for women only that have had HSV 2-my bf has hsv2, we've used condoms to play it safe, though?

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even condoms are not 100% effective-what if i gave him oral sex? of course if he's not having an outbreak, but he's still asymptomatic and capable of shedding/passing HSV2- i have hsv1 and i do get outbreaks in the winter or when i am stressed-this issue has been causing a lot of panic for me-coz i don't want to get hsv2 when i don't have to-but how bad have you experienced the bouts? how often? how painful? how traumatic has it been? when you had kids, did you deliver via C section? serious responses only! thanks in advance-

going back to the oral sex-of course, having a barrier in mouth doesn't appeal anymore to me than him, but can i get hsv 2 in my mouth despite my having hsv 1 there already? i don't want to end up having a mouth full of painful sores-i love my bf dearly and i don't want him to think i see him as a freak or anything-coz he has been out of the dating loop due to his problem-

Answer 1

You'll always be susceptible of contracting HSV2 from him if you have any kind of sex with him, whether it be vaginal sex, anal, or oral sex.

It IS possible for a person to get HSV2 in and on their lips and mouth area. This is more rare, especially compared to the number of people with HSV1 on their lips and mouths but it CAN happen. So, yes it is possible for you to get HSV2 from him if you give him oral sex, whether he is currently having an outbreak or not. You'll then have both HSV1 and HSV2. Also, HSV2 sores on the lips and mouth occur less than HSV1 sores.

It's also possible for you to contract HSV2 from him whether you use condoms or not. I dated my ex for almost 4 years and he never got the virus from me, but my current fiance (boyfriend at the time) got it about 2 months into our relationship. When I started dating my fiance it was a year and 1/2 since my last outbreak and I STILL passed it to him! So, you never really can be too careful.

When a person contracts genital herpes their first outbreak is usually any where from 1-20 days, but for some people the symptoms can take months and sometimes even years to show. The first outbreak for me was EXTREMELY painful. I was prescribed a painkiller along with my antiviral medication. I had to call off of work for 2 days because I could hardly walk or even sit down! The reoccurring outbreaks are not nearly as bad as the first one and tend to last about half the time as the first one. The first 6 months for me were pretty hard, especially since I was only 17 when I was diagnosed. With time though, I've learned to deal with it, and now I never think about it, unless I see a Valtrex commercial or something. It's honestly in the back of my mind.

Genital herpes doesn't cause any serious health issues. I mean, yeah, the sores are painful and all, but they heal. It's not deadly like HIV or untreated syphilis can be. It doesn't cause sterility like untreated syphilis, gonorrhea, or chlamydia can. It also doesn't cause cancer like HPV can. I also had cervical cancer from HPV when I was 17 years old. Now that is a BAD STD. Much worse than herpes.

As for a women with genital herpes having a child, it's totally possible and without a C-section. Genital herpes is spread to the child as it is coming through the birth canal and when the mother is currently having an outbreak (usually her first one). If the mother is not having an outbreak it is almost always fine to have a natural birth without passing it to the newborn. I've read chances of a baby being born with herpes to a genital herpes mother are less than 1%. If the mother or doctor are really concerned when it comes time to give birth, they can always have a C-section, which is a guarantee the baby will not get herpes.

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Answer 3

There are two types of herpes simplex virus: HSV-1 and HSV-2. Both virus types can cause sores around the mouth (herpes labialis) and on the genitals (genital herpes). Cold sores are caused by the herpes simplex virus (HSV).
Cold sores sometimes called fever blisters, are groups of small blisters on the lip and around the mouth. The skin around the blisters is often red, swollen, and sore. The blisters may break open, leak a clear fluid, and then scab over after a few days. They usually heal in several days to 2 weeks.
The herpes simplex virus usually enters the body through a break in the skin around or inside the mouth. It is usually spread when a person touches a cold sore or touches infected fluid—such as from sharing eating utensils or razors, kissing an infected person, or touching that person's saliva. A parent who has a cold sore often spreads the infection to his or her child in this way. Cold sores can also be spread to other areas of the body.
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Answer 4

