2006-09-11 23:50:59 · 13 answers · asked by s f 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Time out......or punish him by removing all of his favorite toys one at a time.
Make sure whatever method you decide to use that you see it through to the end....if you send mixed messages he will never take you or any threats seriously.
My mum god love her always says never threaten with anything you cant follow through with...so no point in saying "right if you dont play nice ill tie you up and put you in the car" not that i have ever said this but thought it would be a clear example
2006-09-11 23:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by askaway 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When my kids did not listen to me I would go to their room and get them 3 changes of clothes and a blanket. They would be grounded from their room. Why ground a kid to their room because that's where all of their fun stuff is.
The offender would then have to sleep on the couch with his / her clothes in a paper bag at the end of the couch, and the blanket rolled up next to them. Because "If you are not going to listen to mom or dad, you are going to wind up not listening to teachers and bosses and ultimately you will hold no job and therefore have no money and will be bumming a friends couch to sleep on, so get used to it now."
The rules were no TV unless another family member is watching it, then you have no programming selection, after all if you are at a friends home sleeping on the couch you will watch what they watch right?
Food was always a joy to the offender in my household. Peanut butter and cool aide. You might be staying with a broke friend, get used to it now. No snacks, no phone, no going out with friends.
If the rules were broke 1 day was added to the punishment that started at 3 days.
When the 3 days of clothes got dirty, they had to walk to the Laundromat and do them. Of course I walked with them, but if you can not listen, you can not ride. They had to clean the house to my satisfaction at 1.00 an hour (about what you would make if you had to bum money from strangers) to get the 4.00 it took to do the laundry. Laundry soap not provided, had to buy it at the Laundromat.
My son would NEVER listen to me. After doing a few rounds on the couch, his hearing cleared right up. My daughter saw what her brother was going through and listened to me to a T.
He is now in medical school. My daughter runs my business with me. Sure your son will think you have lost your mind, but that's OK. A few days of couch time works wonders, and best of all there is no way that anyone can stretch that into child abuse. Just be consistent.
2006-09-12 07:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by GoneByDawn 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Check out the book "1-2-3 Magic". I can't remember who it is by, but it has changed our lives... it's the count to three and then get a consequence method, but the book breaks it down into steps, and if you can be consistant with it, it's a life-saver. I can stop a tantrum or negative behaviour by the count of 1 sometimes, which is a HUGE deal to me. Check it out :)
2006-09-12 18:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by sokkermum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the Stop Look Listen Think and Act. Talk with him before you start using it. This is helping some with my 10 year old. This is what his therapist recommended.
2006-09-12 09:40:08 · answer #4 · answered by shortansassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out what ur 8 year old wants then ask him to listen and when he does give him the reward or just let him not listen to you then he might later on he will thats what i did in life i didt listen to my mom she told me to read more books but then one day a reading test at school failed now i am begining to read if you understand what i mean
2006-09-12 19:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by hockey pro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you spank?
I tell my 5 year old if he's not gonna listen he can go to his room until he's ready to do what I say. He's allowed to tell me why he doesn't think what I'm saying is not important so sometimes he gets out of trouble because he makes a good point.
YOu always have to allow them to make an argument. I think it makes them more independent. Be open minded.
2006-09-12 10:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by hotrod luvin princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sincerly believe that my kids don't listen to me because sometimes they don't feel listened to. So I try to take time out of my day and listen to them, we tend to get along beter then. Also, I have created a point system, and for listening and doing certain things they get these points, then on "pay day" they can trade these points for rewards, I would be happy to share it with you if you would like.
2006-09-12 07:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by cyunos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, make sure that he can hear you. Face him directly and go to his level when giving directions. Make sure your voice is non-threatening and not loud. Have him repeat the directions if you are in doubt. For instance, Please make your bed now. I also only give one direction at a time. If he still isn't listening, give Him the consequences. Please make your bed or no video/TV (or whatever his favourite thing to do is) until it is done. And STICK TO IT. Good Luck
2006-09-12 06:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by Kim S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kim S. has the perfect answer. Make the child look you in the eye and repeat your request once and ask "Do you understand?"..this works for me almost all the time.
2006-09-13 12:04:52 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like a monkey. Reward with candy.
2006-09-12 06:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