you are not straight forward with them. You shouldve told him in the beginning because his response will honestly tell u how he feels for u .
2006-09-25 00:50:43
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answered by sugar507 2
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You have put his health in jeopardy for your own benefits.
This shows that you are a selfish person who will put others in danger for her own gain.
This is going to look very bad if you tell him now that you may have given him herpes.
I don't think he will ever forgive you for that.
Why do you want to tell him now? Have you grown a heart, or do you now, again, have your own personal interest in mind? Do you want him to share your disease with you, and have that in common?
Next time practice safe sex with new partners. Give them a chance, if you two fall in love with each other, then let them know about your disease. If they really love you, they will not care, and will find ways to deal with it.
2006-09-24 15:21:01
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answered by Perplexed Princess 2
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If you love him you would have told him. This is not something small that anyone can hide. He has a right to know, it's his body and life we are talking about here. I would definitely tell him no matter what. Would you have like that the person who gave you that STD to have told you? Now this is your opportunity to be honest and to stop the cycle.
2006-09-24 15:16:26
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answered by Max 2
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You hid herpes from him for a year??!!!! he needs to be told if you really love him! he WILL find out eventually and he'd probably be pretty PO'd if he found out you were hiding it from him that whole time. Honesty is one of the many keys to a healthy relationship.
2006-09-24 14:59:42
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answered by sarah_lynn 4
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Naughty naughty, he will find out when he is diagnosed with it, as you have probably passed it on already. Just pray he doesn't have aids and passed it on to you as well, you see, honesty is the best policy, you will end up losing him in the end because if you are dishonest in the little things you will be in the big things as well, and there are laws against knowingly passing on diseases.
2006-09-24 15:01:28
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answered by Neptune2bsure 6
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How would you feel if the roles were reversed??You need to sit down and be honest with him. In doing that you need to be prepared for whatever happens. Good God woman , be a woman about it and do the descent thing by this guy.
2006-09-24 17:15:56
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answered by janeyrose48 1
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