Reproductive rights and parental responsibily are not the same thing so enforcing prochoice is not the same as shirking parental responsibily.Thats the flaw in this argument. Maybe if you are prolife they are but otherwise they are not. Not paying support is shirking parental responsibility. Feeding and clothing a child is compleltey different than stopping a featus from developing. Yes they should have worn condom as people who get STDs are told. Men still suffer less burden in these situations when the women do have babies given that they must stay at home and be primary carers and they also dont carry children making it hard to apply these sort of reproductive rights to them. There are people who take advantage of the situation men should be aware of that. There should be protections to ensure that the funds are directed towards the child and not siezed upon by the mother. As we all agree however it should be parents who are encouraged and allowed to acces the child.

Answer 5

If you want to have intercourse, you might want to consider using a female condom. They are more expensive, but they cover more surface area around a woman's genitals, reducing skin-to-skin contact...and men often say the female condoms feel better.

As for oral sex on him, I would suggest considering the information I've put together below, considering other sensual/sexual activities as alternatives to blow jobs, and if you do engage in mouth to male member contact, then make sure your mouth only touches the condom...perhaps you could even use latex gloves and lube to caress the balls and base of his member while you use your tongue on the condom-covered shaft.
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How long has he been infected?

In the first year of infection, people with genital HSV-2 shed the virus from the genital area about 6-10% of days when they show no symptoms, and less often over time.

So, if he was recently infected, your chances of contracting the virus are higher.
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Remember too: Most cases of genital herpes are transmitted when symptoms are not present.

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One site says the following:

What if your partner has genital HSV-2 and you perform oral sex on him or her? Will you get HSV- 2 in the mouth?

You might expect oral HSV-2 to be relatively common. It's not.

According to one study, almost 100% of recognizable HSV-2 infection is genital (Nahmias, Scandinavian Journal of Infectious Diseases Supplement, 1990). One reason is that most adults are already infected with HSV-1 orally, which provides some immunity against infection with HSV 2. Another reason is that oral HSV-2 rarely reactivates, so even if an infection does exist, no one knows.
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However, as I understand it, either kind of HSV can infect the body at either site...the viruses just aren't that different. If you already have one kind of HSV, your immune system is probably compromised (weakened), and so you need to be particularly carefull, not to put yourself at further risk for infection.
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As a person who works with the National AIDS Fund, I feel that I must also cite the following facts:

Contracting an STI or STD puts a person at a higher risk of HIV/AIDS. If your immunde system is compromised already and then you get exposed to HIV/AIDS, your chances of contracting HIV/AIDS may be greater...you may get "sicker quicker." So, get your partner and yourself tested for HIV/AIDS!

According to one website:
Genital herpes also increases the risk of HIV infection. This is because HIV can enter the body more easily whenever there's a break in the skin (such as a sore) during unprotected sexual contact. (And sexual contact isn't just intercourse!)

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Genital HSV can cause potentially fatal infections in babies. It is important that women avoid contracting herpes during pregnancy because a first episode during pregnancy causes a greater risk of transmission to the baby.

If a woman has active genital herpes at delivery, a cesarean delivery is usually performed. Fortunately, infection of a baby from a woman with herpes infection is rare.

Answer 6

You can get HSV2 anywhere on your body that you have contact with the virus.

If you are serious about staying with him I will tell you that eventually you are probably gonna get it. It is very difficult to live the rest of your life with someone and not get it.

Have him go on suppressive therapy. He takes a pill every day, that will reduce your chances, but like you already said. Even if he not having an outbreak, he can still be contagious. The virus can be present for up to 48 hours without symptoms.

I got it from an ex while we were "exclusive" (w hore) and now my wife has it.

We were very careful in the beginning, but when you are married are you never going to have unprotected sex?

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